Been numerous threads on this Sparky.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/283990.html
Personally I don't reply to messages if the person makes it quite clear in the email by what they say that they haven't read my profile.
Otherwise I will reply, even if it's a thanks but no thanks.
there is no rules about replying to anyone. Also 'sensible' is subjective. If I deem it to be sensible others may see it as totally annoying.
If I send out messages and they don't get replied to then I would take it we wouldn't be compatible sexually either. Job done time saved.
I don't have an ad and my profile makes it fairly clear that I'm not actively looking however I still get mail saying nice ad and when do I want to meet. I reply to those that are just saying hello but not to those who obviously can't be bothered to alter their multi-mailshot to a personal message.
In my alter-ego as a couple, we recently placed an ad, being quite specific about what was required, location, dates, what we wanted in reply. Of all the mail we got, only one sent what we asked for and fitted the rquirements of the ad. Should we reply to all the others that either couldn't read or just thought what the hell, I'm not what they're looking for but I'll reply anyway?
H.x
A good proportion of the people who advertise will be "free" members who have no way of replying to your mail. There is no easy way to determine whether the person you are mailing has premium membership or not, so its easiest to assume that you will NOT get a reply unless the person has stated in advert or profile that they WILL reply. There are many other factors too, but they have all been covered in other threads.
Im a free member.... i can reply to messages.
how about adding an auto reply button that sends a polite sorry but no thanks message - no excuse not to reply then - especially if it acted like a delete button and deleted the message too. Two clicks one to open the message, one to delete and reply... Thats all we/they do now anyway. Lol
ok, the profile to me is to confusing, and i think youve changed it since the start of this thread.
i dont often read profies and then send messages as profies are not ads. if i was to message someone i would check everything out first, the profile, the ads, the forum posts. the profie / add would have to be very clear on what someone liked, cuse i cant be arsed typing out messages if im not even sure if i am what they are looking for.
your profie says this ....
I do enjoy the social part of meeting people, but if you don't want that, it's fine, I can do that too.
but your forum posts say this ....
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Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 2:40 am
I'm not on here to make friends I'm on here for what the site was intended for), but if I happen to do so along the way, all the better.
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Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 11:04 am
Well I would consider the site to have been originally set up to allow people to broaden their sexual horizons, and to meet those of a like mind, not as a social networking site.
Forgive me if I'm wrong.
now i know you havent stated in your profie your here to be friends with anyone, but you like the social side, wouldnt that include being friendly?
i know what youve said in profie and then in forums i may be taking the wrong way, but thats my point, i dont have a clue from what you say what your looking for.
i probally havent made a lot of sense myself now.
xx fem xx
cos it's ALLLLLLLLLL about countdown! :giggle:
this topics a bit of an old friend but its good to air it evey now and then :-)
