My male non swinging mate was chatting to me the other night and asked me did i make noise while having sex and/or an orgasm...I laughed and asked him why, and apparently his wife doesnt show any reaction in bed, no heavy breathing, panting, very few moans and certainly nothing to rattle the bedstead. He says they have talked it through and she says "not everyone makes a noise"
Now, this really irks him, cos he is a sensitive guy and worries that maybe he is crap in bed and his wife isnt being honest with him when she says it was good. He feels cos she doesnt show any sign that shes enjoying herself that sex isnt as good as it could be, and wants desperately to put it right.
I wondered if she just didnt like letting herself go and was embarrassed to make a noise or to be possibly heard by others making a noise.
Theyve been married for years and have no kids, so its not as if they need to be quiet cos of kids,both late starters in having sex and have only been with each other....of course hes seen all the porn vids and sees everyone oooohhhing and aaaahhing and wonders if theres something wrong with either or both of them.
I said I'd ask around a few knowledgeable friends, and see what their opinions were. This is for both the guys and the girls....
Does it make a difference having someone whos responsive in bed.....do you mind if someone isnt, or do you prefer to know if all your effort isnt being wasted.
If you have shagged someone who lies like a cold fish....do you plough on regardless, try a different tactic to see if it changes or give it up as a bad job?
are you noisy, have you always been that way or has it developed as you have come out of your shell sexually, does it make a difference to your sex if you are noisy, does your partner like it if you are. (or vice versa)
Is all hope lost if they have been like this for so long and they are like this.....
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I do recall a lass who just said "I like it, I just do call out."
I like, feel more ready to let go if the other person has. I tend to...reflex the others attitude?
but it is true, everyone is different, but cold fish, may be that is more take pleasure out of the man's pleasure than really feeling it her self.
Travis
OH, you could offer to mark him? If he wanted you to test him?
I like, feel more ready to let go if the other person has. I tend to...reflex the others attitude?
but it is true, everyone is different, but cold fish, may be that is more take pleasure out of the man's pleasure than really feeling it her self.
Travis
OH, you could offer to mark him? If he wanted you to test him?
Sex God
Quote by Bonedigger
My male non swinging mate was chatting to me the other night and asked me did i make noise while having sex and/or an orgasm...I laughed and asked him why, and apparently his wife doesnt show any reaction in bed, no heavy breathing, panting, very few moans and certainly nothing to rattle the bedstead. He says they have talked it through and she says "not everyone makes a noise"
Now, this really irks him, cos he is a sensitive guy and worries that maybe he is crap in bed and his wife isnt being honest with him when she says it was good. He feels cos she doesnt show any sign that shes enjoying herself that sex isnt as good as it could be, and wants desperately to put it right.
I wondered if she just didnt like letting herself go and was embarrassed to make a noise or to be possibly heard by others making a noise.
Theyve been married for years and have no kids, so its not as if they need to be quiet cos of kids,both late starters in having sex and have only been with each other....of course hes seen all the porn vids and sees everyone oooohhhing and aaaahhing and wonders if theres something wrong with either or both of them.
I said I'd ask around a few knowledgeable friends, and see what their opinions were. This is for both the guys and the girls....
Does it make a difference having someone whos responsive in bed.....do you mind if someone isnt, or do you prefer to know if all your effort isnt being wasted. Id be mortified if I didnt get a response, Id think I was doing something wrong
If you have shagged someone who lies like a cold fish....do you plough on regardless, try a different tactic to see if it changes or give it up as a bad job? My Husband was unresponsive but then, neither of us had much of a clue. I 'ploughed' on for 5 years then gave it up as a bad job, thinking there had to be more to sex than that
are you noisy, hell yes! have you always been that way No or has it developed as you have come out of your shell sexually,it developed does it make a difference to your sex if you are noisy,if Im not, theres something not rightdoes your partner like it if you are. (or vice versa)
Is all hope lost if they have been like this for so long and they are like this.....Sounds like they have real problems but they can be sorted if they are willing to seek help
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I think it is about being able to totally let go and let your whole self enjoy. If I eat a yummy cake, I 'uummm and aahh'! I am generally vocal about all enjoyment from laughter to sex. I can't imagine not making sounds during sex...it seems to overcome me and I think that trying to shut up would be a difficult and unenjoyable thing.
I also know of a female who doesn't make any sound at all and she is uptight about many, many things in life, reserved and closed minded about sex. I imagine that it's about different personalities having different levels of confidence, letting go and enjoyment?
I had a male partner who started off by never ever making a sound. I had to talk to him as I went through that whole 'oh my god, I am not satisfying him' thoughts. When I mentioned it to him, he was relieved that I wanted him to let go, be free and do whatever came naturally..he soon loosedend up and let rip!
Part of me thinks that they are missing out by not just totally letting go?
I also know of a female who doesn't make any sound at all and she is uptight about many, many things in life, reserved and closed minded about sex. I imagine that it's about different personalities having different levels of confidence, letting go and enjoyment?
I had a male partner who started off by never ever making a sound. I had to talk to him as I went through that whole 'oh my god, I am not satisfying him' thoughts. When I mentioned it to him, he was relieved that I wanted him to let go, be free and do whatever came naturally..he soon loosedend up and let rip!
Part of me thinks that they are missing out by not just totally letting go?
I am generally noisy when having sex. So much so that my son announced the other night, in front of my friends and wor lass, that he hears me having sex at 2am all of the time!!!
I have become much more quiet since having my tonsils out earlier this year. Altho' there are moments when I do still lose control.
When having sex with someone it makes no difference to me what they do. Body language is useful. Seeing their skin tone change when they become aroused. Listening to their breathing.... smelling their skin become more musky. Noise can never be the only thing anyone relies on.
I certainly don't think of someone who has no noise as being a 'cold fish' it is just the way they play.
I have become much more quiet since having my tonsils out earlier this year. Altho' there are moments when I do still lose control.
When having sex with someone it makes no difference to me what they do. Body language is useful. Seeing their skin tone change when they become aroused. Listening to their breathing.... smelling their skin become more musky. Noise can never be the only thing anyone relies on.
I certainly don't think of someone who has no noise as being a 'cold fish' it is just the way they play.
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Quote by Bonedigger
are you noisy, have you always been that way or has it developed as you have come out of your shell sexually
Sorry to chop your post up Bonedigger but this bit applies to me.
I was always silent until fairly recently. It didn't mean I wasn't enjoying it (although not as much as I now know I can
) I just wasn't confident enough to 'let go'NOW is a completely different story
I think *Him* would worry now if I wasn't noisy - I seem to get louder and louder as time goes on. Of course it helps that we now live in a double glazed detached house and I know there is no chance of anyone hearing us ..... :lol: *Her*
Quote by splendid_
I am generally noisy when having sex. So much so that my son announced the other night, in front of my friends and wor lass, that he hears me having sex at 2am all of the time!!!
I have become much more quiet since having my tonsils out earlier this year. Altho' there are moments when I do still lose control.
When having sex with someone it makes no difference to me what they do. Body language is useful. Seeing their skin tone change when they become aroused. Listening to their breathing.... smelling their skin become more musky. Noise can never be the only thing anyone relies on.
I certainly don't think of someone who has no noise as being a 'cold fish' it is just the way they play.
How did I know that you was going to post on this thread Splendid?
:lol: :lol: Quote by kentswingers777
I am generally noisy when having sex. So much so that my son announced the other night, in front of my friends and wor lass, that he hears me having sex at 2am all of the time!!!
I have become much more quiet since having my tonsils out earlier this year. Altho' there are moments when I do still lose control.
When having sex with someone it makes no difference to me what they do. Body language is useful. Seeing their skin tone change when they become aroused. Listening to their breathing.... smelling their skin become more musky. Noise can never be the only thing anyone relies on.
I certainly don't think of someone who has no noise as being a 'cold fish' it is just the way they play.
How did I know that you was going to post on this thread Splendid?
:lol: :lol:Just for the record Kenty has NO experience of my orgasms. :lol:
I guess everyone is different but I find vocal really adds pleasure.
But just to add, on another "note," a seriously squeaky bed can totally throw me out of any thought of pounding (it can bring a scene from the movie Delicatessent into mind at the most critical moment - and should I start to laugh all would be lost !!)
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But just to add, on another "note," a seriously squeaky bed can totally throw me out of any thought of pounding (it can bring a scene from the movie Delicatessent into mind at the most critical moment - and should I start to laugh all would be lost !!)
ops: I can be rather vocal in the right company
I have tried to have quiet sex when I was still with Dai as son was in the next room and it kinda spoiled things for me a little as I was concentrating more on not making sex noises than what he was doing at the time
I like my partner to let me know I'm doing things that turns them on but it doesn;t have to be a banging the walls kinda response :giggle:
I have tried to have quiet sex when I was still with Dai as son was in the next room and it kinda spoiled things for me a little as I was concentrating more on not making sex noises than what he was doing at the time
I like my partner to let me know I'm doing things that turns them on but it doesn;t have to be a banging the walls kinda response :giggle:
(this is my experience as a male!)
Are they making love or fucking? (I'm sure many people don't see a difference, maybe I can be soppy sometimes!)
An ex of mine was always much less vocal when making love, but, when she orgasmed I reaaaaally felt her contract tight around me, and when we finished I would stay inside and I could just feel her constantly contracting around me, it was amazing! :twisted: But it was far less vocal than just bending her over and ravishing her where she'd be really vocal! Both ways I could tell she was really enjoying herself, but it was obivous in different ways.
Are they making love or fucking? (I'm sure many people don't see a difference, maybe I can be soppy sometimes!
)An ex of mine was always much less vocal when making love, but, when she orgasmed I reaaaaally felt her contract tight around me, and when we finished I would stay inside and I could just feel her constantly contracting around me, it was amazing! :twisted: But it was far less vocal than just bending her over and ravishing her where she'd be really vocal! Both ways I could tell she was really enjoying herself, but it was obivous in different ways.
Sex God
Quote by Sixfootsix
(this is my experience as a male!)
Are they making love or fucking? (I'm sure many people don't see a difference, maybe I can be soppy sometimes!
An ex of mine was always much less vocal when making love, but, when she orgasmed I reaaaaally felt her contract tight around me, and when we finished I would stay inside and I could just feel her constantly contracting around me, it was amazing! :twisted: But it was far less vocal than just bending her over and ravishing her where she'd be really vocal! Both ways I could tell she was really enjoying herself, but it was obivous in different ways.
A good point well made!
I think there's a time for quiet, intense, staring deeply into a person eyes and then also plenty of time for an 'oh f*ck yes' shouty type of sesh!
'WILL YOU KEEP IT DOWN IN THERE' :x Quote by couplefunuk
are you noisy, have you always been that way or has it developed as you have come out of your shell sexually
Sorry to chop your post up Bonedigger but this bit applies to me.
I was always silent until fairly recently. It didn't mean I wasn't enjoying it (although not as much as I now know I can
) I just wasn't confident enough to 'let go'NOW is a completely different story
I think *Him* would worry now if I wasn't noisy - I seem to get louder and louder as time goes on. Of course it helps that we now live in a double glazed detached house and I know there is no chance of anyone hearing us ..... :lol: *Her*
yes years ago I used to be pretty quiet but as the years have gone on I have got noisier
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Sex God
Quote by niceandgentle
Us fellas can be noisy too!
Sex God
Quote by Bonedigger
good, i like a guy to be noisy.....gives me more...ooommph LOLOLOL
just gives me something to buzz off if ya know what i mean??
Yes :thumbup:
I like a mutually noisy session.
Sexpert
mmmmm…
As someone said… “I think it is about being able to totally let go and let your whole self enjoy.” …. But I still make noises mmmm aaahhhh sorta noises when I am ill or in pain….. many times I have had people, whilst we have been chatting on the phone asking me what exactly I am up to…..???? Because I was making such strange noises down the phone….. and it was only because me back was aching or I had cramp or something……..
I like noise……it’s a real good way to be able to express yourself….
Not sure my neighbour does tho…….
I have a friend…(no names…)…..
and well… the first time I gave him oral (to completion) he about screamed the whole street down……. At one point I was seriously thinking… “god, is he ok? Is he in pain or something?” But then I noticed he kept laughing on and off too… so then I knew he was ok…. And then started wondering why he was laughing…?????? MEN!!! Lol….. He was fine….. but that did surprise me!!!!
As someone said… “I think it is about being able to totally let go and let your whole self enjoy.” …. But I still make noises mmmm aaahhhh sorta noises when I am ill or in pain….. many times I have had people, whilst we have been chatting on the phone asking me what exactly I am up to…..???? Because I was making such strange noises down the phone….. and it was only because me back was aching or I had cramp or something……..
I like noise……it’s a real good way to be able to express yourself….
Not sure my neighbour does tho…….
I have a friend…(no names…)…..
and well… the first time I gave him oral (to completion) he about screamed the whole street down……. At one point I was seriously thinking… “god, is he ok? Is he in pain or something?” But then I noticed he kept laughing on and off too… so then I knew he was ok…. And then started wondering why he was laughing…?????? MEN!!! Lol….. He was fine….. but that did surprise me!!!! Sexpert
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My neighbours thought it was foxes mating:? :?
Cool excuse.... fanks hun... I can use that one...lol
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Sex God
Well, I wont say that we are noisy, but our neighbour once asked if we could move the bed away from the wall, or put an pillow behind the headboard
Sex God
Quote by vodka_babe22uk
loo roll works just aswell behind a headboard
:shock: I hadnt thought of that! Good as place as any to store the spare bog rolls
