Non swinging advice needed

6 Jun 2008

This has nothing wahtsoever to do with swinging or even sex ( I hear ya saying 'that's a first for you' smackbottom

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I just heard about a young lad who lives in my area and it reduced me to tears :cry: He's 24 and has terminal cancer. Prognosis is not good and chances are he won't see this Christmas. At his young age, he's not done much with his life, never even had a decent holiday.
Anyroadup, it touched me so much that I feel I want to do something to help as in try to raise enough to send him and his parents on a little trip somewhere. Doesn;t have to be far, even a caravan in the country or a couple of days at a theme park or something.
Now, I want to ask if anyone else has done something similar and how do I go about it? I'm good at fundraising, done it for a few years now but want ideas. I'm not sure how long he's got or even if he'd be allowed to travel far but I really want to do something to give him a day or two to remember.
Cheers guys and gals biggrin

6 Jun 2008

Hi Sassy
Your kindness and thoughtfulness make you one of those special people.
As the mother of a child who was terminally ill, the thoughtfulness of others was amazing and heartwarming before, during and after he died.
I take my hat off to you and wish you all the best in your fundraising.

6 Jun 2008

If you haven't already done it may I suggest that you contact either him or his family before doing anything. It may be that they don't want anything like that being done or attention drawn to his plight. This sort of thing isn't uncommon.
The other thing to consider is why you want to do this, is it a genuine desire to help them out or a way to salve your conscience? neither is wrong, but sometimes they are mutually exclusive.
I genuinely wish you luck in your task, it should be simultaneously uplifting and sorrowful.

6 Jun 2008

Should the family as peanut suggests like the idea how about getting one or two local businesses involved..
Br great publicity for them for not a lot of outlay really....

6 Jun 2008

Quote by Peanut
If you haven't already done it may I suggest that you contact either him or his family before doing anything. It may be that they don't want anything like that being done or attention drawn to his plight. This sort of thing isn't uncommon.
The other thing to consider is why you want to do this, is it a genuine desire to help them out or a way to salve your conscience? neither is wrong, but sometimes they are mutually exclusive.
I genuinely wish you luck in your task, it should be simultaneously uplifting and sorrowful.

Thanks for that peanut. I wouldn't do anything without consulting the family first, just trying to get ideas for now.
As for why I'm doing it, it's certainly nothing to do with salving conscience. I nurse terminal cancer patients every day in my job and have watched people die through this horrible disease more often than I care to remember, including my own father. This young lad however hasn't had the chance to live so if I can find a way to do something to put a smile on his face then with the family's permission and blessing, I will.
The amount of publicity to go for is again down to the family. The more publicity, the better the results. At the end of the day, it's for this young lad to enjoy. If it goes ahead, I will stay in the background. I'm not looking for praise or recognition for doing it, just want to help.

6 Jun 2008

Quote by Mistress_39
Hi Sassy
Your kindness and thoughtfulness make you one of those special people.
As the mother of a child who was terminally ill, the thoughtfulness of others was amazing and heartwarming before, during and after he died.
I take my hat off to you and wish you all the best in your fundraising.

Thanks babe kiss

6 Jun 2008

have nothing really helpful to add but good luck with the fundraising you beautiful person kiss

6 Jun 2008

hope the fundraising goes well xxx

6 Jun 2008

Quote by Peanut
The other thing to consider is why you want to do this, is it a genuine desire to help them out or a way to salve your conscience? neither is wrong, but sometimes they are mutually exclusive.

Not sure I get you here, Peanut confused

6 Jun 2008

Good luck Sassy x

6 Jun 2008

Sass, as far as the fundraising goes I'll put my thinking cap on.
However, is there anything along the lines of "make a wish" in your area?
Also, if the family are ok with it- I would contact some of the uk holiday parks & see if they would be prepared to donate accomodation.
Good luck. kiss

6 Jun 2008

Quote by Sassy-Seren
This has nothing wahtsoever to do with swinging or even sex ( I hear ya saying 'that's a first for you' )
I just heard about a young lad who lives in my area and it reduced me to tears :cry: He's 24 and has terminal cancer. Prognosis is not good and chances are he won't see this Christmas. At his young age, he's not done much with his life, never even had a decent holiday.
Anyroadup, it touched me so much that I feel I want to do something to help as in try to raise enough to send him and his parents on a little trip somewhere. Doesn;t have to be far, even a caravan in the country or a couple of days at a theme park or something.
Now, I want to ask if anyone else has done something similar and how do I go about it? I'm good at fundraising, done it for a few years now but want ideas. I'm not sure how long he's got or even if he'd be allowed to travel far but I really want to do something to give him a day or two to remember.
Cheers guys and gals

Sassy I dont know how to work this out but I will start the ball rolling with a fiver. Let me know how to transfer the money to you in a pm to us. I will await your reply. x

6 Jun 2008

Quote by kentswingers777
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Sassy I dont know how to work this out but I will start the ball rolling with a fiver. Let me know how to transfer the money to you in a pm to us. I will await your reply. x

that is very sweet of you, thanks so much kiss

I've got to dig into this a bit first, have a chat with the family and see what I can do, if anything.
I'll let you know
Thanks again
kiss

6 Jun 2008

iv got no idea for what you can do but id like to give a little bit of money to so when you have it sorted please pm me
danne xx

6 Jun 2008

When my brother was near the end of his fight with terminal cancer, I had my long hair shaved off, and local business's sponsored me and I got over £400 - this might be a bit drastic.. but it worked for me.
If you can pm me, am happy to send a cheque to help... my sister and her daughter are doing the race for life in his memory tomorrow too.
Best of luck honey xx
kiss

6 Jun 2008

You are all so generous.....I'm really touched, thank you kiss

6 Jun 2008

Best of luck with the fund raising Sassy but we did make a decision not to allow fund raising threads in here as they start of innocent enough and before you know it we have all sorts of events being advertised, some of which may or not be going to a legitimate charity, so I'm going to have to lock this thread.