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Need a bit of advice...
I love my boyfriend to bits, but the sex has become a lot less frequent of late... when we started going out, it was five times a day AND a trip to a club, now it's once every 3-4 days and only one shot...and we haven't been to the club for ages. I'm getting frustrated... don't want to upset him as he has a lot on his plate, but I do need more than I'm currently getting. Thoughts anyone?
P rolleyes
Get him back down the club!
Show him your post dunno
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Get him back down the club!

Now there's a thought... lol
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Show him your post dunno

Ah, he doesn't understand the technology... hence the relative secrecy! But thanks...
my first thought was how far is it from southampton to gloucestershire wink
seriously though i would say sit him down & try to talk to him about it,it could be something on his mind or a little problem he is going through! you know how us blokes dont like talking about our probs till pushed into it confused
good luck & hope you get back into the swing of things soon smile
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Need a bit of advice...
I love my boyfriend to bits, but the sex has become a lot less frequent of late... when we started going out, it was five times a day AND a trip to a club, now it's once every 3-4 days and only one shot...and we haven't been to the club for ages. I'm getting frustrated... don't want to upset him as he has a lot on his plate, but I do need more than I'm currently getting. Thoughts anyone?
P rolleyes

Hi Possum
Long time no see, my advise is to sit down and chat with him, and tell him how you feel.
Or take him back down the club. lol
Regards
mikey55 biggrin
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my first thought was how far is it from southampton to gloucestershire wink
seriously though i would say sit him down & try to talk to him about it,it could be something on his mind or a little problem he is going through! you know how us blokes dont like talking about our probs till pushed into it confused
good luck & hope you get back into the swing of things soon smile

I know how far it is to Southampton from here as I was there for New Year!! It's up the M3/M4... but I shouldn't be flirting, cos that would be naughty of me... lol
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my first thought was how far is it from southampton to gloucestershire wink
seriously though i would say sit him down & try to talk to him about it,it could be something on his mind or a little problem he is going through! you know how us blokes dont like talking about our probs till pushed into it confused
good luck & hope you get back into the swing of things soon smile

I know how far it is to Southampton from here as I was there for New Year!! It's up the M3/M4... but I shouldn't be flirting, cos that would be naughty of me... lol
you were here & never popped in to say happy birthday sad
nothing wrong with flirting it what keeps us alive with a smile on ore faces biggrin
Sorry to hear about your troubles....
We love your avatar lol
But are you standing on your head :shock: :shock: :shock: ????
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Sorry to hear about your troubles....
We love your avatar lol
But are you standing on your head :shock: :shock: :shock: ????
wink

Noooo... I held the camera over my head, pointed away from me... and it came out like that... thought it was kinda different! I could flip it in Photoshop, I suppose?
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Sorry to hear about your troubles....
We love your avatar lol
But are you standing on your head :shock: :shock: :shock: ????
wink

Noooo... I held the camera over my head, pointed away from me... and it came out like that... thought it was kinda different! I could flip it in Photoshop, I suppose?
no don't flip it looks good to me, it gives you the bride of Dracula look.
Just tell him what you have told us, if he is approachable about this sensitive subject. If not make him a great big gorgeous meal, dress sexily and then he will be like putty lol
btw love the avatar, keep it as it is. Its certainly different :lol:
you say he has a lot on his plate?
maybe thats whats effecting his sex drive
maybe if you help him sort out whatever this thing on his plate is his sex drive may come back dunno
From a bloke's point of view, you can't be too careful about a subject like this. After all, you girls don't like it when we make less than flattering comments about your waistlines... nuff said.
On the other hand, don't go do far round the block to avoid offence, that he hasn't a clue what you're really talking about.
So don't bother with a big meal beforehand then say, 'we've got to talk', otherwise he'll think you're dumping him.
Just sit him down, no distractions, and say you're not happy, why you're not happy, and why you think the root reason is. Then tell him you love him, and want to stay with him. This is important to make him emotionally secure.
One last thing. If he hints the problem might be yours, don't hit the roof and assume he's trying to start a fight. he may even have a point, so keep an open mind.
Good luck!
No offence ! but maybe we are being a bit hard on the poor chap ! I don't know about you lot but sex a few times a week as decribed seems normal enough ! There are other things in life like work, bills to pay etc etc ! Its not as if you have no physical relationship at all now is it !
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Sorry to hear about your troubles....
We love your avatar lol
But are you standing on your head :shock: :shock: :shock: ????
wink

Noooo... I held the camera over my head, pointed away from me... and it came out like that... thought it was kinda different! I could flip it in Photoshop, I suppose?
Looks like you have very droopy boobs that are poking out from undeneath your bodice. :wink:
Sorry for thre cheeky post.
In a more serious mood, I find that when other things in my life are going a little off course, work, family, cash,tiredness, the one thing that sufferes quickly is my sex drive. redface
Thanks for the comments about my tits Husky... they're NOT droopy, thank you!
Mission accomplished anyway... it was Mr Possum's birthday this week, so I turned up at his front door wearing basque and sussies under a long black coat with high heels. Proceeded to get a fantastic rogering and took some excellent photos...then made him my speciality lasagne followed by creme brulee with a candle.
The look of complete contentment on his face at the end of the evening said it all - and we went to Chams last night. He's back - and he says that he isn't even slightly going off me... infact he loves me more than ever. So, hurrah! Thanks for all your support xx
Creme brulee with a candle in the top - in the style of a birthday cake!! :laughabove: