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OK - so even I get pissed off with it sometimes!

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And then there is the danger that we are supposed to be the enlightened ones of the social community, the ones who can see outside of the social "norms" that so many want to place on us. And then what do we do? We go and create a stereotype of the sort of person/advertiser/poster "we*" want here.

Excellent point. The diversity on here is what makes the site special. The problem is when the Cafe get flooded with these guys moaning about why they never get a response, then go on to say how most people aren't guenuine etc. Easy to answer once, but tiresome when it's every other thread. Also for new lurkers seeing it, they think it's the norm for these posts as there are loads of em, and then the cycle grows.
Is there a sticky or help page on advising these people on the better ways to do a post? That way, if they moan about it in the Cafe they can just be pointed to that.
Ignoring the duff posts would clog up the Forum, fair enough, it's their Froum, but then the people moaning about how we don't want to ride their 'long hard love-rocket!' would clog up the Cafe.
Does that make any sense?? Makes perfect sense to me at this early hour confused
Damn! Late for school run now redface
banghead
OK, I'm going to try and ignore bad posts from now on.... but I might break this rule occassionally, as sometimes I can't resist :twisted: . Mind you, I'm going to choose to ignore this one I've just picked up by email:
"Im D***** from M*********,fit,athletic and bi.......very genuine and non pushy .....sorry about short message but Im in a rush....so let me know"
If he's so much in a rush not to send a decent message, why should I even bother to sit and write a "thanks but no thanks" reply?
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Some people are just beyond help. Did he include a picture of his dick too?
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I really must understand the sublty of your humour more... suspect your cheek has a tongue space
No humour this time Gman. You have to bear in mind that the person who sent that e-mail knew nothing about us, other than from the pictures on our personal page. It was the first contact we had with him.
The details of the e-mail made it clear to me that this was not someone we would swing with. It also showed him to be someone who lacked experience, but displayed a thoughtful and respectful attitude. His intention in sending the e-mail was to find out more about what we want, and to help us, he tried to give us the information he thought we would be after.
I put the same effort into my response to him, nothings spectacular, just, "you are not what we are looking for, this is why, and BTW can I say your e-mail made you sound a really nice bloke."
and the reply I got was:
Well thanks for your reply - even if it wasn't exactly the answer I was after!! Never mind though, I also have a nightmare that a could end up swinging with future parents-in-law!! Your e-mail has to be the most thoughtful and considerate out of all those who say no!!
Thanks again for your reply and now i've put an ad up - i guess I'll see you round!!

I do not look for fireworks from the e-mails I receive, just an ordinary conversation that happens to be about sex.
And - don't worry, if he turns up on the site, I will not embarass the poor bloke by pointing at him! wink
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Kat
Roger - funnily enough, no... A face pic and a body pic from behind. At least he'd listened to something, as my ad says to include an unclothed body pic.
you tell em blue people do listen rolleyes