I went out this evening to meet up with an old friend that I had not seen since I was 20, some 28 years ago. Out of all the things I wanted to tell her about this last year was the formost in my mind, but of course I couldnt say anything.
Does anyone out there tell their friends everything? is anyone open? or are we the last lot to be still found in the closet?
I have always been totally honest and open, but I have learnt very recently be aware who you really trust.
It is teaching me to let very few people into your heart and soul, that way you wont get hurt.
But a lot of people will judge you, such a shame really.
Sorry 3rd, cant make out what you are saying....you wanted to tell her about your swinging, is that what you meant?
I have learnt that the only person I can trust completely is Mike, my hubby.
I have shared confidences with others, been let down, so now I just keep my self to my self!
I would not like others to judge me on my swinging activties, so have never shared them with vanilla friends.
It is something I like to talk about though, thats why these sites are good, you can find the odd one or two, and talk about your life style without fear of being found out.
To trust others, you have to be able to be trusted as well!
Lucys post.
Third if it was to tell them that you swing.
Yes two of my friends away from here do know and also my mum.
But I knew they would not judge me or hubby for it.
I consider myself very lucky. My best friend of 20+ years is on here too! I could blame her for getting me involved!! lol. There is nothing that I can't tell her about and visa versa.
At my age, it tends to be unusual to still have friends that you went to school move around so much. I have returned to the town of my birth and tend to bump into people in tesco!
I could probably tell some of my other friends but don't feel the need as I can share my experiences with my very best friend.
Many people come in and out of our lives, some briefly and some stay for ever. True friendship, I believe to be very rare these days. My opinion only.
Wench xx
i told my best friend and our friendship wasnt the same for months so i certainly wouldnt tell anyone else
I'm not shy about the fact that I like sex or the fact that I am a member of this site.
However my sexual proclivities rarely come up in conversation with my wider circle of friends. I'm as likely to discuss my favourite wanking techniques with friends and colleagues as I am to discuss how I find people to explore my sexuality with. Its just not relevant.