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Wishmaster
How easy it is for an "ex editor" to back peddle going down hill into the shit.
phredd.
Quote by Fred aka Medic 1
Wishmaster
How easy it is for an "ex editor" to back peddle going down hill into the shit.
phredd.

I haven't back peddled at all. I stand by every word I have said.
Do you want to continue this in PM? This is a Rant thread, I won't get into personal attack with you.
Quote by Wishmaster
Wishmaster
How easy it is for an "ex editor" to back peddle going down hill into the shit.
phredd.

I haven't back peddled at all. I stand by every word I have said.
Do you want to continue this in PM? This is a Rant thread, I won't get into personal attack with you.

I have read enough of this Rant thread to think you have.
That is my opinion and I am entitled to hold that opinion.
Enough said as I do not need to continue to defend my opinion in PM.
phredd
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Having been in a relationship in the past, i must stress not Paul, where i was hit by my partner to the point i ended up in hospital on more than one ocasion i feel i must say in defence of all these women......
walking out is not easy, you are looking at it from a mans point of view not a womans who is scared of this person, if they can beat you into hospital while you are together what will they do to you if you leave and they find you? thats the thought that go thro your head and please do not insult these women and say go to the police cause believe me its a joke they DO NOT want to know.

Ok Ali, fair comment, I can only look at it from a man's perspective as that's what I am, but what's the answer: stay until he kills you?? Surely there must be somewhere or someone that these women can turn to?
Only today I read about a young mother of two who married into a family from hell and eight members of that family systematically beat her to death over a period of months. They eventually killed her and dumped her body. She was just 20 years old.

I think most women will leave their partner in the end if he abuses her, the women you spoke about in your postings obviously did or they wouldn't be meeting you saying what did happen to them, the thing is it takes time to build up the courage and actually find somewhere to stay, it really is not as easy as running out in the middle of a beating, where do you go for a start? i went to the police stated and was told to go home like a good girl as they don't waste time on domestics as the women only end up going back anyway, i was 18 years old and walked the street all night cause i was to scared to go back, but go back i did in the end cause i had nowhere else to go so the beatings carried on, and i stayed with him for 4 years untill i decided enough was enough and i just got a bus ticket and left with only the clothes on my back, didn't have a clue where i was going, its not a easy thing to do and women who stay with such men do not always do it cause they are weak, its more offen than not fear and lack of help, yeah the helps there....in theary....but wait till you need it and still see if it can be found!
Quote by Fred aka Medic 1
Wishmaster
How easy it is for an "ex editor" to back peddle going down hill into the shit.
phredd.

I haven't back peddled at all. I stand by every word I have said.
I won't get into personal attack with you.

I have read enough of this Rant thread to think you have.
That is my opinion and I am entitled to hold that opinion.
Enough said as I do not need to continue to defend my opinion in PM.
phredd
Fred I'm sorry but I can't see anywhere that Wishmaster has insulted you or anyone else dunno
Like everyone else on this thread, he has stated *his views & opinions* . . .
So have a lot of other people, but strangely, because he does not hold the same opinions, he is accused of being *misguided* :confused:
People may take offence at what his opinions are, but as far as I have read, they are not directed at anyone in particular.
I don't understand at all, so perhaps someone could enlighten me as to how one person is necessarily *misguided* if he thinks differently to another person?
Surely we are ALL entitled to OUR OWN opinions, regardless of what anyone else thinks of them, as you have stated yourself above about your entitlement to yours?
T-J
Quote by Wishmaster
why do they stay with abusive men?...... Surely anyone would leave at the first sign of trouble... wouldn't they?

No.
I say again, please do not insult me further by spouting shit that is hurtful and harmful to many people on this board and beyond it.
Quote by Wishmaster
I didn't complain.. I'm having a giggle..... I find it hilarious that my views are dismissed as niave or stupid or whatever.... simply because they don't coincide with other people's views.

You're having a giggle :shock: .... So, you're trolling the board then? Having a "giggle" using domestic violence and as your subject is not funny. It is sick.
Quote by RedHot
because he does not hold the same opinions, he is accused of being *misguided* :confused:

I called WIshy's views on domestic violence misguided because over 30 years of psychological research proves him wrong, as do the testimonies of many domestic violence victims (both female and male).
I do wish people would get their facts right before they have opinions rolleyes
Quote by RedHot
Fred I'm sorry but I can't see anywhere that Wishmaster has insulted you or anyone else dunno I did not say he had insulted me or anyone else
Like everyone else on this thread, he has stated *his views & opinions* . . .and I too have my opinions
So have a lot of other people, but strangely, because he does not hold the same opinions, he is accused of being *misguided* :confused:
People may take offence at what his opinions are, but as far as I have read, they are not directed at anyone in particular.
I don't understand at all, so perhaps someone could enlighten me as to how one person is necessarily *misguided* if he thinks differently to another person?
Surely we are ALL entitled to OUR OWN opinions, regardless of what anyone else thinks of them, as you have stated yourself above about your entitlement to yours? correct
T-J

Phredd
Quote by RedHot
I don't understand at all, so perhaps someone could enlighten me as to how one person is necessarily *misguided* if he thinks differently to another person?
Surely we are ALL entitled to OUR OWN opinions, regardless of what anyone else thinks of them, as you have stated yourself above about your entitlement to yours?
T-J

Just to pick up on your last two paragrapsh TJ, I personally feel (and I'm only speaking for myself here obviously) that rather than saying that Wishmaster is misguided, I'd be more inclined to say that his reasoning behind his opinions is only a part of the story. I'm not for a minute saying that he should change his mind about whether he thinks Pride marches should happen, but he says on the one hand that they should keep their sex lives to themselves, and on the other that 200 years ago gays would have been stoned to death simply for being gay. If not for Pride marches, gay rights campaigns and the like, surely the same thing would still be happening today?
Yes, we ARE all entitled to our opinions, but IMHO if you have an opinion as strong as Wishmasters against something, and you post those views on an open forum in such hostile language, you should expect that people with opposing views will want to put their opinions across, and also add further information into the debate. The way I see it at the moment, this is what's happening.
(Please note that I am only talking about the original point though, ie Pride marches.)
Completely agree with blue - when fact meets opinion, fact wins.
e.g.
If the sky is blue, and your opinion is that its green, then you are simply wrong - its not a contrasting opinion; its wrong.
And the phrase "misguided opinion" basically means "wrong" as in "wrong but not intendedly".
Still wrong though.
Theres freedom of speech, and then theres just simply being wrong about something!
Oi Wishy... you and me are very good mates.. and I would hate to fall out with you. But I haven't agreed with a single thing you have said...
Your views are fucking awful. You have, in my opinion started a rant that you can't justify without bringing in a whole load of other weird shit to obscure your original point. ( china.. wtf??)
Get a fucking grip. You've been offensive. You're original post was.. and you have dug a hole you can't get out of. Don't even try and say it is freedom of speech because that is bollocks. You may believe what you are saying but it has only been commented on so much because you are so utterly wrong. Say it, yes. But listen to those of us who know wtf we are going on about...and not out to have a giggle and then make a stupid post even fucking worse by compounding your original crap post.
I am glad i told you that you were wrong so early on in this thread, and i thought about phoning you today to ask if you were actually serious about what you wrote originally. And it appears you are. And you are still defending the fucking indefensible. You promoted a bigoted view-point. An intolerant viewpoint. A view-point that is more akin to the Daily Mail than from someonewho mixes socially, is friends with and is actually part of a community that prides itself on its openness and respect for sexuality and gender.
You keep saying things will never be equal.... so where do you think it is right to say that anyone gay or transgendered should shut the fuck up? Unless you are actually saying get back in the fucking closet..... and partaking of that inequality with some sort of glee?
Last thing Wishy. My first entry here started with you may be seen as promoting homophobia.. (or some such) ... and I know you aren't homophobic . From what I have read... unless I have mis-read it very badly.. you haven't only promoted homophobia but you have been such a numpty to miss the point so massively , it is unreal.
Gay Pride is about trying to catch up with equality......not usurp it. And every step on each parade just makes this society that little more tolerant.... until maybe, one day, society may not even make that distinction...
And before you reply wishmaster....
I have been thinking.... YOU are wrong on so many levels it is beyond belief. Your argument is bollocks. Your opinion is bollocks and I don't give a rats arse about any kind of justification you may come out with.
That's how stupidly wrong you are.
( why didn't i write that first time?? dunno )
Quote by Happy Cats
I think they should all be shot. I hate them!
They're loud and serve no purpose, get rid of em all, each and everyone, string em up!
Sod their rights!
I bloody hate seagulls!

There are times Happy Cats... you really, really cheer me up...!!!
Thank you.
CheekyChimp..... cool
I've just started to read through this tonight and frankly am appalled at some of the comments you've made. Given that this is a swingers site, setup for people of all pursuasions, I'd have expected more. Alas this isn't the case.
I feel I have to respond to some of the misguided comments you've made:
You introduced the argument about the magazine that "outs" people who don't want to be outed and asked who gives them the right? I don't agree with the tactic, but the reason they do it is because there are a lot of hypocrits in senior positions (government, clergy, legal profession etc) who are gay but dish out shit treatment to other gay people. Two wrongs don't make a right but I have more sympathy with those who seek to do the outing than with those who are outed.
The fact that your sexuality is known by a few people here in no way detracts from the fact that you are making derogatory comments. You have clearly offended a number of people on here - the responses pay testimony to that.
You said that gay people are no longer beaten up......uhm, just what do you base this severely incorrect opinion on? This happens on a regular basis as has already been documented in a response.
You said gays should stop talking about it because "your sex life is your business". Uhm, am I missing something or isn't Swinging Heaven an avenue that encourages people to be more open about their sex lives? Where's the difference? If you don't like it, don't listen. No-one is forcing you to attend gay (or any other minority) celebrations or to talk to them.
Why do you think it has been necessary for the European and UK governments to introduce legislation to prevent discrimination? Do you think they thought "well there obviously isn't any but we'll change the law anyway"? You made the fundamentally flawed statement that gays (and other minorities) seem to want more rights than "normal" people....this is not the case. The minorities simply want equality. In fact I think it needs to go further than this.....what we all should want is the right to be different. Everyone has similarities and differences.
Pride celebrations (contrary to your views) are not about celebrating "taking it up the shitter". They are to do with a complete lifestyle....sex is a small part of the whole and isn't an integral part of the celebrations.
I don't judge anyone on what they do (in bed or elsewhere) and I respect their right to celebrate and do whatever they want providing it doesn't interfere with my life. I just wish everyone else was the same.
Just logged in and thought I would see what is going on in the steam room. :shock: :shock: :shock:
Do I need to go back and read all this or can I trust you all to be good?? confused :? :? :?
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Just logged in and thought I would see what is going on in the steam room. :shock: :shock: :shock:
Do I need to go back and read all this or can I trust you all to be good?? confused :? :? :?

It's world war 3 sarge!!!
It's an interesting read though - probably worth reading back for the sheer shock factor it gives!
Quote by Sgt Bilko
Just logged in and thought I would see what is going on in the steam room. :shock: :shock: :shock:
Do I need to go back and read all this or can I trust you all to be good?? confused :? :? :?

Dangerous business looking into the Steam Room Sarge. I gave up following this one about 5 pages back so I can't say fer sure but I think just reading the last page gives you a good synopsis. :?
Quote by Wishmaster
Now hold on a sec.... I'm displaying no 'us and them' attitude here.......... that's my point entirely........ it's THEM who creating this attitude by separating THEMselves from the rest of society....... I want them to be gay if that's what they want to be .. but integrate it into society and live like the rest of us........ and stop bleating on about it!

By holding a parade doesnt that in a way show that they are "normal" people and show that they arent a danger to everyday people!
If people think by living in the closet or keeping their sexuality quiet will in the end help integrate gay people and the ac ceptance of gay people into our society then I think they are wrong
By being in the public eye, in a parade for example, then the barriers would IMO be more likely to be broken down (hope you know what im trying to say) than children and adults growing up and living their daily lives with only the steriotypical "Gays" and "lesbian" lifestyle and behaviour for their referance!
By having a parade arent "they" being part of society? Rather than being this mysterious body of people?
Mr goodtimez
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/22524.html
The above is the most informative discussion we have ever read on the web. I hope it is not insensitive to bring it to attention. boy did it change my, indeed both of our, earlier beliefs.
That's what I love about you Postie, you don't give a flying hoot about friendships, if something needs saying you come out and say it. We're still mates, that won't change at all coz I value someone who calls me an asshole when they know me much much better than some of those who've criticised me on here without knowing me at all.
My posts have been a deliberate fly in the ointment, I intended to be controversial because what really pisses me off are people who take a viewpoint and slam dunk into oblivion ANYONE who dares to contradict them.
Bottom line?? We ain't equal and we never will be. It doesn't matter what cause you are fighting for, there will always be someone to shoot you down. The very nature of a 'fight' means at least two protagonists. Yep, I'll play devil's advocate if it means exposing some people for the mind numbingly boring band wagon chasers that they are but I'll also stand alongside someone who has put together a very reasoned argument and I'll support them.
I am the sum total of my experiences to date and I find the human psyche sadly failing. They mean well and in a perfect world I'm sure we would all live in harmony but that's not the case is it? Contradiction seems to be the one thing humans are consistent about. We fuck things up at every level. Been doing it for years. How many times must we hear the phrase "We must never allow this to happen again!" ... but it does!!!
I watched a programme on TV the other night about the 80's gender benders. They were so up and out there in the 80's, setting the world ablaze to highlight the plight of people that were perceived as different...... and what did they do on TV the other night? .... slammed each other as bitches and tarts (Marylyn and Boy Goerge ........ ffs....... what a comedy act they could have made) .. B/George: "I did it first, it sooooo pissed me off when Marylyn came out with HIS record!" .... I mean c'mon .... get a grip...... they can't even live with each other ffs..... and they expect the rest of society to embrace them ..... they're no different to any other cross section of society .... couples argue all the time..... people 'snipe' at each other all the time...... there isn't nothing SPECIAL about being Gay. Which was the point in my very first post.
There are dozens of people who are handicapped in one way or another in today's society but do you see them having Pride marches ffs..... no.... they get on with it, they deal with it...... and they progress..
I just don't want a person's sexuality to be something that has to be made a political issue of. Sleep with whoever you want to sleep with...... I don't give a toss...... but please, keep it to yourself.
Half the people in power are corrupt anyway..... lawyers, doctors, policemen et al..... and these people sit in judgement over the rest of us! I just see the world for what it really is, my rose coloured glasses were broken many years ago..... and I see hypocrisy in all it's ugly forms. I've seen someone be hauled up before the beak for kerb-crawling... then the judge that sentenced him was later caught for the same thing a few months later.
The Difference?
The first guy was fined and publicly humiliated and his wife left him (A mate of mine actually)
The Judge: case abandoned, pay off, retired from public life on health grounds.
Crap to equality, it don't exist!
Quote by Dave__Notts

Well, if people don't bother to even put in a location, they don't deserve to be found, and those that mis-spell --- well, let's just set Freckledbird on to them lol :lol: :lol: :lol:

:shock:
So if yuo mispel yo gat ficklebird set on yer. Lucky I cin spel rite then bolt
Dave_Notts
Just you bloody wait!
Quote by cheekychimp
I think they should all be shot. I hate them!
They're loud and serve no purpose, get rid of em all, each and everyone, string em up!
Sod their rights!
I bloody hate seagulls!

There are times Happy Cats... you really, really cheer me up...!!!
Thank you.
CheekyChimp..... cool
Oi I have rights you know :sparring:
Quote by Wishmaster

My posts have been a deliberate fly in the ointment, I intended to be controversial because what really pisses me off are people who take a viewpoint and slam dunk into oblivion ANYONE who dares to contradict them.
Bottom line?? We ain't equal and we never will be. It doesn't matter what cause you are fighting for, there will always be someone to shoot you down. The very nature of a 'fight' means at least two protagonists. Yep, I'll play devil's advocate if it means exposing some people for the mind numbingly boring band wagon chasers that they are but I'll also stand alongside someone who has put together a very reasoned argument and I'll support them.

Let's not forget Wishy that it was you that brought up this subject in the first place, and in such an insulting, patronising, and yes.... misguided...... way too. No-one jumped on the "band wagon", it just so happens that the majority of the board disagrees with you. So, WIshy, you carry on playing the naive devil's advocate on a subject that many of us have displayed much more knowledge, both academically and from lifelong experience. You try your best to "expose" as many "band wagon chasers" as you like. I suspect what will happen is that you will simply alienate yourself from a forum who's members simply won't put up with bigotted bullshit.
Anyways, Wishy.... admitting you are playing devil's advocate in this way displays all the thinking and behaviour of a troll.....
Trip trap trip trap trip trap.....................................
rolleyes :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll:
And the bigotry continues
Quote by bluexxx

My posts have been a deliberate fly in the ointment, I intended to be controversial because what really pisses me off are people who take a viewpoint and slam dunk into oblivion ANYONE who dares to contradict them.
Bottom line?? We ain't equal and we never will be. It doesn't matter what cause you are fighting for, there will always be someone to shoot you down. The very nature of a 'fight' means at least two protagonists. Yep, I'll play devil's advocate if it means exposing some people for the mind numbingly boring band wagon chasers that they are but I'll also stand alongside someone who has put together a very reasoned argument and I'll support them.

Let's not forget Wishy that it was you that brought up this subject in the first place, and in such an insulting, patronising, and yes.... misguided...... way too. No-one jumped on the "band wagon", it just so happens that the majority of the board disagrees with you. So, WIshy, you carry on playing the naive devil's advocate on a subject that many of us have displayed much more knowledge, both academically and from lifelong experience. You try your best to "expose" as many "band wagon chasers" as you like. I suspect what will happen is that you will simply alienate yourself from a forum who's members simply won't put up with bigotted bullshit.
Anyways, Wishy.... admitting you are playing devil's advocate in this way displays all the thinking and behaviour of a troll.....
Trip trap trip trap trip trap.....................................
rolleyes :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll:
GOAT! :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
So scared of goats... and geese... evil feckers!
Quote by Wishmaster

My posts have been a deliberate fly in the ointment, I intended to be controversial because what really pisses me off are people who take a viewpoint and slam dunk into oblivion ANYONE who dares to contradict them.

I've kind of lost the plot with this one Wishy mate. You're original post was about shutting the fook up, but you've started a heated debate purposely to discuss the issue dunno
I also understand some of what you're saying regarding the legal system and inequality, but even you must admit that if it wasn't for the minority of people who are willing to stand up and be counted, nothing would ever change - ffs I wouldn't even have the right to vote.
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And the bigotry continues

Jesus Christ!!!
And we invaded Iraq!!!
Iran have nuclear capabilities, appauling human rights record and radical murderous religious groups!
No oil though...
evil
Quote by seagull69
I think they should all be shot. I hate them!
They're loud and serve no purpose, get rid of em all, each and everyone, string em up!
Sod their rights!
I bloody hate seagulls!

There are times Happy Cats... you really, really cheer me up...!!!
Thank you.
CheekyChimp..... cool
Oi I have rights you know :sparring:
Hey it wasn't you that had me fish 'n' chips on the prom at Penzance was it? If it was you have no rights at all!! lol Especially as you stood on the roof just out the back and cackled about it all night as well.
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And the bigotry continues

Jesus Christ!!! ( 3rd prophet in Islam.....)
And we invaded Iraq!!! (yep.... we did, illegally...)
Iran have nuclear capabilities, (erm.... nope, that's what all the hoo-ha is about at the moment...and even that is about domestic nuclear power not nuclear weapons)
appauling human rights record( check it out.. not as bad as you think...not brilliant, but certainly not as bad as say Saudi Arabia, who are on our side)
and radical murderous religious groups! ( is George Bush and the religious, pro-death sentence Baptists working in Iran now? )
No oil though... ( erm... wrong... massive amount of oil, almost as much oil as Iraq, and better refineries )
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Quote by JudyTV

It's been assumed in this thread that I am bi myself - ok - now the subject has been raised I'll answer it, yes I am. Not many people know my sexuality because I choose not to advertise it - it's my business, yet on occasion in the chat room where it has been mentioned one or two people have been shocked and casually remarked "Wishy, is there something you're not telling us" - all tongue-in-cheek and I treated it as such, but still it remains no-one's business but mine. ...... hehehe

But the question is - do you take it up the shitter?
lol
Quote by Happy Cats

It's been assumed in this thread that I am bi myself - ok - now the subject has been raised I'll answer it, yes I am. Not many people know my sexuality because I choose not to advertise it - it's my business, yet on occasion in the chat room where it has been mentioned one or two people have been shocked and casually remarked "Wishy, is there something you're not telling us" - all tongue-in-cheek and I treated it as such, but still it remains no-one's business but mine. ...... hehehe

But the question is - do you take it up the shitter?
lol
rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
I was jus i nhaling on my ciggy when i read that... you bastard...