how hard is it to meet people on here. not even meet people, even a reply to my messages would be a start. what are singles looking for on here... i have pictures, i leave a nice description, i leave messages, im genuine, im attractive.... any advice would be apreciated.... what am i doing wrong..
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Quote by Woodnights
what am i doing wrong..
The same as everyone else who comes on the forum or in the chatrooms and whinges about how it is to get meets - totally misunderstood how online swinging works, IMO.
You might want to give it a teeny little bit more time since according to your profile you've been this scene less than 48 hours.
hi, welcome to sh,
youve been here 2 days?? chill i would say.
i hate over enthusiasam (sp) it comes across as pushy and nieve.
when i look at a profile and see straight single guys who have just tickedevery box, ie looking for gay single female?? why would a gay single female wanna meet you??
swinging may not be a bond like a couple have , but i dont want to just the the next hole thats a goal.
xx fem xx
youve been here 2 days?? chill i would say.
i hate over enthusiasam (sp) it comes across as pushy and nieve.
when i look at a profile and see straight single guys who have just tickedevery box, ie looking for gay single female?? why would a gay single female wanna meet you??
swinging may not be a bond like a couple have , but i dont want to just the the next hole thats a goal.
xx fem xx
Quote by fem_4_taboo
when i look at a profile and see straight single guys who have just tickedevery box, ie looking for gay single female?? why would a gay single female wanna meet you??
In this thread he asks what singles want yet his ad is for couples.
How do people expect others to take them seriously when they appear not to even know what they want themselves and just tick every box on the off-chance that they might get something (anything) ?
Quote by Woodnights
hi, yes i do agree tho i can assure you i am not pushy and i am not nieve, what im getting at is why cant people even reply to a message you send them,, it doesnt take much.. know what i mean,,
OK< give us an idea of the type of message you might send someone who takes your interest?
Sex God
Hmmmm...... well being a single bloke, a member of this site for a number of years, non pushy, all I can say is "It works for me"!!! 
:D
:D ok i do admit that i shouldnt of ticked all the boxes maybe that is a bit nieve.. i have now changed that,, i also thought that i had an add for single girls i have written a few and as im only new to this dont really know how things work, as faras i was concerned i had written a few adds. but obviously not.. and as for hoping to get anything anywhere. i disagree. i have written detailed messages explainning to the people what i am hoping to meet,and i havesaid i waould like to meet for a drink first and get to know each other a bit. si i do agree with alot you sais but also disagree with alot.. you are stereotyping me.
Quote by Woodnights
.. you are stereotyping me.
Welcome to the world of online swinging!
Bottom line - you, as a single male, are one of many. Ten a penny. The competition is ferocious.
Click on "Advice" to the left of this page and read all the advice available for single males.
Also, expecting responses off people when surely you've only messaged them in the last day? Is there a time limit on how long people have to reply by?
last but not least - seems a bit nit-picky but it is relevant: if your messages are anything like your posts above then I wouldn't bother with you either. Try spellcheck and a couple of commas and full-stops wouldn't go amiss either. First impressions last.
i did not leave this post meaning to be nasty. maybe i could of worded it beter. just a reply of any kind would be really nice when i leave a message.. i can assure you all i am not looking for a quick fix but t meet people and make friends..
accept my appologies please.. didnt mean to come across the way i did..
accept my appologies please.. didnt mean to come across the way i did..
Sex God
chill chill and chill again
dont rush into anything just find your feet for now and enjoy, this site is about so much more than meeting
dont rush into anything just find your feet for now and enjoy, this site is about so much more than meeting
you only just said hello to the forum a couple of days ago... why not relax and soak up the vibe for a while, see how it goes?
and with that *soak up the vibe* comment, I'm not suggesting anything with toys... though of course, you can do whatever you wish... feel free to share this excercise in patience in the forums too if it appeals... we're all ears
lp
and with that *soak up the vibe* comment, I'm not suggesting anything with toys... though of course, you can do whatever you wish... feel free to share this excercise in patience in the forums too if it appeals... we're all ears
lp
I think maybe you might spend sometime reading through the forum, go back a few pages and you'll see that people do tend to come on straight after joining to complain that they're not getting anywhere. There's also loads of threads about people not replying to mail.
Have a look at the statistic of male to female membership and you'll get part of the reason.
The best thing you can be is honest and be patient.
H.x
Have a look at the statistic of male to female membership and you'll get part of the reason.
The best thing you can be is honest and be patient.
H.x
Sex God
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It's that line in your sig that cuts the mustard Frogster :giggle:
Yeah........ classic......
:D :D 
Sex God
Quote by Woodnights
how hard is it to meet people on here. not even meet people, even a reply to my messages would be a start. what are singles looking for on here... i have pictures, i leave a nice description, i leave messages, im genuine, im attractive.... any advice would be apreciated.... what am i doing wrong..
I knew i would find it eventually....
This is what people said in the last "whinge" thread......
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/218541.html
Sex God
Quote by Woodnights
you are stereotyping me.
Uhmmm in a word "YES" (with every other newbie who has been on here for a very short period of time and complains about a lack of response.... I think you will find that statistcs allow for generalisation or as you call it stereotyping).
Try reading / searching for similar topics and you will see you are by no means the first to make those comments.
As I said.... it works for me and I don't advertise.
Quote by Woodnights
how hard is it to meet people on here. not even meet people, even a reply to my messages would be a start. what are singles looking for on here... i have pictures, i leave a nice description, i leave messages, im genuine, im attractive.... any advice would be apreciated.... what am i doing wrong..
So you joined yesterday and messaged people yesterday?
, god give people a chance to eat sleep, breathe etc 
. If they are interested they will reply if they arn`t they may reply with a polite thanks but no thanks or they might not. Don`t take it to heart, be patient and relax, find your way to the chatrooms, chat to people, post in the forums and remember you are just a little fish in amoungst all the other little fishes that make up this site.
Sex God
Buy a big gun and shoot all the rude people 
Sex God
Capital letter at the beginning of a sentence'd be a start. I can't read yer posts without getting a flucking headache mate!
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Sex God
Quote by Woodnights
how hard is it to meet people on here. not even meet people, even a reply to my messages would be a start. what are singles looking for on here... i have pictures, i leave a nice description, i leave messages, im genuine, im attractive.... any advice would be apreciated.... what am i doing wrong..
Oh dear, where to start...
