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Some may be aware that although ive never indulged in swinging ive been on this site looking at the possibilites. biggrin
That was cruelly cut short by my beautiful wife ripping the heart out of me by telling me that she wants to be a "free spirit" and may want a divorce :cry: Piss off i said and be a free spirit and leave me with my 1 and 3 yr old kids. Surely a free spirit cant take them with her wink
Now we have moved to a new level, a level which over the two weeks ive been able to harden myself to tackle.
I am an ange and been the accomodating fixture in the housel! cool
Because i have suggested relate (she has accepted but cancelled two appointments)and if the worse comes to the worse joint custody Her (wait for it) mother in law :twisted: is now involved suggesting i am not suitable to look after them . My wifes mother has accused me of a Drink problem :D I wish. I did drink too much in 1998 at least 4 times a week but never DRUNK,i ( i know who defines) I in the last 3 yrs have lost 2.5 stone and trained back to my fitness of when i was 25 so the suggestion was laughed off. Although i am aware that i did drink too much however
Now i am an aggressor!¬!!!!!!
Her mum saw us argue and as she NEVER argues its my fault
I argued with K because she didnt give me sex and Mother in law saw me argue!!!!
She saw one arguement which involved me telling K she was "frigid" and yes i did because she openly admitted using her vibrator when i was 8 weeks without any we had this argument for every 8 weeks since i met her K was more interested in her hobby or work Her view on sex was that everything u read in the tabloids about women liking sex is "just that Tabloids"
I have to add that in her defence my son is 16 months when i made that comment and these problems started in November. so as many women who have borne child will know it may be hard to get bothered and horny :wink: so perhaps the timing was wrong for her mum to see.
The sad thing though was K sitting as her mother cut into me and not defending me. I asked her later why she stayed quiet as her mother lied she said " i couldnt hear her as she was thinking alone
i was numb" :cry:
I love her deeply but now feel its grown bigger thanks to her mum. so after the Hols i fear Goodbye Moorhopper and Goodnite
(ive thought for a while to send this tonite but deciced to ) As you dont know me i have made very little reference to my nature so i will accept you will condemn me for holding back and not being realistic. I wont compromise on the truth I was as a nice guy an arsehole but i dont deserve this.
For those i ever meet you will see the injustice of my plight
Thanks
I hope posting helped , her mother will naturally side with your wife, as will the legal system . Whatever you do , stay calm , if sharing is a safety valve , then I don't mind hearing from you on here .
Keep your chin up m8. Just keep the kids in your thoughts and you'll get through it. smile
I'm so sorry Moorhopper :cry:
Give her the space she needs and maybe she will realise that it is not all ....she thought she wanted, if that makes sense. rolleyes
Life can be such a bitch, but hold your head high and carry on.
AS has been said before Moorehopper, things may look bleak now, but whatever happens there are better times ahead.
Stay strong and we're always here if you need to sound off.
Hi Moorhopper
I know how you feel m8. I have gone through it as well. I don't want to give you advice you don't want. I just want you to know that I know what you are going through and wish you all the best.
I hope it works out the way you want it to m8.
Dave_Notts
Moorhopper were so very sorry to hear that things arent any better for you.
We hope that things work out for you.
Have you perhaps considered a trial seperation?It may make her realise exactly what shes losing.
As for her mother then its only natural for her to defend your wife(and we all know what mother in laws are like!)
Good luck and we really hope that however this all turns out that youll be happy in the end.
Clare and Steve,xxx