For us it all came from discussion while watching a TV show (It may have been Sexcetera or something similar but I can't remember).
We'd been getting gradually raunchier as time went on and we used to pop the TV on and get all touchy feely while watching some of the naughtier shows. That night the programme we watched was about Swinging and I noted that watching this made Mrs R really turned on...so we starting talking about it and what we'd seen and how we'd react.
We continued talking about it, all hypothetically at first, and we agreed together what we both found sexy and what we were happy with. We checked a website out (wonder which one that could be?!) and found out lots of other people had similar ideas and it sort of spiralled from there. Saying a shy hello in chat, to becoming more confident and speaking to people directly, then venturing onto private meets via webcam and then to arranging our first meet and then attending our first social. It was a domino effect of depravity of the finest kind!
I hasten to add, the time passing from seeing the tv show, to actually playing was considerable. At a conservative estimate at least 2 or 3 years. We had a LOT of chats and we were on here a good while before we had our first meet. At least 6 months, if not longer.
But I think patience paid off for us in the end.
We had both been married before to people who were pretty unsexy, and certainly wouldn't have welcomed any suggestions about swinging. We have both got high sex drives and both had affairs, one-night-stands and the odd threesome and sex party during our last marriages, which inevitably broke up.
A couple of months after we met, we were watching one of the "Swinger" DVDs filmed in La Chambre, and I said "would you like to do that?" R said "yes!" so we went to their next Saturday couples night, both thinking it might be a bit sordid. It wasn't, and we had a lovely soft-swing with a couple. We met some lovely people and went back every month; after a couple of visits we did a full swap and haven't looked back since.
We love eachother very much and got married 3 years ago, but we need variety in sex. Swinging allows us to do this without deceit or guilt. While we prefer 4somes (we both love watching the other fucking!) we're perfectly happy with separate room play and with us both going our own way in a club or at a party, and meeting up later.
G (&R)
We used to swap with our best friends before we had kids and that ground to a halt when pregnancy became an issue. The male half of the couple has been here once since for a threesome and he mentioned SH for it's stories. He wanted me to write about our 'adventures'. I joined as a member as I didn't realise it was optional and started placing ads and messaging other members.
Eventually we got a few meets out of it and very nervously began swinging. The nerves were an issue especially for MrG whose performance was initially somewhat compromised. But our confidence has grown, especially since we began using the chatrooms about 3 months ago, and I discovered the forums!
A recent set-back has made us take a break from swinging but we will return because generally it has been so much fun. MrG was a virgin when we met and I think it has been of particular benefit to him to find out that all women are not the same. I have also been able to indulge in my bisexual fantasies and make my curiosity a thing of the past.
We have also visited a couple of swinging clubs, although so far have not played with any complete strangers. Until we joined SH we had no idea these places existed, but we're going to make up for lost time now we do! Swinging has certainly made us more adventurous in our sexual activities. We are more open about what we want from each other as well as others we play with. Also, I think our marriage is stronger than ever as a result.
I've really enjoyed reading these responses. As someone who discovered this 'scene' (for want of a better word) whilst single, it has always just intrigued me as to how it would be approached in a couple.
Nola x
I just can't answer this one nola - far too personal
We had (and still do)a fantastic sex life but we both noticed that we were turned on by talking about K having sex with another woman. So, without any real expectations, we half-heartedly joined SH in search of a bi-experience for my beautiful girl.
We decided to contact about 4 similar minded couples whose profiles we liked and several people sent us messages. To be honest I really thought K would bottle out if we arranged a serious meet.
We decided on one very good looking couple and exchanged face pics etc. We could not arrange to meet straight away because we were both going on holiday at the same time. But we did have a couple of weeks of various saucy text banter.
Eventually we met P&N and agreed that we would just have something to drink and, if anyone was not happy, leave it at that. We met and instantly formed a bond. That first night was electric and seeing two beautful girls making love for the first time was amazing and us guys just watched them for hours.
We have known them for about 6 months now and we have become best friends. P&N are a beautiful couple and both incredibly sexy. It goes without saying that we have great bonking with them too - all same room stuff which is how we like it. We have enormous affection for each other and we will remain good friends with them regardless of the rumpty.
It made me change our profile to say that we are not really looking for anything else at this moment because we are blissfully happy with P&N.
So, we never really considered swinging seriously but tried it and loved it.
Steve
Thanks for the nice words Steve.
I agree Steve is a great name and we are lucky in sharing charm, sophistcation, poise and great interlect plus a huge willy.
Steve
It wasnt so much a big discussion or a giant leap for us, from the offset we had an open relationship and we both used telephone chat lines and contact mags. Dek had watched me "fuck" 2 blokes on different occasions so when we got the net, Dek looked for sites we could use this one came up and we both joined :shock:
on purpose sam as the missing I - honest
I joined this site before I met worlass. I loved the lifestyle and when I met worlass at a nightclub I had no intention of her being any more than a one night stand.
We actually met for a date and I told her that night that if we were going to have a relationship with a big 'r' then she had to understand that I would continue to date and have sex with other people. She was surprised but happy and we have gone from strength to strength in the two and half years we have been together, in terms of our relationship and in terms of our swinging.
I have been with hubby since I was 15 and the only person I had ever had penetrative sex with.
We had an mmf some 17 years ago with a friend one night after all having a few drinks, but there was no penetrative sex involved. I guess that planted the seed in hubby that is was something I would do again.
After years of raising children the subject did come up from time to time and was a fantasy that sometimes got discussed although I wasn’t keen, the thought of having sex and an mmf with another guy really turned me on.
So with a lot of thought we decided to try to find a guy we could have a friendship and good times with.
We have since met a some guys, two of which we have met on few occasions and have a good friendship with, we have shared good fun times together.
At this stage in my life I feel we have achieved what we set out to do, so don’t feel the need to keep going so we have stopped meeting, but still remain friends with the guys we have met.
) go from being monogamous to being all swingy and stuff?
No probs - totally respect that Mr Lost, sir. 
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