It was a year to this day we signed up and became fully paid up members.
So I have been doing a little reminiscing about our first year of swinging and thought I’d share with my SH friends (and for those Forum lurkers like I once was)
We had our first meet a month after we signed up with another first time couple which felt weird and exciting. Strangely we were far less nervous than we thought we’d be. However much research and talking we did before we embarked on this, we really were not sure how we would feel really doing (as opposed to talking) such naughty stuff with other people. But it was fantastic
and we knew it was right for wanted more.So we threw ourselves in heads first, had more meets arranged though the ads here, and tried a club a few times. We learned quickly about a lot of things
and are still learning with each new experience.We’ve had some good times with couples and some not so good times. I guess we’ve been lucky we haven’t had any bad experiences or been let down by anyone for drinks or meets. We’ve broken our original boundaries a few times
(always agreed before hand before doing so though) we’ve done things we’ll not repeat but are glad we’ve experienced them and use them as a positive tool to more forward. We’ve realised what we like and don’t like (although very much still evolving). Personally speaking, we’ve got into tune with our sensuality. We knew we were attractive to each other and have always had a brilliant sex life, but to hear this from strangers was a massive turn on. Our sexual confidence has grown hugely, we feel far sexier than ever before and this is a powerful feeling for us both having been together a very long time with little experience before each other.
We’ve learned our emotions are highly involved in this lifestyle, and so are other peoples, we’ve worried about safe sex, our families/work/friends finding out, and dealing with other people emotions and how they deal with situations. I’ve been caught out a few times with feelings I’ve been surprised at and reactions I’ve had (both good and bad), and we’ve talked loads about each new situation and how we feel.
The couples we’ve met have all been different, which has been a pleasure to meet a diversity of new people, all shapes and ages, appreciate the differences of other people in terms of physical
hwoar: and personality attributes.I have also become an accomplished liar, which I find really stressful, I have to think on my feet each time we lie about where we’re going. Getting kids looked overnight after is hard, so we know we can’t carry this on as frequently this coming year!
It’s also been hard work and time consuming:- writing ads, sifting replies, chatting on MSN to get to know people then arranging meets, shopping for new clothes and FM shoes and boots (so stressful!
) getting sitters. Our house renovations have been continued at a very slow pace!Overall it’s been a great year, we have both grown even closer (and we’ve been together a very long time) and we have loved keeping our naughty little secret from our friends and often enjoyed knowingly smiling at each other over dinner tables. Although it brings stresses, we love the liberation of enjoying sex with other people within our marriage. How fantastic is that? It really is having your cake and eating it. :grin:
Bit of a brain dump I anyone wish to comment or share their first year of swinging however far into it (or not) you are?
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)of swinging, and of your own personal experiences.
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