We're still very new to this lifestyle and during a conversation about our boundaries and what we'd feel comfortable with, Ginger suggested that she'd far more enjoy 'giving' oral sex than 'receiving' it. Well I was amazed, believing that in terms of comfort zones it would be easier to be the recipient than the giver! She feels that having someone eat her pussy is actually more intimate than having a cock in her mouth! Would love to hear what others think, particularly from a gender perspective. Apologises if this has been run before!
Id always reciprocate, it would be rude not to Unless of course I met someone with funny ideas about hygiene and then they wouldnt get within a million miles of me in the first place :lol:
Quote by helnheaven Id always reciprocate, it would be rude not to Unless of course I met someone with funny ideas about hygiene and then they wouldnt get within a million miles of me in the first place :lol:
.thnx helnheaven, but do you feel more comfortable giving or receiving?
If thats what she feels comfortable with then thats her boundary and should be stuck to imo i prefer to give rather than receive but a year or so ago i preferred to receive
Quote by dekntan If thats what she feels comfortable with then thats her boundary and should be stuck to imo
Absolutely! Wasn't a thread about how I can make my partner do something she doesn't want to!! Am simply surprised at her preference and thought I'd canvass some views from others as a matter of interest. Thanks for your contribution
Quote by Gingerchox Id always reciprocate, it would be rude not to Unless of course I met someone with funny ideas about hygiene and then they wouldnt get within a million miles of me in the first place :lol:
.thnx helnheaven, but do you feel more comfortable giving or receiving? Personally, I love both so wouldnt feel uncomfortable with either. The saying is 'better to give than receive' but in this case I think that one for me, would go straight out of the window :lol:
Quote by Gingerchox If thats what she feels comfortable with then thats her boundary and should be stuck to imo
Absolutely! Wasn't a thread about how I can make my partner do something she doesn't want to!! Am simply surprised at her preference and thought I'd canvass some views from others as a matter of interest. Thanks for your contribution Nps wasnt trying to state otherwise i prefer to give to its nothing personal to anyone it just doesnt do alot for me and that could change soon i suppose but i think that if someone went down there and i didnt come they would maybe feel a bit small and i wudnt wanna upset them so i try and avoid the situation
I prefer to give and the more appreciative my "victim" sounds the more it does for me. It takes me ages and ages to get there usually so I end up feeling a little embarrassed Although certain instruments have been known to hurry things along a little
Quote by dekntan If thats what she feels comfortable with then thats her boundary and should be stuck to imo
Absolutely! Wasn't a thread about how I can make my partner do something she doesn't want to!! Am simply surprised at her preference and thought I'd canvass some views from others as a matter of interest. Thanks for your contribution Nps wasnt trying to state otherwise i prefer to give to its nothing personal to anyone it just doesnt do alot for me and that could change soon i suppose but i think that if someone went down there and i didnt come they would maybe feel a bit small and i wudnt wanna upset them so i try and avoid the situation Tan sweetie, trade him in, hes not doing it right :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Quote by dekntan Nps wasnt trying to state otherwise i prefer to give to its nothing personal to anyone it just doesnt do alot for me and that could change soon i suppose but i think that if someone went down there and i didnt come they would maybe feel a bit small and i wudnt wanna upset them so i try and avoid the situation
Thanks Tan, that's an interesting view, I guess being the receiver does put you under some pressure to orgasm, whereas being the giver has no such responsibilities!
Quote by helnheaven If thats what she feels comfortable with then thats her boundary and should be stuck to imo
Absolutely! Wasn't a thread about how I can make my partner do something she doesn't want to!! Am simply surprised at her preference and thought I'd canvass some views from others as a matter of interest. Thanks for your contribution Nps wasnt trying to state otherwise i prefer to give to its nothing personal to anyone it just doesnt do alot for me and that could change soon i suppose but i think that if someone went down there and i didnt come they would maybe feel a bit small and i wudnt wanna upset them so i try and avoid the situation Tan sweetie, trade him in, hes not doing it right :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: Its not just the mr unfortunatley atleast with the mr he knows and still tries bless him but us being us i just say get up ya big doyle n give me summit to get me teeth into :shock: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Quote by dekntan If thats what she feels comfortable with then thats her boundary and should be stuck to imo
Absolutely! Wasn't a thread about how I can make my partner do something she doesn't want to!! Am simply surprised at her preference and thought I'd canvass some views from others as a matter of interest. Thanks for your contribution Nps wasnt trying to state otherwise i prefer to give to its nothing personal to anyone it just doesnt do alot for me and that could change soon i suppose but i think that if someone went down there and i didnt come they would maybe feel a bit small and i wudnt wanna upset them so i try and avoid the situation Tan sweetie, trade him in, hes not doing it right :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: Its not just the mr unfortunatley atleast with the mr he knows and still tries bless him but us being us i just say get up ya big doyle n give me summit to get me teeth into :shock: :lol: :lol: :lol: :giggle:
Quote by Gingerchox Thanks Tan, that's an interesting view, I guess being the receiver does put you under some pressure to orgasm, whereas being the giver has no such responsibilities!
the pressure to "come" really turns me off and some men i know keep going and trying several things until they have (or think they have) made u orgasm with me it just doesnt happen (although it does with toys) tis ok am just strange
I DO kinda feel like oral sex on me is more intimate than me giving a guy oral sex...don't know why it just feels that way. I personally like to receive...of course...but I also like to give...although I AM kinda insecure that I'm no good at it (anyone want me to try them and prove otherwise? :twisted I never pressure a guy to make me cum...in fact I have, on occasion, said to a guy don't worry about making me cum cause I don't think I'm going to get there...
Much preffer to give, admitedly I enjoy it more because I like to think I'm giving a woman lots of pleasure (if you're faking it, that's fine, just don't tell me so, ignorance is bliss and all that!) But to be honest I just can't relax as much if I'm on the recieving end. All the time I'm thinking: "Oh, OK, this is nice, erm, what sort of face should I pull now? Like this? No, no, that probably looks like I'm pain..How about this? Nope, she'll probably think I'm smacked off my tits or something. And right, how am I supposed to sound. 'oh..yeah', no, sound too much like a cheesy pornstar..'ohhhwoahohhh', nope, now you sound like you're having some sort of overwhelming devine epithany..." To be honest, I could rather do with out all that running through my head whilst I'm tryin' to have sex...
With someone I've only just met, I might feel a little more comfy giving than receiving. I think with me it's down to being in control. I'm no control freak, but if I'm with someone I don't know well enough to trust 100%- then I like to take charge of the situation. When someone (other than Mr W) I could trust with my life came along I did finally relinquish control......and boy was it nice!
I'm a giver. Someone sorely missed from this site once said I was a GCL - genuine cock lover. edit: I should add why, really. Basically, giving pleasure is a wonderfully pleasing and even empowering emotion. KNowing that I have the ability to bring intense pleasure to someone by doing something I actively enjoy and not just out of duty or "returning the favour" is what makes a GCL. Sure it must work that way for the bi females too? GPL?
I think the more you feel comfortable with swingign in general the more likely you are to expereiment and then go futher with people than you would before
We're all so generous on here aren't we? as another vote for giving here. It doesn't worry me if the woman doesn't cum as it's all part of the foreplay and build up to sex. As long as it makes her feel good, that's what really matters surely. I usually find that a could finger and tongue combo tips them over the edge anyway :rascal:
I understand completely, I feel the same way. I'm not sure why but I feel giving oral to a woman is more intimate than it is to a man, maybe it's something to do with merely the physical internal/ external nature of it. I love giving and receiving but am sometimes shy about receiving. H.x
Wow! This is one of those threads where you really need to know which member of the couple-nics is speaking, lol! As a bloke I really like giving oral to ladies, and so long as they are happy I like to continue until they orgasm if it takes for ever. As for oral on me, I'm rarely in the mood, but if I am then short and sweet, the quicker the better!
i love to give oral to a woman. i feel it is really intimate. feeling and hearing a woman whilst licking her in her most intimate parts is almost enough to make me climax, having oral sex perfomred on myself is not as exciting, i suppose it could be part of a control thing for myself
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Although certain instruments have been known to hurry things along a little 
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