Contrary to popular belief(well by some) there is an "in" crowd on here.
We are refusing to name names as we dont see the point in bitching(and that isnt what this is)but just wanted to put a little point across here.
Me and Steve have felt to be completely honest a little left out lately,i know that sounds childish but its the best description i can think of.
In certain threads we have both felt that if we reply we will be completely ignored and that has happened on numerous starting to get to the point where neither of us really want to join in certain threads and dont even look at some because of this.
This is not a "We want everyone to love us" post nor is it a rant or rave,we just want to make people aware of how they are making others cant vouch for anyone else on here but this is our personal feelings.
Meeting everyone at the munch was great,everyone really seemed fantastic,its just a shame that its not like that on here too.
We wanted to do this just to make certain people aware of how "in" private jokes are alienating others.
Clare and Stevexxx
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Hope Im not a culprit just sometimes when I come on and read a thread I either dont get time to reply or am tired and sometimes I just forget to get back to it!!
Sometimes I feel like a thread killer cause then it just seems to go quiet then at other times a bit of banter goes on for a while!
I think it just depends on everyones mood etc Lots of very doverse people on here and lots of people with different attitudes backgrounds etc and sometimes just maybe dont get others threads!??
Thats just my opinion!
Sometimes I feel like a thread killer cause then it just seems to go quiet then at other times a bit of banter goes on for a while!
I think it just depends on everyones mood etc Lots of very doverse people on here and lots of people with different attitudes backgrounds etc and sometimes just maybe dont get others threads!??
Thats just my opinion!
Sex God
i dont honestly believe there is an in crowd here.. or if there is.. maybe i am just burying my head in the sand too much and have not seen it.
however i can see what you are saying about sometimes not being included in a conversation.
i dont think this is anything to do with you personally though.. its the same for everyone.
it is like real life.. i have lots of mates.. but i speak to different ones about different subjects.. its does not mean that i value any of them more than others.
i also think that some of the problem u have might be to do with the speed at wich the posts come sometimes... when a topic shows a new post.. i usually go to the bottom post.... this might mean that i have missed out a post just above it.. its not deliberate though.
am sure this happens to a lot of people.
however i can see what you are saying about sometimes not being included in a conversation.
i dont think this is anything to do with you personally though.. its the same for everyone.
it is like real life.. i have lots of mates.. but i speak to different ones about different subjects.. its does not mean that i value any of them more than others.
i also think that some of the problem u have might be to do with the speed at wich the posts come sometimes... when a topic shows a new post.. i usually go to the bottom post.... this might mean that i have missed out a post just above it.. its not deliberate though.
am sure this happens to a lot of people.
Mod
If you feel someone is ignoring you deliberately, have you thought of PM'ing them to ask why? Perhaps they do not realise they are doing it. I post a lot, but I also have to read a lot, (it's the nature of the beast), and do other 'mod' things. Because of this I can't physically comment all the time about posts, unless it is something I really don't have to think about. Perhaps others are in the same situation?
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I don't think there is an in-crowd either ... just pockets of friendly groups, which is what happens in life. We're attracted to people like us and therefore tend to post to those people more ... it's purely how other people look at it.
I know what you mean though Clare, have felt alienated just lately and haven't been around as much
Still love coming here though ... just more cautious about posting and repercussions.
I know what you mean though Clare, have felt alienated just lately and haven't been around as much
Still love coming here though ... just more cautious about posting and repercussions. Sex God
Quote by Clare_Lincs
very true and good point but when it goes on for sometime you just get the feeling of why bother!
well the fact that people have bothered to read this and reply must prove that you are not being ignored!
have a bite of my mars bar and cheer up hun
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BIG HUGS AND SQUEEZY JUGS! CHIN UP!
Dont let it get you down eh, I felt like a bit of a plonker cause I stormed in here and just rambled like a boyscout but people have been nice although sometimes I feel a little invisible but then I look at how lazy I can be answering posts! Especially big ones sometimes I canny be arsed or get time to read. So its partly my own fault too
BIG HUGS AND SQUEEZY JUGS! CHIN UP!
Dont let it get you down eh, I felt like a bit of a plonker cause I stormed in here and just rambled like a boyscout but people have been nice although sometimes I feel a little invisible but then I look at how lazy I can be answering posts! Especially big ones sometimes I canny be arsed or get time to read. So its partly my own fault too
Sex God
i honestly believe that if someone did a poll on here asking who was popular.. everyone would give different answers.. and no one would say them selves!
its human nature to think other people are getting a better deal or pushing ahead of you.. but its seldom true in reality.
have fun hun
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its human nature to think other people are getting a better deal or pushing ahead of you.. but its seldom true in reality.
have fun hun
x x x
This isnt a look at us and don't ignore us post its a observation more than anything.
We truely believe there most definately is an "in crowd" and i think i put it a few weeks ago.I don't think that they realise that they are the "in crowd" but sometimes it seems that they use the forum as theyre own personal msn which can be off putting to others.
Calista we worry about repocussions and most definately don't want to make any enemies through doing something weve been talking about for a while now and have only just plucked up the courage to put it.
Were not saying that it happens on all threads but it does happen on some.
At least Clare won't get all the crap now ive posted too :shock:
We truely believe there most definately is an "in crowd" and i think i put it a few weeks ago.I don't think that they realise that they are the "in crowd" but sometimes it seems that they use the forum as theyre own personal msn which can be off putting to others.
Calista we worry about repocussions and most definately don't want to make any enemies through doing something weve been talking about for a while now and have only just plucked up the courage to put it.
Were not saying that it happens on all threads but it does happen on some.
At least Clare won't get all the crap now ive posted too :shock:
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Sometimes I feel like a thread killer
Lordy, I know that feeling all too well.
But, Claire & Steve, you are one of our favourite couples on here and we always try to read your posts. If I don't reply, it's coz I think it is nothing to do with me, or I know nothing about it.
I agree that it does seem like sometimes certain people are left out. Certain other people are chummy and obviously know eachother better than others do.
I dunno if I would say cliquey, though. I always thought you ywo were part of the in-crowd!!
Sex God
Quote by Vix
I dunno if I would say cliquey, though. I always thought you ywo were part of the in-crowd!!
my point exactly!
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I dunno if I would say cliquey, though. I always thought you ywo were part of the in-crowd!!
my point exactly!
Erm,go back and reread some old threads and youll probably see what we mean.
Were so in the in crowd that 99% of our pm's are about the munch and the other 1% are from some lovely peeps,deffo no crowd there im afraid!!
I sometimes reply to every thread, and sometimes, like now, I think I can't be bothered, nothing seems the slightest bit interesting, too much going on in my head.
When my posts are ignored or the thread hijacked I just think it wasn't my day. I do not think there is anything you two could do that would alienate anyone, and I'm sure nobody is deliberately cutting you.
There are more active people on here than me, (well everyone actually), so those that get about more to munches and stuff are bound to develop friendships and make comments on the site that we cannot follow, and which don't make sense. I wouldn't worry about it, you know, on the scale of things...
When my posts are ignored or the thread hijacked I just think it wasn't my day. I do not think there is anything you two could do that would alienate anyone, and I'm sure nobody is deliberately cutting you.
There are more active people on here than me, (well everyone actually), so those that get about more to munches and stuff are bound to develop friendships and make comments on the site that we cannot follow, and which don't make sense. I wouldn't worry about it, you know, on the scale of things...
I never reply to threads, I just start them! :mrgreen:
Steve, I did have a reply to your `Munches seriously damage our health`, but it involved my first munch (back in July) shaving and..........
Let`s just say I didn`t post because t was a little TMI!
I think there are natural extroverts here who stick out more than others, natural introverts who are happy to remain fairly inconspicous, and those who`d love to be more extroverted, but may not yet have the confidence to dive in as easily......
Yet to meet the introvert who`d rather be in the background a little more though
Come on, who are you? Let yourselves be known!!
Venusxxx
Steve, I did have a reply to your `Munches seriously damage our health`, but it involved my first munch (back in July) shaving and..........
Let`s just say I didn`t post because t was a little TMI!
I think there are natural extroverts here who stick out more than others, natural introverts who are happy to remain fairly inconspicous, and those who`d love to be more extroverted, but may not yet have the confidence to dive in as easily......
Yet to meet the introvert who`d rather be in the background a little more though
Come on, who are you? Let yourselves be known!!
Venusxxx
Sex God
Quote by Clare_Lincs
I dunno if I would say cliquey, though. I always thought you ywo were part of the in-crowd!!
my point exactly!
Erm,go back and reread some old threads and youll probably see what we mean.
Were so in the in crowd that 99% of our pm's are about the munch and the other 1% are from some lovely peeps,deffo no crowd there im afraid!!
i have read threads and never thought to myself.. oh look.. clare and steve are being ignored... from what i can see you have made a lot of friends on here,
i dont get all that many pms really either.. if you dont count the one liners from new single guys asking for a shag!
it does not mean no one accepts you, just as i dont think that it means i am an outsider.
it just means that the things people have to say to you can probably be said on here, rather than in private.
Were not trying to say that we expect replies to everything we put as that would be mind numbing for those who attempted it.
What we are saying is that in cetain threads when you try to join in you get completely over looked,and no its not all the time neither is it to everything we put,just at certain times and certain threads.I hope this is coming across as it was intended!
What we are saying is that in cetain threads when you try to join in you get completely over looked,and no its not all the time neither is it to everything we put,just at certain times and certain threads.I hope this is coming across as it was intended!
Sex God
Quote by Clare_Lincs
What we are saying is that in cetain threads when you try to join in you get completely over looked,and no its not all the time neither is it to everything we put,just at certain times and certain threads.I hope this is coming across as it was intended!
but thats like real life!
if you are in a group of people all having a conversation together.. sometimes u will make a comment that no one will reply to.. either because they cant think of a reply, or they dont find the comment interesting , or they are already too deeply involved in the comment they are making already.. or maybe just because it goes over their head or passes them by.
it happens in all conversations so of course it will happen on here.
it does not mean people are deliberately ignoring you
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You two can come over me any time, no matter hows it`s intended :twisted:
Venusxxx
Stop trying to hi jack the thread............oh ok then i'd love to come over you :twisted:
But seriously,we feel that some of what weve put isnt being taken quite how we meant it to be hard to put into words and it seems people are taking it diferently.
Oh and BTW we most deffo are not part of the "in crowd",no way,never!!
ok, a different point of view...............
Take a step backwards and look at what you're actually posting. Is it worth a reply? Is someone else likely to take an interest in it? I'm as guilty as anyone for posting one line double entendres but that's all they are, I wouldn't expect an answer from anyone other than the person it was aimed at and if they don't answer it then hey.........I move on.
If someone is looking to be taken seriously and wants people to answer/consider the majority of their posts then it requires quality rather than quantity. If they go for the quantity option and make a lot of posts with little or no content then it becomes a case of people not being bothered to read them rather than not being bothered to reply to them.
I still don't think there's an "in crowd". If there is then I'm certainly not part of it. I noticed that my inbox was 100% full a couple of days ago but there's hardly a personal pm in there. They're almost all munch, banquet or site related.
Steve
Take a step backwards and look at what you're actually posting. Is it worth a reply? Is someone else likely to take an interest in it? I'm as guilty as anyone for posting one line double entendres but that's all they are, I wouldn't expect an answer from anyone other than the person it was aimed at and if they don't answer it then hey.........I move on.
If someone is looking to be taken seriously and wants people to answer/consider the majority of their posts then it requires quality rather than quantity. If they go for the quantity option and make a lot of posts with little or no content then it becomes a case of people not being bothered to read them rather than not being bothered to reply to them.
I still don't think there's an "in crowd". If there is then I'm certainly not part of it. I noticed that my inbox was 100% full a couple of days ago but there's hardly a personal pm in there. They're almost all munch, banquet or site related.
Steve
Its not a case of quanity and all that though what were trying to say is that certain peeps on certain posts only chat among themselves and then theres not really much point in trying to join when the incrowd does come into it,and it does happen and it can be alienating and that is not about any other posts or anything just those particular ones,and some of you must know what were talking about.
And again,we dont want sympathy,this isnt what this is for,this is to put across our point that simple!
And again,we dont want sympathy,this isnt what this is for,this is to put across our point that simple!
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Oh and BTW we most deffo are not part of the "in crowd",no way,never!!
Bless. I posted that the same time as you posted yours, and I really did not mean any offence. Like I said, I do not think it's cliquey here, but I totally understand the 'ignoring' thing.
Sometimes you* reply to a thread and your reply seems to get totally overlooked. I thought it was just me (being a noob, and all) but maybe we all think it's just ourselves and never really notice it with anyone else.
*When I say 'you' I don't mean actually YOU, I mean whoever. But had I said "sometimes one replys to a thread..." it would have sounded bloody pretentious.
