out and out nerves OR the scaredy cat thread!!

24 Jul 2008

Nolas Pre meet nerves got me thinking....(theres a lot of that going on lately, I MUST stop) LOL
but are there just some people that you would SO love to play with but you are SO terrified of meeting with them that you never make a move......even tho you would just love to??
do you just sit by and fervently send them telepathic thoughts hoping THEY make the first move, then get all sad when their telepathic receiver isnt working LOL
have you chatted with them, talked to them at munches and socials and thought "phwoar silly

hwoar: yeah I deffo would :twisted:
yet never ever dared do anything about it?
If so how long has this been for, and what is it that has stopped you/stops you from taking the bull by the horns and thinking "oh what the hell" and clicking the send button on that "would you fancy a meet" PM??
im just in a nosy people analysing mood tonight biggrin

cant think of the fancy word for finding out what makes people tick

24 Jul 2008

Personally I would never make the first move!. I don`t have the confidence to do so. Have seen a few people at socials and thought silly

hwoar: but would never act on it unless they acted first! Maybe thats why meets are a little thin on the ground lately!!!

24 Jul 2008

Im exactly the same Lyns....too scared of rejection I think....especially when said person/s seem to have loads of admirers to pick from LOL

24 Jul 2008

Thats me mrs B scared of rejection. Must start to deal with it at some point... but I guess it comes wit confidence.

24 Jul 2008

I fancy a lot of the women on here.. but am scared of knockbacks.... daft I know, but can't help it... I suppose because I'm still a relative newbie to this, I'm hoping that the ladies will look at me with kindness and pm me first!
I might get brave one day.... :boo:

24 Jul 2008

There are people who I would love to meet because of the fact that I love their style of posting, sense of humour etc in either forum or chat. Not sure whether that counts, cos I am less wanting to meet them to play with them and more just cos I think we'd get on... so I'm not nervous as such.
B*llocks. I am waffling tonight!
I have met people at Munches and thought "WOW" and yeah, I guess I have bottled it when it comes to suggesting something.
We need it to be Valentines Day again so we can all send our secret crushes anonymous messages again!! :twisted:

24 Jul 2008

ooohhh why wait til valentines day.....we should have an anonymoust middle of the year thread :twisted:
I was able to say a few things on the last one lol

:lol: :lol:

24 Jul 2008

Quote by Bonedigger
ooohhh why wait til valentines day.....we should have an anonymoust middle of the year thread :twisted:
I was able to say a few things on the last one :lol: :lol:

I'm game Mrs B :twisted:
Shall we start one up?

24 Jul 2008

If it were up to me to make the first move I'd be celebate.
H.x

24 Jul 2008

Not so long ago, I spent some time skirting around the whole "registering an interest" bit with a fellow forumite. He was just as pants as me. Took a while, but with the acknowledgement of the fact that we were both pants, we got it sorted.
Turns out, he found me intimidating! :shock:
WTF? Mouse like me? Intimidating? :shock:

24 Jul 2008

I make the first move....
although now I have a list of people I would love to fuck and who want to fuck me... and there isn't enough time or the people are too far away to meet easily. rolleyes

I rarely meet anyone who has approached me first.

24 Jul 2008

splen, if i may be so bold as to ask, is it a conscious decision NOT to meet anyone who approaches you first? or has it just turned out that way?

24 Jul 2008

(you are not being bold. If I didn't want to speak I wouldn't have posted passionkiss

)
The ones who approach me tend to think they are doing me a favour. rolleyes

I can't be bothered with it. I have learnt from experience they are the ones with the more fragile ego's too.
I suppose it is now a conscious decision, not a hard and fast rule. Although when I have attempted to go for it with someone who has approached me they really don't quite do the 'do' wink

I sorta watch and wait and then approach. The only time that I got knocked back he said that he preferred very slim women. Of which I am not one. He was honest and so was I.
My profile used to detail my 'approach' to swinging. Now I can't be bothered as I have had a raft of disappointments and am reconsidering my options.