Over the hill and far away....

30 Mar 2007

I dont think I've ever had an orgasm through penetration alone, so I'll have to keep trying with that one. As for clitoral stimulation, I do come quite easily, but I have to be in the right 'zone' if you know what I mean. I'm not really sure what makes me get into the zone but I have to be totally relaxed and really at ease. I have in the past had problems orgasming with new parteners not because they are doing anything but just because I was unable to totally let myself go which once turned into a bit of a saga as then I was worrying about it all the time until one hungover Sunday morning when I forgot all about worrying whether it was going to happen and everything got back to normal........ lol

30 Mar 2007

depends what you consider to be helpful and tactful doesnt it lol

- and who you're 'expecting' it from :giggle:
now this - this interests me ALOT :thumbup:

Definitely a technique. A few times I've been given a HJ, and the lady in question has not been able to make me come as she didn't know the "stages".

It's fairly easy when you have a partner (your hubby or wife for example) who knows what makes you tick, and is 'in tune' with you and knows you sexually well enough to be able to recognise the 'stages'...they know your body and its responses....Its something that perhaps doesnt happen so easily when swinging dunno

And - if someone is touching you/ doing something (using a HJ as the example) which you know if you did it yourself you'd be 'there' in an instant....doesnt it get a bit ...frustrating?

30 Mar 2007

I rarely cum through penetration alone if I haven't cum by other means first. Oral for me is the easiest way to cum, even more so if I'm being penetrated at the same time but then it's more of an all over orgasm than a clitoral or penetrative one if you know what I mean.
Once I've had one orgasm the next one(s) seem to come along easier and easier each time until I get to the "kicking off" stage redface

And yes it's not unknown for me to kick out when I've had about as much as I can take.
If, for whatever reason, it just ain't happening then I will nudge things into the right spot, or give harder, faster, slower, more gentle comands until I lose the ability to speak lol

After all the only person you're cheating by faking it is yourself
Does that answer your question Dark? :lol: :lol:

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
And - if someone is touching you/ doing something (using a HJ as the example) which you know if you did it yourself you'd be 'there' in an instant....doesnt it get a bit ...frustrating?

Very. But, I wouldn't get angry or annoyed. If I was able to "help things along" - either by using my hand to guide, or to position myself differently I would and smile. This means that if they are quick on the uptake, they would carry it on without actually me saying "you're doing it wrong".

30 Mar 2007

Quote by celestria
Does that answer your question Dark? :lol:

Marvellous! thankyou! kiss

30 Mar 2007

Ok it’s not that I don’t like receiving sexually, I just much prefer giving, as that is what turns me on the most.
If I am on the receiving end lol

I like to be giving at the same time. For example during oral I prefer 69 or if I’m being touched I want to touch my lover too!
God this is really difficult to explain.
So for me it’s not necessarily a particular thing that tips me over the edge, of course I need physical stimulation, but it’s more a mental thing, a visual thing, an audible thing that does it for me.
For instance is I’m wearing my strapon, the straps underneath have to be rubbing in roughly the right area, but if my lover is really enjoying themselves it drives me crazy and that would definitely make me orgasm. (Several times! :lol smile

It's like if some 'tribing' is going on, yeah it's nice, but if one of us (or both) is talking dirty and making eye contact then it's going to work for me. It's the mental thing, the connection.
I know what I mean!

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Dlep
Very. But, I wouldn't get angry or annoyed. If I was able to "help things along" - either by using my hand to guide, or to position myself differently I would and smile. This means that if they are quick on the uptake, they would carry it on without actually me saying "you're doing it wrong".

:thumbup: yep there's definately a way to go about things without actually having to tell someone that they're doing it wrong. I find that it's best to guide people by saying things like.....mmmm I like it when you do that....or something along those lines normally works for me.

30 Mar 2007

Perhaps I should have added that I'm actually quite happy having sex and not cumming myself at all. As long as the other lady does!

30 Mar 2007

Not quite the topic, but hey ho!
I have very recently had one or two episodes where the physical ejaculation has taken place, but without the orgasm…. if that makes any sense. :huh:
Odd or what

30 Mar 2007

Quote by celestria
I rarely cum through penetration alone if I haven't cum by other means first. Oral for me is the easiest way to cum, even more so if I'm being penetrated at the same time but then it's more of an all over orgasm than a clitoral or penetrative one if you know what I mean.
Once I've had one orgasm the next one(s) seem to come along easier and easier each time until I get to the "kicking off" stage And yes it's not unknown for me to kick out when I've had about as much as I can take.
If, for whatever reason, it just ain't happening then I will nudge things into the right spot, or give harder, faster, slower, more gentle comands until I lose the ability to speak After all the only person you're cheating by faking it is yourself
Does that answer your question Dark? :lol: :lol:

Whoops there goes another bedside lamp surprised

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30 Mar 2007

Quote by winchwench
And yes it's not unknown for me to kick out when I've had about as much as I can take.

Whoops there goes another bedside lamp redface

Or "oh shit sorry... did i hurt you hunny????... Well it's your fault... you know what happens when you push me" :giggle:

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
Bear with me on this one - I know what I want to ask, along a similar line to the Scene Replay thread... but it aint coming out right! ...but, its Friday, we're due a sex-related thread, so I'm trying ..
From previous discussions and threads here, I'm aware that there's not that many of us who can orgasm at the drop of a hat (aka through penetration alone) and something else is usually required to tip you over the edge - clit stimulation being the main one but I'm curious about any others that really hit your spot and, for want of a better word, guarantee an orgasm For me its fingers, so I'm easily pleased if they're doing it right :lol: However, I have had play partners in the past who just didn't 'get' that something very specific is needed to bring me to orgasm...like in films (and porn) where sex scenes almost always end with the fem cumming through penetration - when actually it's not really like that! (or is it? :lol
I've always found it incredibly difficult to orgasm through penetration alone...it can take me right to the edge...but never actually over it , no matter how horny I am! In fact, if I'm that horny, I kinda cant orgasm at all, until it builds to the point of exploding :lol2: Is anyone else the same ? (male or female )
So I guess the actual question is... is there one particular thing that will make you orgasm? the 'when all else fails' button? can you go right to the edge but not over it without this particular thing? ..and, what is it!? Or, are you one of the lucky people who can cum for England pretty easily? and (edited to add...) Oooo, sudden thought! :idea: - is there anyone who cant orgasm without penetration? :dunno:
Go on, have a bash (pun intended ) :thumbup:

As a matter of interest do you orgasm with penatrative sex with your regular partner? There was some research (sorry can't remember where I read it) that "A women won't have an orgasm unless SHE wants one. You can physically facilitate the process but unless she wants to orgasm she will hold back." Do you think that there are occasions where subconciously you don't allow yourself to orgasm until you have reached a level of mental comfort?

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Jemlet
As a matter of interest do you orgasm with penatrative sex with your regular partner? There was some research (sorry can't remember where I read it) that "A women won't have an orgasm unless SHE wants one. You can physically facilitate the process but unless she wants to orgasm she will hold back." Do you think that there are occasions where subconciously you don't allow yourself to orgasm until you have reached a level of mental comfort?

To answer this - not sure if it was to me personally or to the thread contributors in general... but penetration alone is not enough, with anyone dunno

I do agree that usually women in particular have to reach a mental level of comfort before she'll 'allow' orgasm to happen.... but I'm very much in the minority with my other thoughts on this so am perhaps not the person to ask lol

30 Mar 2007

I read the hair thing and :quiver:
can I be first in the queue? lol

:twisted:

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire

As a matter of interest do you orgasm with penatrative sex with your regular partner? There was some research (sorry can't remember where I read it) that "A women won't have an orgasm unless SHE wants one. You can physically facilitate the process but unless she wants to orgasm she will hold back." Do you think that there are occasions where subconciously you don't allow yourself to orgasm until you have reached a level of mental comfort?

To answer this - not sure if it was to me personally or to the thread contributors in general... but penetration alone is not enough, with anyone dunno

I do agree that usually women in particular have to reach a mental level of comfort before she'll 'allow' orgasm to happen.... but I'm very much in the minority with my other thoughts on this so am perhaps not the person to ask lol

sorry I was a bit vague - you and the other thread contributors. I was wondering in some vague sort of friday night way if you were more likely to come with penetration alone with a regular partner but you clarified that xxx

30 Mar 2007

Is it the red wine talking, or do I recall a thread on "forced orgasms"? dunno

30 Mar 2007

Quote by varca
it's having pressure put on that space betwixt your lady bits and your naval whilst being penetrated... Ohh I'm not doing very well in explaining lol,

not sure why I enjoy it, but during oral, I like to put a little presure on that area with hands... arms under and around the legs, over the hips, and palms, tips of fingers pressing downd, maybe rubbing that *zone* you speak of... seems to be enjoyed..hehe Though I have no idea why I like to do that!
lp

30 Mar 2007

Quote by winchwench
Is it the red wine talking, or do I recall a thread on "forced orgasms"?

you do

but i was trying to stay away from that one and do more of a 'what do you need to take you over the hill' discussion :lol:

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
Is it the red wine talking, or do I recall a thread on "forced orgasms"?

you do

but i was trying to stay away from that one and do more of a 'what do you need to take you over the hill' discussion :lol:
I didn't say a word! :gagged:

30 Mar 2007

me either! innocent

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
me either!

You don't have to.... rolleyes

31 Mar 2007

Quote by Jemlet
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As a matter of interest do you orgasm with penatrative sex with your regular partner? There was some research (sorry can't remember where I read it) that "A women won't have an orgasm unless SHE wants one. You can physically facilitate the process but unless she wants to orgasm she will hold back." Do you think that there are occasions where subconciously you don't allow yourself to orgasm until you have reached a level of mental comfort?

Yes!!!

Me again! This is probably why a lot of the time we will cum at the same time- I'm usually holding off, and when i hear den is about to cum then it sends me over the edge and I cum too.
If den is in one of his 'cum all over you' moods, then i sometimes don't orgasm cos I'm holding off until he does, so then when he pulls out, I don't have the penetration to make me cum! Usually there's a toy on hand mind.... :twisted: :twisted:
Maybe thats the reason I cum so easily from penetration only??
Maz xx

31 Mar 2007

ive never had an orgasm from penetration of any kind, ive only ever been able to orgasm through clitoral stimulation, by me . very self sufficient i am lol

i used to think that ive been doing it myself for so long that no one else is ever going to learn how to do it! ive often got very close to it from quite hard shaggin or fingers. fingers done well is amazing, orgasm or not lol and dirty talk, that never fails to help me along!
im recently out of a longer term serious and normal (lol) relationship and ive found myself more orgasmic and easier to orgasm with him, during pretty mainstream sex (thats not a bad thing, its been wonderful to have that intimacy) than i ever have been during various swinging experiences.
its never been an issue for me in terms of being horny or having a great time and i wouldnt say ive ever over-focussed on it therefore keeping it at bay. i would say tho, that ive often foucssed on the other persons pleasure and im not always so comfortable to be the centre of attention.
i would say though, that it is about letting go and feeling comfortable? ive always had short term, even one night, sexual partners and maybe that level of trust from me just isnt there? then of course theres all the blokes that have told me im the only woman theyve not been able to bring off...when according to statistics theres loads of women like me?
what do blokes think? do they see a woman who doesnt orgasm by their hand but by her own as some sort of failiure on their part? or as a wierd woman? lol

31 Mar 2007

Mrs Tweeky has never come from penetration alone it always involves some kind of clitoral stimulation at the same time. I have in the past banged away in different positions with Mrs Tweeky on the edge as it were but the black spots always appear before my eyes before she ever gets there. She hasent cum from penatrive sex with anyone else either not that there are many others. On the odd time she does come from penetration with clitoral stimulation then its nearly always a cum together moment :mrgreen: Our most common way though is simple dirty talk biggrin

mutual masterbation whilst talking about whatever or whoever is on our minds at the time. I can play with Mrs Tweeky until she cums but the second I talk about whatever it is I know she wants to hear at that moment the whole thing speeds up smile

Cheers

31 Mar 2007

Quote by sexkittenhfx
what do blokes think? do they see a woman who doesnt orgasm by their hand but by her own as some sort of failiure on their part? or as a wierd woman? lol

Nope - just a challenge! :giggle:
Seriously, I've met a small number of women who can only orgasm by self stimulation. Sometimes it's a physical thing, sometimes timing, sometimes it's to do with loss of control/mental attitude, but I tend to think it's one of those things that's more common than people will admit.
That said, I've never known it to be a big problem for the woman, or me.

31 Mar 2007

Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
Hadn't really answered this because TBH I orgasm quite easily.
I can orgasm through penetration alone, but if a guy's not quite getting me there I can just get on top of him and do it myself

Quote by Darkfire
jammy cow :lol2:

Ah . . . . . . . .
So that's what you actually mean when you say "Let's switch. I want to sit on the cock" ????????????????

31 Mar 2007

Quote by dambuster
Hadn't really answered this because TBH I orgasm quite easily.
I can orgasm through penetration alone, but if a guy's not quite getting me there I can just get on top of him and do it myself

Quote by Darkfire
jammy cow :lol2:

Ah . . . . . . . .
So that's what you actually mean when you say "Let's switch. I want to sit on the cock" ????????????????

All together now :
'awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww'

31 Mar 2007

Quote by mazandden

You can cum on demand?? :shock:

31 Oct 2007

Quote by winchwench
Is it the red wine talking, or do I recall a thread on "forced orgasms"?

are you in every thread on here..... rolleyes

31 Oct 2007

i can only come during penetration alone with 1 person n thats not dek but i kept him as a fuk bud biggrin

:D :D not sure quite what it is what makes me come during penetration with him and not anyone else but it bloody well works
when i need to get there n b tipped over the edge maybe bacause its taking to long etc i have a few little imagitative thoughts that i have n they always work for me little fantasies if u like