P'd Off

29 Sep 2004

This is a general rant..... I've had a crap week so far and the only (apparently) supportive comments have been:
"If you think things are going to be crap....they will be"
"Stop thinking about things so much"
"Always remember that there is someone worse off than you"
"If you try smiling, you'll feel better"
etc etc etc etc
I know all of that but it doesn't bloody help!
To make matters worse, I have this horrible cold/flu thing that a lot of others have (so they'll know just how bad it makes you feel), I can't seem to have a conversation with someone without it turning into an argument, my pet hamster died today, no one ever answers their bloody phone when I want to speak to them, I had Barclaycard on the phone 4 times tonight trying to sell me something....once I can handle, but 4 times???? Do they not communicate?, my inbox is full of spam (156 in just one day!), I have to go to work tomorrow......
Maybe I'm in need of a holiday......?
Rant over.
Apologies.... this is a "look at me" thread and I don't care at this moment in time.....(although I'll probably go and delete it in the morning!)

29 Sep 2004

Ok, well... rather than showering you with platitudes, I'll tell you that you have nice boobs.

29 Sep 2004

Sounds like you need a little TLC. You have my empathy. Grab yourself a tall drink and long hot bath. Don't forget your fav CD.
Take it easy pet.

29 Sep 2004

erm yeah.... well let me say why dont you, run a nice hot bubble bath, light a few scented candles around the tub , play some nice chilled Music and lay back and relax. Now that should help i reckon.
Oh yes and you definately have nice boobs... great boobs!
Magik

29 Sep 2004

Quote by onlyme1981
I know all of that but it doesn't bloody help!
To make matters worse, I have this horrible cold/flu thing that a lot of others have (so they'll know just how bad it makes you feel), I can't seem to have a conversation with someone without it turning into an argument, my pet hamster died today, no one ever answers their bloody phone when I want to speak to them, I had Barclaycard on the phone 4 times tonight trying to sell me something....once I can handle, but 4 times???? Do they not communicate?, my inbox is full of spam (156 in just one day!), I have to go to work tomorrow......
Maybe I'm in need of a holiday......?
Rant over.
Apologies.... this is a "look at me" thread and I don't care at this moment in time.....(although I'll probably go and delete it in the morning!)

Stuff Barclaycard... .cut the card in to little bits & post it back to them. I never get calls from them, so perhaps you should find out if you have "allowed" them to ring you. Its easy to stop the calls.
Been doing the cold thing for FOUR weeks... sad

... & I think I've finally got rid of it Hooray!
Do something about your inbox being full of spam. Change your ISP. I know its a hassle, but I changed to Demon, & the spam stopped immediately due to the special software they use.
Life will get better.

29 Sep 2004

Onlyme :therethere: :therethere:
You sound like you're beyond the advice stage, so there's only one thing for it ......
Grab your quilt to snuggle under on the sofa. Put on a good ol fashioned girly DVD, grab a bottle of wine and a big tub of Hagan Daaz (spelling? dunno

oh well you're gonna eat it, not write it lol) - and just wallow. No thinking, no worrying - just pure indulgence. cool

Won't solve any problems, but will take your mind off em for a while 8-)

29 Sep 2004

Quote by onlyme1981

Apologies.... this is a "look at me" thread and I don't care at this moment in time.....(although I'll probably go and delete it in the morning!)

well as this is a look at me thread...i am doing and have to say mighty fine breasts my dear.

29 Sep 2004

Yes it does look like another "look at me" thread. Is this the only way some of you can communicate with each other?
Shit happens. You're supposed to be an adult, deal with it ffs.
Steve

29 Sep 2004

theres your answer above ..........
we all have bad moments, days, weeks,months years and so and so on i agree with steve nw shit happens deal with it your an adult.
surely you have family, freinds ect in the real world who should help you with your problems instead of strangers from around the counrty offering there advice and support ...............................
im pissed off that i have not won the lottery and have to be up at 6-30am again but hey the real world is a tough place

29 Sep 2004

That's a bit harsh Steve..... I know how she feels to be honest...
I too am having a moderately shite week, but then mine are financial and children type worries.... As most people know Steve works from 4pm till midnight so I dont really have anyone to talk to about these things as I get the same level of support from people I know as Onlyme...
For me it's nice to know that people here are willing to listen and talk you through your problems...
Onlyme passionkiss

Bugger all else I can offer babe sorry, but it's sent with love
Shireen
xxx

29 Sep 2004

Nothing wrong with a `look at me` thread if a shoulder is needed. It`s great to see that Onlyme feels she has friends enough here to help. Very adult of her to acknowledge this as an approach too. smile

((((((((hugs))))))))
Venusxxx

29 Sep 2004

This poor lady's feeling awful and all you guys can do is stare at her tits (as nice as they are )
I am ashamed of you lads (even if they are outstanding) rolleyes

Hope you get better soon ...take Misty's advice a nice snuggle , a nice film , and a nice mouthfulll ...bliss wink

29 Sep 2004

Quote by niceguysdoexist
This poor lady's feeling awful and all you guys can do is stare at her tits (as nice as they are )
I am ashamed of you lads (even if they are outstanding)
:

Guys?!....................oh redface

:twisted:
Venusxxx

29 Sep 2004

onlyme,
ignore the previous few comments . . . sometimes we all do it, and need it! ((( some of you should know better ffs! :mad: )))
i know kind of how you're feeling . . . .
i hesitate to patronise you with a :therethere:
it's crap i know . . . . but come in here and rant and piss and moan all you bloody like . . . . some of us get it and feel for you! kiss

hope you're better soon onlyme!
neil x x x ;)

29 Sep 2004

Quote by HORNYLONDON123
surely you have family, freinds ect in the real world who should help you with your problems instead of strangers from around the counrty offering there advice and support ...............................
im pissed off that i have not won the lottery and have to be up at 6-30am again but hey the real world is a tough place

Sometimes it's easier to tell strangers/friends online than it is friends/family & if we can only come on the forum to play "shimey happy people" then you don't get a true idea of the person inside. Quite often in the forum ppl are told to post in order for everyone else to get to know the true/genuine person behind the avatar how can we do this if we are only allowed to post in happy mode, yeah life's a bitch to all of us but there are times in life that it gets to you more. ok rant over
Keep your chin up onlyme & hope your feeling better soon Hun :therethere:

29 Sep 2004

She was feeling like shit, so she posted on an internet messageboard.
My opinion is that if you want to offer sympathy, go ahead. If you don't care about her problems, just ignore the thread - there are plenty of others to read. But don't start giving her more grief.

29 Sep 2004

Quote by lilacgem

surely you have family, freinds ect in the real world who should help you with your problems instead of strangers from around the counrty offering there advice and support ...............................
im pissed off that i have not won the lottery and have to be up at 6-30am again but hey the real world is a tough place

Sometimes it's easier to tell strangers/friends online than it is friends/family & if we can only come on the forum to play "shimey happy people" then you don't get a true idea of the person inside. Quite often in the forum ppl are told to post in order for everyone else to get to know the true/genuine person behind the avatar how can we do this if we are only allowed to post in happy mode, yeah life's a bitch to all of us but there are times in life that it gets to you more. ok rant over
Keep your chin up onlyme & hope your feeling better soon Hun :therethere:

29 Sep 2004

Quote by steveg_nw
Shit happens. You're supposed to be an adult, deal with it ffs.

Many people find posting on an Internet message board a very effective way of "dealing with" stress. I know I do. mad

Onlyme, it sounds like you're having a really bad week. Especially the hamster! Animals can worm your way under your skin, look at you like you're the God of their little world, and when you can't stop something terrible from happening to them, it can be shocking. And telemarketers are the bane of some people's lives (though not me; for some reason they never ring me). My Grandparents used to suffer terribly from them, until I entered their number on (it's free!), and since then they've barely been bothered.
Hugs.

30 Sep 2004

Onlyme,i know how you feel especially this week hun,and if you feel like a rant to get it off your chest and make you feel better then go ahead and relieve your stress.
This is an internet forum where peeps have bad days as well as good ones ,bad experiences as well as funny ones.I have discovered to say what youve gotta say is the very best way and its that simple.
Onlyme if you wanna chat without getting scrutinised for it,then feel free to pm me any time!

30 Sep 2004

Hello, bit of a long one this. I wasn't going to reflect on the posts I thought were negative but I do feel the need to add some of my opinions.
Firstly I want to explain why I posted this thread..... Yes we all have bad days but different people cope in different ways. Normally I bottle things up and all the hurt and pain etc never sees the light of day but yesterday was different.
I'm tired of having to bottle things up and keep a smile on my face even though things are crap. Sure, I am willing to do that most of the time but yesterday I just needed a release so I thought I'd vent my frustrations on here..... people do it all the time, why should I be singled out and made to feel like a child having a tantrum?
Maybe I was having a tantrum but as I have no one else to turn to (so you were wrong there HornyLondon123) I thought I'd see if I could be cheered up by some strangers on a swinging site whom I've never met (tongue in cheek that was!)
We are real people - we are talking in a virtual world but we are real. Not everyone is happy all the time and I think people get uncomfortable with that fact. Some people choose to bitch at others when they've had a bad day, others choose to just sit and watch whats going on, others choose to make light of it. I chose to post a thread of how I'm feeling in general. I didn't bitch at anyone....yeah I moaned a bit but I didn't really do anything wrong.
I'm sorry if this thread wasn't to some people's liking but there are plenty of other threads to read. I will probably now be labelled as someone who's seeking attention etc but to be honest, I'm past caring. Almost all of my posts are well thought and I take a great deal of time over them. I usually check to see if it may offend someone or upset someone in any way etc etc. I'm there to offer advice and support when someone needs it, I like to have a laugh and I like most discussions on here.
This thread was a bit out of the blue for me but rather than slate me and be harsh on me why not just ignore it? Everyone has difficulties in life and everyone chooses to deal with them in a different manner....as I said earlier I normally choose to refrain from shouting out as I don't actually like attention being brought upon myself. I'm sure everyone has posted something that's going to make them self-indulgent for a while.
Secondly, thank you to those of you (most of you in fact) who supported me and gave some really nice advice. kiss

I'm feeling a bit better today - still have the cold/flu thing but I'll be fine.
smile

30 Sep 2004

good on you onlyme!
i think it's been said before, but apparently this cafe is about the social, friendship side of swinging. and it's also been said that being open and honest in the things we choose to talk about is the way forward. if the threads not to your liking, read another one! quite easy!
the day we can't come here, and talk to friends about anything whatsoever, is the day the cafe changes for good! and for me at least, it becomes redundant.
neil x x x ;)

30 Sep 2004

You have taken the first step my acknowledging your problems. Feeling ill only makes things worse.
If its any consolation, I too am having a crap week and along with a chest infection and PMT silly

hwoar: , its making it a hell of a lot worse.
Be kind to yourself and life will get better.
kiss

30 Sep 2004

I am so pissed off at the moment I can't be bothered to fini.....................................

30 Sep 2004

Quote by steveg_nw
Yes it does look like another "look at me" thread. Is this the only way some of you can communicate with each other?
Shit happens. You're supposed to be an adult, deal with it ffs.
Steve

OOOOOOOOH :shock: :shock: I can feel the luuuuuurve streaming out of every one of your orrifices Steveg lol

:lol: sometimes we cant deal with it. Remember your rant on getting a speeding ticket ................................................................................................ rolleyes

:roll:

30 Sep 2004

Quote by steveg_nw
Yes it does look like another "look at me" thread. Is this the only way some of you can communicate with each other?
Shit happens. You're supposed to be an adult, deal with it ffs.
Steve

Quote by HORNYLONDON123
theres your answer above ..........
we all have bad moments, days, weeks,months years and so and so on i agree with steve nw shit happens deal with it your an adult.
surely you have family, freinds ect in the real world who should help you with your problems instead of strangers from around the counrty offering there advice and support ...............................
im pissed off that i have not won the lottery and have to be up at 6-30am again but hey the real world is a tough place

Gratuitous violence! The Sam Peckinpahs of SH??

30 Sep 2004

Negativity is the hiding place of the insecure.
I for one am glad that I posted my "look at me thread" a few days ago.
lb

30 Sep 2004

I don't think steve_nw is getting his oats!!
Cheer up steve...worse things happen at sea....even you or Horny may win the lottery!
"Look at me" I'm a sad git ..let the girl have her moment ..we all know how she feels...
Ok..back to me bottle of Chile's finest Chardonay.. in ASDA ....cheers
Best wishes onlyme1981..could be me next :cry:

30 Sep 2004

Quote by bigdog69
I don't think steve_nw is getting his oats!!
Cheer up steve...worse things happen at sea....even you or Horny may win the lottery!
"Look at me" I'm a sad git ..let the girl have her moment ..we all know how she feels...
Ok..back to me bottle of Chile's finest Chardonay.. in ASDA ....cheers
Best wishes onlyme1981..could be me next :cry:

Spot on mate...only three posts and you've caught the spirit of things on this site and have echoed my own thoughts.
I happened to know that Onlyme1981 is the sort of person to put others before herself. Her posts are always well thought out and well written. She has a genuine deep concern for others and and far too modest opinion of her own self! She is truly one of the best contributors on this site, only posting after much deliberation, never out of a need to 'look at me'. Far from it! Therefore if she wants to talk about her 'crap' week openly then why not! She deserves our sympathy as she has given so much in return anyway! Others will identify with her feelings and maybe want to open up themselves to talking and why not! This is a community after all and she is a worthy member and deserves to have her say.
Shit happens! Deal with it! Well she is dealing with...by talking about it! Who ever said we must just shut up and deal things on our own...only in our strange fucked up culture that's where! I tell you what...people have feelings and have a shit time and they need to talk about it...So, deal with it and offer something constructive to say, instead of lousy cliches!
LC wink

30 Sep 2004

Echoing the positive comments here onlyme, in a misery loves company thing I spent part of my week picking up 7 year olds with serious injuries (like one was airlifted for emergency surgery) Hitting me pretty hard as I have kids myself and I had Mum to look after as well as the casualty.
Remember you not alone, we all out there with problems to bear, but a problem shared is a problem halved, or something like that. I know I occasionally need to talk stuff through (like the 7 year old thing) and here is a good a steam let out when it needs to be.
As to those moaning about the thread (a small minority) this is an open forum, so they can. Equally this is a cafe, I always think of it like the 'Cheers' bar. The punters are not always happy, not always sad, but are here to share what they are today. So you keep on being yourself, and if in a small way our virtual shoulders help all for the better.

30 Sep 2004

(((((TnH)))))
I don`t know how yoou do the job that you do.
You have my greatest admiration :love:
Venusxxx