Phone calls

5 Sep 2005

Errrmm .... can I ask the men why when they say they want a chat on the phone to me do they then get me to pay for the call and promptly wank over the phone at me.
I am effectively a single woman (supposedly rare as gold dust and very valuable) and looking for someone to have a nice time with on a regular basis. If you men seriously want a lover, why do you behave in such a way, because for me its a real turn off and seems very selfish, as I thought (am I being naive here) they wanted to get to know me as a person not use me as a means to empty their balls mad

Dev

5 Sep 2005

I think you have found the difference between a man and a gentleman.
To be honest, I probably would'nt even bother calling them if they did'nt offer to call me first.
Tight bastards.

5 Sep 2005

Quote by walsh1712
I think you have found the difference between a man and a gentleman.
To be honest, I probably would'nt even bother calling them if they did'nt offer to call me first.
Tight bastards.

Yes I understand where you are coming from with the 'get them to call first' suggestion but thenyouhave to give them your phone number .. I tend to get theirs and use the 141 number witheld bit on an initial call so I can see what kind of man I am talking to first.
Its for this reason I am so shocked that on an inital call men would do this.
Dev

5 Sep 2005

Hi there Dev
Sorry you seem to have run into the bad uns lol we're not all like that honest!!
I'm in cornwall and would love a nice decent conversation i'm polite intelligent whitty charming lol well i'm ok wink

Drop me a PM if you want my number sorry to be forward (nothing ventured nothing gained redface

)
NCB

5 Sep 2005

Hi Double D :rascal: (sorry couldn't resist that one)
buy yourself a cheap pay as you go mobile (Â£20ish) you can give out the number and only switch it on when you are expecting a call. you could also insist that the hand shandy merchants don't withhold their number, that way if they do start anything undesireable you can either hang up or have some twisted evil fun with their number :twisted:
Most of the regulars in the forum seem to be honest, normal(ish) guys so don't let the idiots give us a bad rep

5 Sep 2005

Hi Dev,
Sorry to hear about your problems, there really are a lot of good people out there. I find that quite a few ladies like to screen potentials by using an online chat prog like MSN, ICQ or etc.
At least that way you get to have some conversational interaction and learn who the sad nutters and those who can't hold a conversation are, fairly early on but without the nastier heavy-breathing elements creeping in too soon!
But in any event, I hope things go better for you in the future biggrin

5 Sep 2005

we aint all bad, and shame that some mess thing up for others, hope you do find what you are looking for, and as said, in this thread, find a gentleman.

5 Sep 2005

Not quite the same DD but a little similar.
My other half used to work for National Rail Enquiries before it went overseas and she told me that her and her team regularly got calls from blokes trying to bang one out over the phone while trying to get them to talk dirty.
I almost felt sorry for the sad gits that have to do this sort of thing.I said almost but not quite.
Hope things you make it to the 2nd SW munch I'm sure you'll have more than enough people to talk to and find out there are nicer guys than you've had the misfortune to have contact with.
I'm sure NCB will try to make it this time if he isn't kidnapped again. biggrin

5 Sep 2005

I am sorry that you have been treated this way Devon.
I hope that you find the Gentlemen of Swinging Heaven a little more thought full.
John
smile

5 Sep 2005

Im not sure if this is strictly kosa, but what you could is get one of those air horn things. If they start they to wank over the phone at you, bring the Horne close to the handset and press it. This should make them think twice before doing it to someone else.
Also you could get a 2nd sim chip for your phone most cost around a Â£10 or so.

5 Sep 2005

Quote by devondelight
Errrmm .... can I ask the men why when they say they want a chat on the phone to me do they then get me to pay for the call

Quote by devondelight
Yes I understand where you are coming from with the 'get them to call first' suggestion but then you have to give them your phone number .. I tend to get theirs and use the 141 number witheld bit on an initial call so I can see what kind of man I am talking to first.

Actually i have to admit to being a little confused to your postings, if you don't want to give out your number but would rather have theirs and put 141 in why are u also moaning about the guys not paying for the call?
you can't have it both ways either u have to hand your number out or pay for the call yourself.

5 Sep 2005

Some good advice here, so I'm only repeating what others have said here (yeah, yeah, so why say it anyway rolleyes

).
Buying a cheap "swinging phone is a good idea, so you can give out the number but control when it is called. Definately get them to call you, so they may most probably be less likely to waste your time and their money! One thing you should certainly do is tell them you don't want phone sex of any kind before giving out your number, and you can quite legitimately tell the ones that try it anyway to piss off and stop being a wanker :lol2:

5 Sep 2005

I am a gentleman, when I speak to you DD, but you already know that dont you?
Ha! Ha! Ha!
Sandboy

5 Sep 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
Errrmm .... can I ask the men why when they say they want a chat on the phone to me do they then get me to pay for the call

Quote by devondelight
Yes I understand where you are coming from with the 'get them to call first' suggestion but then you have to give them your phone number .. I tend to get theirs and use the 141 number witheld bit on an initial call so I can see what kind of man I am talking to first.

Actually i have to admit to being a little confused to your postings, if you don't want to give out your number but would rather have theirs and put 141 in why are u also moaning about the guys not paying for the call?
you can't have it both ways either u have to hand your number out or pay for the call yourself.
Yes I know I haven't been very clear have I. I don't mind paying for a phone call but I don't like being treated like a sex chat line .. I should be getting paid for that not pay them to do it for me biggrin

(that is a joke)
All I want is a normal conversation on the phone which I don't mind paying for and then if I like the fella and think its worth persuing even if its only as a friend I will give out my phone number so they can phone me.
Dev

5 Sep 2005

Quote by sandboy
I am a gentleman, when I speak to you DD, but you already know that dont you?
Ha! Ha! Ha!
Sandboy

Ha .. as for you SB .. you are usually saying ... 'your not still on that phone are you?' .. but then thats because it's Mrs SB I am talking to most of the time lolol evil

Dev

5 Sep 2005

Don't waste anymore time fretting about it Dev. There are some sad tossers out there but there are also many thoroughly nice people too.
As soon as you realise someone's a tosser bin 'em and consign them to history.
:twisted:
ES
smile

:)

5 Sep 2005

Quote by devondelight
Errrmm .... can I ask the men why when they say they want a chat on the phone to me do they then get me to pay for the call

Quote by devondelight
Yes I understand where you are coming from with the 'get them to call first' suggestion but then you have to give them your phone number .. I tend to get theirs and use the 141 number witheld bit on an initial call so I can see what kind of man I am talking to first.

Actually i have to admit to being a little confused to your postings, if you don't want to give out your number but would rather have theirs and put 141 in why are u also moaning about the guys not paying for the call?
you can't have it both ways either u have to hand your number out or pay for the call yourself.
Yes I know I haven't been very clear have I. I don't mind paying for a phone call but I don't like being treated like a sex chat line .. I should be getting paid for that not pay them to do it for me biggrin

(that is a joke)
All I want is a normal conversation on the phone which I don't mind paying for and then if I like the fella and think its worth persuing even if its only as a friend I will give out my phone number so they can phone me.
Dev
well what you do with men like that is tell them if they want to chat they have to call you (after buying you cheap swinging phone lol) then while they in full throws of sex talk and wanking put the phone down (don't hang up) and go and peel the pototoes or something

5 Sep 2005

Quote by devondelight
I am effectively a single woman (supposedly rare as gold dust and very valuable) and looking for someone to have a nice time with on a regular basis. If you men seriously want a lover, why do you behave in such a way, because for me its a real turn off and seems very selfish, as I thought (am I being naive here) they wanted to get to know me as a person not use me as a means to empty their balls
Dev

Some people do want to get to know you and some people just want physical gratification.
There's nothing wrong with anything anyone wants to do, except when they tell you it's one thing when actually it's something else. And that goes for women just as much as men.
I think a lot of people get unnecessarily annoyed because they have expectations but don't say what those expectations are. If everyone were up front about what they're after there would be a lot less complaints. Your comment "If you men seriously want a lover..." makes me wonder: Did they tell you they're looking for a lover? You may have told them what you're looking for, but unless they've given you the same information it's not wise to make that assumption. After all, this isn't a dating agency.

5 Sep 2005

Quote by devondelight
Errrmm .... can I ask the men why when they say they want a chat on the phone to me do they then get me to pay for the call and promptly wank over the phone at me.
I am effectively a single woman (supposedly rare as gold dust and very valuable) and looking for someone to have a nice time with on a regular basis. If you men seriously want a lover, why do you behave in such a way, because for me its a real turn off and seems very selfish, as I thought (am I being naive here) they wanted to get to know me as a person not use me as a means to empty their balls
Dev

That is very bad news and give the rest of us guy a bad name, how about if you get to know me as Im new to the site and looking to make new friends of both sexes