Hi there,
I'm new here. My girlfriend and I want to have a threesome with another girl. We have been talking about it for a few months now and I want to do some stuff to make it happen.
Usually if I want to pick up a girl just myself I would just chat up someone in a pub or club.
I just wonder if any of you swingers ever pick up women as a couple when you go out to bars and clubs?
Cheers,
David
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Picking bi-girls in bars and clubs
picking up someone in a club or a bar sounds easier than posting an ad and then eventually picking someone from the 100s of replies which you may recieve who then lets you down , or if they turn up look nothing like there picture they sent you .
at least in a bar you can get a feeling if you all click straight away which saves time playing ping pong with e-mails and you can phyically talk rather than typing stuff .
and im sure it will be more fun meeting someone on the spur of the moment rather than weeks of e-mailing eachother.
myself and a girlfreind tried both and we had more sucess from the bars n clubs than we did using the internet as there seem to be many timewasters on the net who muck you about .
good luck to you .
at least in a bar you can get a feeling if you all click straight away which saves time playing ping pong with e-mails and you can phyically talk rather than typing stuff .
and im sure it will be more fun meeting someone on the spur of the moment rather than weeks of e-mailing eachother.
myself and a girlfreind tried both and we had more sucess from the bars n clubs than we did using the internet as there seem to be many timewasters on the net who muck you about .
good luck to you .
Interesting. Thanks "guy4fun".
Did you and your GF pick up in mainstream or gay bars? Was it just like going out with the lads and hitting on women?
Maybe stupid questions. Should just try it for myself. I think we will go out for a drink tonight and see what happens. We are both off work tomorrow.
Did you and your GF pick up in mainstream or gay bars? Was it just like going out with the lads and hitting on women?
Maybe stupid questions. Should just try it for myself. I think we will go out for a drink tonight and see what happens. We are both off work tomorrow.
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Did you and your GF pick up in mainstream or gay bars?
:shock: I don't know about the larger city gay areas - but you and your gf try picking up a bi girl in any other gay bar I know and you're both probably going to get a black eye!!!
Not recommended from this quarter!
Same as, 'Bows. We both agree, from knowledge of gay bars here and in the US.
i always get hit on in the gay bars by the bi girls usually when im fixing my lippy at the mirror ,guys different story millions of pms and emails but only once at a bus stop by a lad so fooked on smack probebly, it took him five minutes to realise and then i got a shit i fought u was a bird , well i am kinda lol the other was in naps in manchester where a guy with two pints stood next to me for ten minutes looking me up and down with a bog eyed stare well i think that was his way of hitting on me i seem to scare the hell out of guys either that or im pig ugly 
Hmmm, well I don't want anyone to be getting a black eye.
Well I think the best thing to do is give it a go. We will try out straight places and gay places and see what happens. I don't think anyone will get a black eye though.
Having a threesome is an enjoyable and common fantasy/experience. if you meet some nice people in bar, have a laugh, things get flirty and you end up going home with them ... well it's all good... and if you not interested then that is fine too.
Just like going out and picking up straight birds in clubs.
Well I think the best thing to do is give it a go. We will try out straight places and gay places and see what happens. I don't think anyone will get a black eye though.
Having a threesome is an enjoyable and common fantasy/experience. if you meet some nice people in bar, have a laugh, things get flirty and you end up going home with them ... well it's all good... and if you not interested then that is fine too.
Just like going out and picking up straight birds in clubs.
Sex God
We only pick them up if theyre really really drunk , and they look like someone might trip over them.
Sex God
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I have neither been picked up by nor have 'pulled' a couple in a bar or club. How do they know I am bi? How do I know the couple I may fancy would be appreciative of my sexuality?
Personally, SH is the only place I have been approached by couples, and where I have felt comfortable enough to reveal my love of both sexes from a 'pulling' point of view.
Personally, SH is the only place I have been approached by couples, and where I have felt comfortable enough to reveal my love of both sexes from a 'pulling' point of view.
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Hmmm, well I don't want anyone to be getting a black eye.
Well I think the best thing to do is give it a go. We will try out straight places and gay places and see what happens. I don't think anyone will get a black eye though.
Having a threesome is an enjoyable and common fantasy/experience. if you meet some nice people in bar, have a laugh, things get flirty and you end up going home with them ... well it's all good... and if you not interested then that is fine too.
Just like going out and picking up straight birds in clubs.
Can I ask if you assume that most girls in a gay bar will be bi? Or that even the straight women in there will want to be "pulled" Alot of straight women like frequenting the mainly lesbian bars purely because they don't want to be hit on! And I can assure you that most women in a lesbian bar would not take kindly to a straight couple looking for a threesome.
Yes - a threesome is a common and enjoyable experience. I know - because I have had a few in my time. But I would prefer to get to know the couple first! I think you'd be a lot better off looking for a bi fem on a site like this, rather than trying to "pull" in a gay bar. And I can assure you - although I may be bi (okay so only about 10%) - when I am in my gay bar I am 100% lesbian! Not going to go into the reason or politics here (have done that in other threads).
Just please do me a favour and have respect for the clientele of the gay bar you choose.
Yeah, but we are not a straight couple. My girlfriend is bisexual.
I see what you mean though. I don't want to upset anyone. It is just a part of sexuality. We are not going to be pushy with anyone - just flirty.
I have put an ad up and maybe something will come of that...but I'm not really in to the whole internet dating thing. If you are confident and attractive and don't mind introducing yourself to new people then I find it easier just to go out on the social scene...at least that is what I do when I am single and want to pull a new girl...just wondered if anyone does the same for threesomes...
I see what you mean though. I don't want to upset anyone. It is just a part of sexuality. We are not going to be pushy with anyone - just flirty.
I have put an ad up and maybe something will come of that...but I'm not really in to the whole internet dating thing. If you are confident and attractive and don't mind introducing yourself to new people then I find it easier just to go out on the social scene...at least that is what I do when I am single and want to pull a new girl...just wondered if anyone does the same for threesomes...
Orgasminator
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Hmmm, well I don't want anyone to be getting a black eye.
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Just please do me a favour and have respect for the clientele of the gay bar you choose.
I've been to a few gay pubs and a club in Derby a couple of times with a gay mate of mine... it was funny overhearing the people in there wispering "He's blody straight" as tho that was a sin
The funny thing is I was wearing a white long sleved "jumper/t-shirt" (Think rick ashley) and have been told numerous times by friends (male and female) that I really shouldnt wear it as it makes me look so gay :shock: Oh well go figure :lol: :lol: :lol:
On a sadder note I have to say that the shirt is no more having been turned into a prop for a slash/fetish style shoot and looks like freddy cruger has been at it
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Hmmm, well I don't want anyone to be getting a black eye.
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Just please do me a favour and have respect for the clientele of the gay bar you choose.
I've been to a few gay pubs and a club in Derby a couple of times with a gay mate of mine... it was funny overhearing the people in there wispering "He's blody straight" as tho that was a sin
Reminds me of when I was in a club in sarf london. Girl I 'picked up' told me that she and her friends thought I was a policeman :shock: presumably undercover and checking out the clientele for naughty behaviour.
Me and my gf go to one gay bar/club a lot. Mainly because it is a fun place to go and we always get in free ( and sometimes free drinks) because we are friends with some of the bar staff.
Have totally been guilty of snogging in there. No one seems to mind too much though. I am just friendly but back off when guys hit on me. I don't mind it.
The way I see it we aren't some straight couple fraudulently trying to take advantage of some scene where we shouldn't be. My girlfriend is bisexual, it is part of our sexuality, and like it or not we are part of the scene.
Have totally been guilty of snogging in there. No one seems to mind too much though. I am just friendly but back off when guys hit on me. I don't mind it.
The way I see it we aren't some straight couple fraudulently trying to take advantage of some scene where we shouldn't be. My girlfriend is bisexual, it is part of our sexuality, and like it or not we are part of the scene.
Sex God
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the other was in naps in manchester where a guy with two pints stood next to me for ten minutes looking me up and down with a bog eyed stare well i think that was his way of hitting on me i seem to scare the hell out of guys either that or im pig ugly
Ah, well.... ask Satin or Judy or Mal about the stalker I have in Naps. Aw, he's a little old man and he follows me round like a puppy dog..... aw bless......
Men always try to cop off in there..... but most of 'em are the dregs of society that we'd just ban if they logged on here
... seriously, that place attracts so many desperate guys who completely lack any social skills at all...... :roll: . Oh, I tell a lie, one offered to buy me a drink once :roll: ... trouble is I can't accept cos they all think I'm a tranny and they'd be disappointed, I think :twisted: .In answer to the question - I think a couple going hitting on women in gay bars would be dodgy. You might get lucky but it really isn't likely. Most of them would tell you to fuck off straight away... remember that most bi and gay girls in bars are NOT swingers, they are there for a laugh so they would get really annoyed. I wouldn't get my hopes up if I were you.
I have a lesbian friend who was approached by a couple in a gay bar once. They were a little persistent and she reported them to the bar staff. They were immediately ejected. Be warned.
