Picking Your Victims

13 Mar 2007

Where do you like to pick your victims :twisted: . In that I mean where do you have the most success or where do you prefer meeting potential playmates?
Chatrooms
Forums
The ad sections
Munches/Socials
clubs
None of the above, or maybe all of the above.
What are the reasons for your preferences?
Personally weve had the most success from the photo ads and the chatrooms, where potential playmates are concerned. We dont really have any preference as to where we would like to meet potential playmates but it has just happened like that for us.
The forums to me are more about friendship/fun than playing. I know alot of flirting goes on but I see it as harmless and not to be taken too seriously ( sometimes) wink

Munches/Socials - have only been to one so that dont really count, even though i did see/talk to someone i liked but didnt have the guts to follow it up redface

So where do you pick your victims?
Louise xx

13 Mar 2007

its the forums and the good old search button for me biggrin

13 Mar 2007

I tend to 'develop an interest' in someone from their posts/ post style ...then profile....and then follow it up at a social or Munch to see what they're like in person dunno

Its probably the first face to face couple of minutes that are the crucial factor for me, I tend to either 'click' with someone, or I dont, and that's wayyyy before the 'potential victim' thought enters my head lol

There have been occasions though where I've met someone at a social without knowing anything about them at all, and the 'magnetism' is there, immediately :dunno:
I'm not a fan of the photo ads to be honest - they're good for 'additional information' once my interest is perked, but it just doesnt work for me to simply 'see someone in an ad and reply to it' :dunno:

13 Mar 2007

Has to be chatrooms for me - you get a 'feel' for ahem... the victim's personality :giggle:
but in the chatroom we all eventually meet up in a club or a mini social type thing at someones house & have a few drinks
I've met some fantastic & wonderful people at Socials & Munches!!!
I don't wanna spurt out sound bites but at Socials & Munches I don't go looking for potential playmates!
I'm a tad shy & I like to have a giggle & say hi to a few peeps who I've conversed with but five mins after I get very embarrassed coz I cant remember their names! redface

just getting known seems to work for me I guess
Doing the photo adds thing wont work with me coz as I've said I cant be arsed... (read that as bleedin shy)
So if I dont say hello please forgive me peeps?

13 Mar 2007

im gonna have to say photo ads i think. coz thats where i started and were i met people from....then i found the forum and got involved in the social scene and took a break from the action for a while. ive copped off at munches of course cool

but ive not actively sought any meets for a looooooong time now. if and when i do go looking for victims in the future, i think id go for a mixture of forum, chatrooms and ads.......to widen my choices :P

13 Mar 2007

Victims?

Erm, I'm usually made interested or atleast aware by the combination of the chat room and forums to begin with......then Munches.....:twisted:
But, I wouldn't know anything about being a Munch whore, oh no...... innocent

23 and counting.... lol

13 Mar 2007

I'd usuallu answer "forum" and "munches" to this but as I've not been on this site for ages, my most recent victims have been lured from the chatroom. :twisted:

13 Mar 2007

I have met most people from here through the ads section.
I've met a few through munchies, but these were unintentional. Met them, clicked, and it went from there.
The one person I've met through the forums, actually answered one of my ads, but he did recognise me from the forums.
There are a number of people I'd like to meet from the forums, not necessarily in a sexual way, but I'm too scared to pm them!!! redface

13 Mar 2007

Quote by redangel
I have met most people from here through the ads section.
I've met a few through munchies, but these were unintentional. Met them, clicked, and it went from there.
The one person I've met through the forums, actually answered one of my ads, but he did recognise me from the forums.
There are a number of people I'd like to meet from the forums, not necessarily in a sexual way, but I'm too scared to pm them!!!

I feel like that too, scared i mean, to approach fellow forum users( not all of them). Why is that I wonder dunno

Louise xx

13 Mar 2007

Quote by louise_and_joe
I have met most people from here through the ads section.
I've met a few through munchies, but these were unintentional. Met them, clicked, and it went from there.
The one person I've met through the forums, actually answered one of my ads, but he did recognise me from the forums.
There are a number of people I'd like to meet from the forums, not necessarily in a sexual way, but I'm too scared to pm them!!!

I feel like that too, scared i mean, to approach fellow forum users( not all of them). Why is that I wonder dunno

Louise xx
forum users are the people that seem to know us best, we dont really have a reason to be scared to approach them....but i know what you mean x

13 Mar 2007

Intially we used the ads to find a 'victim' and then the forum. Then we moved on to having some success from munches but more recently we have both found our 'victims' in the chatroom dunno

13 Mar 2007

All of our victims have been from the forum! (all 75 of them innocent

) :giggle:

13 Mar 2007

Quote by louise_and_joe
I have met most people from here through the ads section.
I've met a few through munchies, but these were unintentional. Met them, clicked, and it went from there.
The one person I've met through the forums, actually answered one of my ads, but he did recognise me from the forums.
There are a number of people I'd like to meet from the forums, not necessarily in a sexual way, but I'm too scared to pm them!!!

I feel like that too, scared i mean, to approach fellow forum users( not all of them). Why is that I wonder dunno

Louise xx
pm them and be damned, god dammit lol

if you're not pm'ing in the first instance in a sexual way....and perhaps wouldnt mind meeting up for a coffee and natter simply cos they're someone you're familiar with from the cafe and fancy saying hello to...I really really cant see what anyone could say to that for you to be scared of :dunno:

13 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
I have met most people from here through the ads section.
I've met a few through munchies, but these were unintentional. Met them, clicked, and it went from there.
The one person I've met through the forums, actually answered one of my ads, but he did recognise me from the forums.
There are a number of people I'd like to meet from the forums, not necessarily in a sexual way, but I'm too scared to pm them!!!

I feel like that too, scared i mean, to approach fellow forum users( not all of them). Why is that I wonder dunno

Louise xx
pm them and be damned, god dammit lol

if you're not pm'ing in the first instance in a sexual way....and perhaps wouldnt mind meeting up for a coffee and natter simply cos they're someone you're familiar with from the cafe and fancy saying hello to...I really really cant see what anyone could say to that for you to be scared of :dunno:
I think that i just have an incurable fear of rejection. Then when its someone not so familiar to me, ie chatrooms etc, it wont be so bad.
Louise xx

13 Mar 2007

Pretty much in order of....Forum, pm, msn, phone (occasionally might spur things along with a munch meet)
And for those of you too scared to PM someone, just do it. Pretty much everyone i know on here is happy to receive a PM, as long as it's friendly :thumbup:

13 Mar 2007

We've met a couple via chatting in chatrooms, we've met another couple via ad's for our local area on here, and we've met another couple by them contacting us. lol

We have no preference, we just like the sound of the couple and take it from there...

13 Mar 2007

Quote by firelizard
All of our victims have been from the forum! (all 75 of them ) :giggle:

Is that all dunno

:rotflmao::rotflmao::rotflmao::rotflmao:

13 Mar 2007

Quote by Dawnie
All of our victims have been from the forum! (all 75 of them ) :giggle:

Is that all dunno

:rotflmao::rotflmao::rotflmao::rotflmao:
Can we change her name to Firetrollop please Dawnie?
G'wan, G'wan, G'wan, G'wan, G'wan, G'wan :giggle:

13 Mar 2007

Meaty I am surprised you could suggest such a thing rolleyes

p.s. I can do anything for the right price innocent

13 Mar 2007

Quote by Dawnie
Meaty I am surprised you could suggest such a thing
p.s. I can do anything for the right price

So it's a question of how cheap i can get you? :giggle:

13 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
I tend to 'develop an interest' in someone from their posts/ post style ...then profile....and then follow it up at a social or Munch to see what they're like in person Its probably the first face to face couple of minutes that are the crucial factor for me, I tend to either 'click' with someone, or I dont, and that's wayyyy before the 'potential victim' thought enters my head There have been occasions though where I've met someone at a social without knowing anything about them at all, and the 'magnetism' is there, immediately :dunno:
I'm not a fan of the photo ads to be honest - they're good for 'additional information' once my interest is perked, but it just doesnt work for me to simply 'see someone in an ad and reply to it' :dunno:

Dang!! Me two minutes are up aren't they? sad

.

13 Mar 2007

Quote by meat2pleaseu
Meaty I am surprised you could suggest such a thing
p.s. I can do anything for the right price

So it's a question of how cheap i can get you? :giggle:
That doesn't sound right to me confused

You might want to consider your options again Mr Meaty :roll:
:lol2: :lol2: :lol2:

13 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
I tend to 'develop an interest' in someone from their posts/ post style ...then profile....and then follow it up at a social or Munch to see what they're like in person Its probably the first face to face couple of minutes that are the crucial factor for me, I tend to either 'click' with someone, or I dont, and that's wayyyy before the 'potential victim' thought enters my head There have been occasions though where I've met someone at a social without knowing anything about them at all, and the 'magnetism' is there, immediately :dunno:
I'm not a fan of the photo ads to be honest - they're good for 'additional information' once my interest is perked, but it just doesnt work for me to simply 'see someone in an ad and reply to it' :dunno:

yep that pretty much sums it up for me, unless i am on a total i need a shag now mission and then its the local chatroom
EArthy xx

13 Mar 2007

hmmm pending :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:

13 Mar 2007

Quote by westerross
Dang!! Me two minutes are up aren't they?
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certainly not! lol

14 Mar 2007

Brilliant thread :thumbup:
Never thought about it before but ive never in 2 years swinging ever contacted anyone,all my "victims" have contacted me. Dont know why i havent tho, i am very shy and quite sub by nature (tho do switch occasionaly :twisted: ) but also think im quite a confident person most of the time. Dont feel particulaly confident at the moment but thats due to recent weight gain and other RL issues.
There are people here i would love to meet socialy and a few i would love to meet for much more :twisted: but havent PM'd them as i guess i like to feel that a PM would be welcomed first,and as i would need to be hit round the head with a welcome repeatedly before i saw it redface

...shit having just read that im hopeless arnt i,might as well give up now lol

Having said that there are a couple of ladys on here that will be getting a PM as soon as im off grounded.
Very intresting, will have to spend some more time thinking about this one.
Nicky

14 Mar 2007

Forum, adverts, LMU, chat room - that order really.
I don't often meet somebody quickly so the forum works for me in that way - I'm happy being patient, getting to know somebody and building sexual attraction if the chemistry is there.
I find the adverts are also good for making initial contact that leads to a conversation or two on the phone and then if we are both still interested hopefully a drink or a meal then who knows. But again it can be a fairly slow process, but I like it that way.
However if I'm extremely excitable and looking for instant fun I prowl around the LMU or the chat room.
I have no qualms about PMing or pursuing anyone from the forum that interests me as I enjoy the chase very much. The worst that can happen is that they aren't into you that way and you stay friends anyway.
For me there has to be a mental connection of sorts and that usuallytakes time. Sometimes it's a friendship that turns sexual but sometimes you just happen discover somebody that is looking for exactly what you are right there and sparks fly.
Anyone fancy a shag? :P

14 Mar 2007

Well let's see...potentially we are always looking for potential playmates wherever we are. We've had most success from the Photo Ads where people have replied to our ad. It's just an easier process to chat and assess whether we like their approach/attitude (and pics of course wink

)
We've also played at clubs a few times and have arranged a 2nd private meet with one couple from one time. It's a quite different selection process more on initial looks but very horny!
Chatrooms I'm still getting used to but at the moment finding them too "in yer face", (as a way of playmate finding I mean) someone wants to chat on MSN before you know anything about them or they have a blank profile. I don't give our MSN out readily. Again I'm still new to it but people don't seem to want to chat in the rooms and show their personality first rather they view our pics and ask for MSN or ask for a meet straight away. I don't think so.
Socials/munches, so far having been to only one social these are viewed by us as potentially spotting playmates of course :twisted: but also for just chilling in the scene and talking to like minded people. I'll let you know after Bristol. :wink:
Forum wise, I can see Louise's point of view, 'knowing' people through their posts can be a bit scary to approach them and deal with the knockback, but hey we're all here for the same thing so go for it I say. Logistically we need people close to us so the Forum is never going to be a major part of our 'victim hunting' (great phrase Louise).
pink x

14 Mar 2007

we have fund most of our playmates from chatrooms and from replies to our ads/profile.
From the chatrooms if we're suitably impressed - or just plain curious - we will chat via msn mssgr to prospective playmates (PP). and as it says in our profile - we aint in any hurry at all.
This has proved to be highly effective and after 2/3 yrs swinging (not all on this site) we can honestly say that we have had only one bad meet - and that occured after we rushed the whole thing.
From ad replies we'll either add to msn mssgr or invite the PP to join us in a chatroom and then decide wether or not to add to msn mssgr.
As far we know no-one has ever contacted us because of our posts in the forums - maybe they are just boring and without content or inspiration - but then we dont come to the forums looking for contacts - more for interesting topics and humour.
failed in that one again then
.

14 Mar 2007

Local socials held by the R.N.I.B. rolleyes