We really like this site and have had a lot of good contacts from here but I have a little gripe.
Why do most of the couples Ads. only include pictures of the ladies and not the guys. What's the matter with you all? Are you all horrendously ugly or enormously fat, perhaps?
We all like to see lovely pics of the ladies in their gorgeous lingerie but the absence of male pics seems to suggest that the man's view is all that matters and the ladies have no say in the matter. If the guys like the girls then the lady is just expected to tag along! I'm sure this isn't really the case.
This begins to feel like exploitation to me. You put your own sexy lady up to persuade other guys to offer you theirs in exchange.
I want to see what the guy looks like too please. And for god sake not just a cock pic. Boring!!!!! (When you've seen one youve seen em all with a little variation in size and shape.) Gentlemen, you are far more interested your 7.5", or whatever, than most of us ladies. It's what you do with it that counts. technique is everything.
The standard Ad. format seems to be lovely pics of the lady showing the whole body, (not just the tits and pussy bits, and sometimes the face. ( Although I quite understand that some of us prefer to disguise our faces.) Then either no pic at all of the guy or just the afore mentioned organ in all its dubious splendour.
I have a part in the decision making as to who we might be interested in meeting and Ads. which include a picture of the guy will get far more attention from us.
I realise that pictures of guys are perhaps not as sexy and enticing as the lovely ladies but that is not the point. Most of us know that real swingers are ordinary folk not super models. I dont mind bald, specs or extra pounds. I just want an idea of what you look like. So put on your best holiday photo. (Hide parts of your face if you wish to as many of the ladies do already.) Or I shall continue to think that you all look like quasimodo.
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Yeah, there are quite a lot of ads that show the female partner but not the bloke. Perhaps there's nothing sinister in this choice of pics, maybe the advertisers just think that people are more interested in the female half of the couple than the male half? This is indeed true if the couple are looking for a straight guy for a MMF where the bloke mainly wants to watch his partner getting fucked, but I dare say it isn't tue at all if the couple are advertising for other couples???? I guess it's down to people who reply to ask for pictures of the bloke also! Come on guys, don't be shy 
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Quote by chrisx2
We really like this site and have had a lot of good contacts from here but I have a little gripe.
Why do most of the couples Ads. only include pictures of the ladies and not the guys. What's the matter with you all? Are you all horrendously ugly or enormously fat, perhaps?
We all like to see lovely pics of the ladies in their gorgeous lingerie but the absence of male pics seems to suggest that the man's view is all that matters and the ladies have no say in the matter. If the guys like the girls then the lady is just expected to tag along! I'm sure this isn't really the case.
This begins to feel like exploitation to me. You put your own sexy lady up to persuade other guys to offer you theirs in exchange.
I want to see what the guy looks like too please. And for god sake not just a cock pic. Boring!!!!! (When you've seen one youve seen em all with a little variation in size and shape.) Gentlemen, you are far more interested your 7.5", or whatever, than most of us ladies. It's what you do with it that counts. technique is everything.
The standard Ad. format seems to be lovely pics of the lady showing the whole body, (not just the tits and pussy bits, and sometimes the face. ( Although I quite understand that some of us prefer to disguise our faces.) Then either no pic at all of the guy or just the afore mentioned organ in all its dubious splendour.
I have a part in the decision making as to who we might be interested in meeting and Ads. which include a picture of the guy will get far more attention from us.
I realise that pictures of guys are perhaps not as sexy and enticing as the lovely ladies but that is not the point. Most of us know that real swingers are ordinary folk not super models. I dont mind bald, specs or extra pounds. I just want an idea of what you look like. So put on your best holiday photo. (Hide parts of your face if you wish to as many of the ladies do already.) Or I shall continue to think that you all look like quasimodo.
The problem with us is, someone always has to be taking the picture. As G doesn't let me within 3 feet of his super duper, shutter speed is like REALLY fast and can take 130, 000, pixels per square millimetre, and the flash can light up the darkest of cellars and to be honest Hun, you couldn't afford to replace it if you dropped it (not saying I don't call you a glorious disaster for nuthing and I love you dearly and yes, you put your stiletto heal through the back seat of my jag and I shudder when I think about the time you left the parking break off on your car and when you went to get into it again it had rolled across the parking lot and had crashed into the wall. Oops look out for that crack in the pavement Baby cause we know what you are like and I don't want to spend 12 hours in causality again....and hey! Is that smoke I smell? We really should update our contents insurance...........) Camera.
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Quote by JudyTV
We really like this site and have had a lot of good contacts from here but I have a little gripe.
Why do most of the couples Ads. only include pictures of the ladies and not the guys. What's the matter with you all? Are you all horrendously ugly or enormously fat, perhaps?
We all like to see lovely pics of the ladies in their gorgeous lingerie but the absence of male pics seems to suggest that the man's view is all that matters and the ladies have no say in the matter. If the guys like the girls then the lady is just expected to tag along! I'm sure this isn't really the case.
This begins to feel like exploitation to me. You put your own sexy lady up to persuade other guys to offer you theirs in exchange.
I want to see what the guy looks like too please. And for god sake not just a cock pic. Boring!!!!! (When you've seen one youve seen em all with a little variation in size and shape.) Gentlemen, you are far more interested your 7.5", or whatever, than most of us ladies. It's what you do with it that counts. technique is everything.
The standard Ad. format seems to be lovely pics of the lady showing the whole body, (not just the tits and pussy bits, and sometimes the face. ( Although I quite understand that some of us prefer to disguise our faces.) Then either no pic at all of the guy or just the afore mentioned organ in all its dubious splendour.
I have a part in the decision making as to who we might be interested in meeting and Ads. which include a picture of the guy will get far more attention from us.
I realise that pictures of guys are perhaps not as sexy and enticing as the lovely ladies but that is not the point. Most of us know that real swingers are ordinary folk not super models. I dont mind bald, specs or extra pounds. I just want an idea of what you look like. So put on your best holiday photo. (Hide parts of your face if you wish to as many of the ladies do already.) Or I shall continue to think that you all look like quasimodo.
and your own picture is to be found where hunni ??????
Good Call Judy!
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Innit obvious. Just look at what the advertising industry thinks about what sells. It's cut throat out there. I assume all the women are on there willingly - if not then you're right but that's another issue.
Thanks every one for all your comments. I really appreciate you taking the time to reply. Points in response.
those who do indeed have pics of both of you on your ads. That's great and I really appreciate it but it is less common for that to be the case.
2. To those who want to know where my pics are. Quite frankly, your remarks are a little offensive. (And my name isn't Hunni.) Would I be writing this if we didn't have pics up? I have more integrity than that. We both feature on all our Ads.
3. I was refering to Couples seeking Couples Ads. Sorry if that wasn't clear. (And ours is a Straight Couples Ad. so he features quite prominantly in what we're looking for.) If the guy isn't taking part then, I agree, it doesn't matter what he looks like.
can be shy too. And I agree if people don't want to put pics up that should be absolutely fine and we should all do what we're comfortable with. I would support that totally. My query is just: Why the imbalance? Are blokes more shy than ladies then?
5. I agree, I don't think the choice of photos is "sinister" but I suspect it's based on a set of assumptions that, as liberated people, maybe, we should be challenging.
Just why do we " think that people are more interested in the female half of the couple than the male half," if it is to involve all four people? I feel strongly about it, as you see, or we wouldn't be here. I'm interested in the male half. So many times we sit at our Pc and the conversation goes.
"She looks nice."
"Yes she does. What's he like?"
"Um, Eer."
We don't know and it does matter. Although I'm sure it's not meant, It gives the impression that the ladies' views don't matter.
And so often, as we've learnt by experience, when requesting pics if we don't specifically say "Pic of both of you," we often just get more pics of the lady. As though what he looks like is of no interest. I am interested. I'm possible having sex with him. The pics I want don't have to be nude or sexy. (Although, if they are more than a cock, I quite like sexy ones. Personally I think action pics are fun, quite erotic. ) But if you don't have them or are shy, all I'm really saying is: What do you look like? Our standard Ad. photos include a full legnth of my partner clothed. (We do have others though if your interested.)
6. "Just look at what the advertising industry thinks about what sells." Indeed, I know exactly what sells. That is precisely my point. This aspect of it really bugs me. I am not for sale. I am invloved in a life style where liberated people get together to share mutual pleasure and all parties should be inviolved in the process which for me as "Couple seeking Couples" involves the man as well. I am not the ticket which buys the other couple. I hope the ladies pics are all up with their consent, (as you say, that is another issue) but why aren't the blokes?
I wouldn't say "No." just on a pic, or even a first phone chat. I like to meet people and find out more about them. Personality is very important too. But it would really help me if I had an idea what you looked like, gentlemen, and I'm not put off by your "blemishes." I have blemishes of my own. Doesn't everybody?
And more importantly just why do we accept these assumptions that how the woman looks is of more interest and that pics of the woman "sell" us. Do you want to be "For sale"
In actual fact, for us what you write is what first atrracts our attention to couples anyway. Then comes the pics and " O she's nice. And he is um, er, what..................?"
those who do indeed have pics of both of you on your ads. That's great and I really appreciate it but it is less common for that to be the case.
2. To those who want to know where my pics are. Quite frankly, your remarks are a little offensive. (And my name isn't Hunni.) Would I be writing this if we didn't have pics up? I have more integrity than that. We both feature on all our Ads.
3. I was refering to Couples seeking Couples Ads. Sorry if that wasn't clear. (And ours is a Straight Couples Ad. so he features quite prominantly in what we're looking for.) If the guy isn't taking part then, I agree, it doesn't matter what he looks like.
can be shy too. And I agree if people don't want to put pics up that should be absolutely fine and we should all do what we're comfortable with. I would support that totally. My query is just: Why the imbalance? Are blokes more shy than ladies then?
5. I agree, I don't think the choice of photos is "sinister" but I suspect it's based on a set of assumptions that, as liberated people, maybe, we should be challenging.
Just why do we " think that people are more interested in the female half of the couple than the male half," if it is to involve all four people? I feel strongly about it, as you see, or we wouldn't be here. I'm interested in the male half. So many times we sit at our Pc and the conversation goes.
"She looks nice."
"Yes she does. What's he like?"
"Um, Eer."
We don't know and it does matter. Although I'm sure it's not meant, It gives the impression that the ladies' views don't matter.
And so often, as we've learnt by experience, when requesting pics if we don't specifically say "Pic of both of you," we often just get more pics of the lady. As though what he looks like is of no interest. I am interested. I'm possible having sex with him. The pics I want don't have to be nude or sexy. (Although, if they are more than a cock, I quite like sexy ones. Personally I think action pics are fun, quite erotic. ) But if you don't have them or are shy, all I'm really saying is: What do you look like? Our standard Ad. photos include a full legnth of my partner clothed. (We do have others though if your interested.)
6. "Just look at what the advertising industry thinks about what sells." Indeed, I know exactly what sells. That is precisely my point. This aspect of it really bugs me. I am not for sale. I am invloved in a life style where liberated people get together to share mutual pleasure and all parties should be inviolved in the process which for me as "Couple seeking Couples" involves the man as well. I am not the ticket which buys the other couple. I hope the ladies pics are all up with their consent, (as you say, that is another issue) but why aren't the blokes?
I wouldn't say "No." just on a pic, or even a first phone chat. I like to meet people and find out more about them. Personality is very important too. But it would really help me if I had an idea what you looked like, gentlemen, and I'm not put off by your "blemishes." I have blemishes of my own. Doesn't everybody?
And more importantly just why do we accept these assumptions that how the woman looks is of more interest and that pics of the woman "sell" us. Do you want to be "For sale"
In actual fact, for us what you write is what first atrracts our attention to couples anyway. Then comes the pics and " O she's nice. And he is um, er, what..................?"
Quote by chrisx2
those who do indeed have pics of both of you on your ads. That's great and I really appreciate it but it is less common for that to be the case.
We've had a pic of each of us since our ad went up a year ago. Our ad doesn't say alot and doesn't show my face but we are a couple, come as a couple and advertise as a couple.
But I have noticed that often there is a picture of one half of the couple and not the other, usually the female on show
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