UUPPS MADE A BIG BULLS UP OF THE HEADING SOS!
u could go with out him??
Hi Debs
I'll try to answer you the best I can. Let me just put my agony uncle head on.......lol
I'm not sure how many men you are camming with, so can't honestly answer that bit, but I realise that a lot more men than women are willing to cam, so your options on the female cam2cam are a little limited. He must realise this and therefore must allow you a little leeway on that point. Although you must also consider his feelings on the matter, as swinging is about everyone being happy with the whole situation.
As for you getting all the attention at my party......There are around a hundred names down for the party, so I feel sure he will get his fair share of attention if he can manage to come out of his shell a bit and mingle with people.
What you can possibly do to help him come out of his shell a bit is to try to include him in all conversations you have with people. I have never met the two of you, so can't make a judgement on how each of you acts in a social setting, but from what I can gather from your message it would seem that you are the life and soul and he is a little shy in a party environment. If someone comes up to you and talks, then make it plain that you have come as a cpl and try to include him in all conversations that you have.
I personally know most of the people who are coming to the party, and they are all genuine people who never push and they all try to include both parties in conversations.
If the parties at my house are anything to go by, there will be groups of men talking mantalk and also groups of women talking girltalk, as is usually the case at any party.
If you do get invited back to one of the bedrooms for a chat or maybe more, then make sure hubby is definitely included. And I'm not being judgmental or anything here, but try to focus on making sure he is the centre of attention. I know you want to have your fun too, but if he is as shy as you say he is, (from the way I am reading your message) you must make the effort for his sake (and your own). And then you can relax and have your fun too.
I will be doing all I can in my capacity as host to make sure everyone has a great night, and I will do all I can to help you. I will try to find time to introduce you to people who I think will be a good match for you. After that, it will be up to the two of you to make it work, but trust me, I will help out in any way I can.
If you need any more help or advice, please feel free to chat to me on messenger and if you want to meet up for a chat, then please let me know. There will be no pressure at all as I know you are only looking for cpls or single fems.
I really do hope this has helped you.
Take care
Marcuso
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hmm... a couple of things spring to mind:
1) People are going to be more likely to want to talk to you than him at a party, purely because they know you already and they don't know him.
2) 'Too many men'? hmm, would he prefer you to spend all this time chatting and camming with just 1 man? I guess not!
3) If he's convinced you to marry him, and he's not sure about us lot, then he represents a very rare commodity: he's known not to be a sad perv, and he represents a bit of a challenge. Maybe some of the ladies/couples here would really go for that combination?
we tend to meet couples and single guys over the yrs we have been swinging,and l let the hubby try to meet other couples on his own,he`s had moderate sucess but in the long run l`ve met more guys than he has others and often ask him if he gets jealous,but no he seems happy enough.
....... as i would really like to go to this party. :happy: ....................... how can i make him feel better?..... he is sooooooooooo opersite to me!..but i feel he needs this...swinging in his life to get his BLOODY MIND OFF WORK!......................i have no probs with him going off with a women {i think} and i would love to meet women my self but can i get through to him!
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