I'm a lady delighted with the response to my ad looking for encounters with two or more men. But can I trust them? Are they genuine? eg 3 business men occasionally in my town who will entertain me at their hotel? Please let me know of any cons, scams or danger I might be encouraging.
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Jezzay
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Please advise - I'm panicking!
Hi Jezzay - and welcome to the forum!
Is there any chance of meeting these guys for a vanilla meet first? You might feel more secure having met them before you agree to play. To be honest you don't know that you can trust them until you've been able to get to know them. I don't know if you've been able to speak to them on the phone at all or exchanged pics.
Whatever you do, please let someone know where you are going if you can.
Hope it turns out well for you.
Sappho xxx
Is there any chance of meeting these guys for a vanilla meet first? You might feel more secure having met them before you agree to play. To be honest you don't know that you can trust them until you've been able to get to know them. I don't know if you've been able to speak to them on the phone at all or exchanged pics.
Whatever you do, please let someone know where you are going if you can.
Hope it turns out well for you.
Sappho xxx
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If you have any doubts (and even if you don't), you should arrange to meet them for a drink and a chat in a public place first. You'll be able to get a much better idea from a face-to-face meeting. If they're not who you thought they were, or not what you want, you always have the option of leaving.
Hiya Jezzay
Would be far safer to meet socially first for a drink n a chat .... see what they're like - are they what they say they are - do they look like there picture ?? You can always arrange to meet n play another time
Personally - i think if you would like to play with 2 or more men - then try a swingers club. You are on neutral ground .... single guys who do go know how to behave and understand the consequences if they dont..... and there are lot's of other people about.
If you do decide to meet at a hotel - pleaseeeeeee make sure you let someone know who you're meeting, where n when ..... or even take someone with you!
Dont take any chances.
Lucy xx
Would be far safer to meet socially first for a drink n a chat .... see what they're like - are they what they say they are - do they look like there picture ?? You can always arrange to meet n play another time
Personally - i think if you would like to play with 2 or more men - then try a swingers club. You are on neutral ground .... single guys who do go know how to behave and understand the consequences if they dont..... and there are lot's of other people about.
If you do decide to meet at a hotel - pleaseeeeeee make sure you let someone know who you're meeting, where n when ..... or even take someone with you!
Dont take any chances.
Lucy xx
Concur with all of above: meet somewhere SAFE and check the vibes. I wouldn't dream of asking a lady to 'cut to the chase' without -at least-a few prior words in a neutral environment. For the scenario you describe, maybe you could take a man that you trust with you? If the 'businessmen' are genuine, they shouldn't object. Artificer's 'tip for the day': If in doubt-don't.
Blimey, Im sounding like a Blue Peter presenter...
-or that cartoon cat that used to warn children of the danger of matches..anyone remember his name?
A.
Blimey, Im sounding like a Blue Peter presenter...
-or that cartoon cat that used to warn children of the danger of matches..anyone remember his name?
A.
Orgasminator
Even i who is an old hand at this game would never meet at a place that was not a public area.
If you are not sure about it, then you don't do it.
Yep welcome to the site
TS
If you are not sure about it, then you don't do it.
Yep welcome to the site
TS
We have done something similar for a single fem friend of ours - helped her with the ads - a 4 way meeting with us their as a safety net for her - It makes her feel less intimidated but can make the person on their own feel a little intimidated.....
But then it is a safety first issue.
I am sure that you could get a couple from this site who is near you to meet you first and then help you with you vetting and to give you safety!
Or they could even just be on the end of the phone for you on the night so you can ring them and tell them you are safe and you will call them at xxx time in front of the person you are meeting so they know you have arranged to call them later.....
Good luck & have fun
Fred
But then it is a safety first issue.
I am sure that you could get a couple from this site who is near you to meet you first and then help you with you vetting and to give you safety!
Or they could even just be on the end of the phone for you on the night so you can ring them and tell them you are safe and you will call them at xxx time in front of the person you are meeting so they know you have arranged to call them later.....Good luck & have fun
Fred
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Concur with all of above: meet somewhere SAFE and check the vibes. I wouldn't dream of asking a lady to 'cut to the chase' without -at least-a few prior words in a neutral environment. For the scenario you describe, maybe you could take a man that you trust with you? If the 'businessmen' are genuine, they shouldn't object. Artificer's 'tip for the day': If in doubt-don't.
Blimey, Im sounding like a Blue Peter presenter...
-or that cartoon cat that used to warn children of the danger of matches..anyone remember his name?
A.
That will have been Charlie, Artificer.
"Charlie says ........"
8)
I have to agree with what Mr Flintstone wrote with regard to this,its far better to be safe than for your own piece of mind to know that you can walk away safely from the situation.
A very good friend of mine that comes clubbing says that she feels so much safer and far less nervous about it when she is chaperoned.
I suggest that you should take somebody with you and met in a pub or resturant,And to carry on doing it until you feel confident enough to be able to go alone,tyou may never reach that point but at less your safe with a friend.
A very good friend of mine that comes clubbing says that she feels so much safer and far less nervous about it when she is chaperoned.
I suggest that you should take somebody with you and met in a pub or resturant,And to carry on doing it until you feel confident enough to be able to go alone,tyou may never reach that point but at less your safe with a friend.
