Hi guys and gals , I’m wondering if you could please give me some advice and a little help.
I’m moving to London in mid August (starting a job in canary wharf in September, how exciting), and I’ve just started to look for a place to rent. I’m thinking, given the kind of person I am and my interest that trying a flat share, or renting a room in a house with swingers (either a couple or a mixed sex house) may be a good idea.
My reasoning is that my new housemates will understand me and I them, the atmosphere will be relaxed ( we have common interest, don’t have to keep it a secret or hide it from each other, if you have someone round it will be completely cool, as will t state of dress u want to wear be completely relaxed and if I’m sat on the computer on the swinging heaven chat rooms, I wont have to lock my self in my room and hide it Many more pros, cant list them all here)). Can live a good and open life w/ like minded people.
My question, is to ask you all about your experiences, would what I am suggesting work, is it realistic or am I living in a fantasy world. Where would I find open people to whom I could live such a lifestyle? (I have searched the net and found nothing). Lastly, perhaps you or someone you know and can put me in contact w/ is looking for something similar.
Any help and advice you can offer me would be much appreciated
Thanks
Asc
hi guys.
Does anyone else have any advice for me, cos i'm not really sure where to turn to find people to live with who are in the scene. It seems to be the one area of a swingers life that has not been taken advantage of by people or companies.
We should start a website that puts swingers in contact with each other for flatsharing purposes. There must be a website somewhere that offers such service i just cant find any.
Anyway, if anyone knows someone who has an available room or if anyone facies sharing and househunting w/ me to start up a house such as this, i'd love to hear from you..
Cheers
Asc
If you are a single guy I dont think you would find lots of open minded people to try to live with... Well, to put it another way.. Me and my gf have sum nice experience of swinging with our housemates, but we could neverever consider of moving in (or take someone to live with us) with swinging basis.
I understand what you are saying and unfortunately I can see exactly where you are all coming from. I mean being a single male on S.H is not the easiest of occupations (if that’s the right word
I think it also come back to the idea of getting the boundaries right as Tania said. One example may be that living with / renting from swingers (say a couple for example) means that you live as you would in a normal house share, but you have the added knowledge that everyone is swingers and you can relax when talking, share experiences, or even just make you all feel more comfortable that the people your living with aren’t judging you in anyway.. However, at the other extreme, with different boundaries set it may mean that the couple are looking for a third person to join their relationship and if the door is open you can join them type of arrangement.
It’s all down to boundaries and I suppose it would up to me to ensure that the people I live w/ don’t feel like I’m eves-dropping on their every meet (or they on mine) and that they are comfortable in every way with the arrangement. Personally, I’m looking for somewhere in the middle, perhaps more towards the conservative side, where its more about being open and having a little more freedom and understanding..
Thanks for all your advice, opinions and experiences, I really appreciate it.
Asc
