Quote by butters999999
As a mother who has had 6 miscarriages I could never under any circumstances have a termination. As a woman I would defend any woman’s right to have a termination.
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Please dont take this wrong way...........
Sex God
For myself the answer is no. I am "anti abortion" for ME.
However i am not anti - abortion in general, i feel that there are certain circumstances when it can be the right thing to do.
Obviously in a case involving medical problems and severe traumas like or etc and i also believe that sometimes the mothers personal situation can at times be a reason to have an abortion.
Basically anytime there is a risk to carry on the pregnancy - either physically or mentally.
I also think that the welfare of the children already born should be taken into consideration,
What i dobelieve is that in this country it is way too easy to get an abortion.
The rules and criteria should be tightened to end people using terminations as a form of birth control (it DOES happen!).
At the risk of being flamed - i dont believe that just being unhappy with being pregnant is enough reason to get a termination.
i personally dont believe that someone not being ready to take time off work to bring up a child is sufficient reason for ending a life, nor do i believe that abortions should be performed on the basis that someone prefers to live a free and easy life.
i have tried to give examples that will not look like i am getting at anyone who has posted on here.. like i said.. this is just my own personal opinion.. and i would not hold someone else’s opinion or acts against them.
I just think that if it is simply a case that a child is an inconvenience then i think that adoption should be the solution.
i TOTALLY understand the hurt that adoption can cause, and how it can never be got over. however.. who can honestly say that people ever get over an abortion either???
i know people will say that adoptions drags out the hurt for the pregnant woman, but i personally would rather live with the hurt of giving up a child to a good home - than ending its life because it did not fit in with my plans.
However i am not anti - abortion in general, i feel that there are certain circumstances when it can be the right thing to do.
Obviously in a case involving medical problems and severe traumas like or etc and i also believe that sometimes the mothers personal situation can at times be a reason to have an abortion.
Basically anytime there is a risk to carry on the pregnancy - either physically or mentally.
I also think that the welfare of the children already born should be taken into consideration,
What i dobelieve is that in this country it is way too easy to get an abortion.
The rules and criteria should be tightened to end people using terminations as a form of birth control (it DOES happen!).
At the risk of being flamed - i dont believe that just being unhappy with being pregnant is enough reason to get a termination.
i personally dont believe that someone not being ready to take time off work to bring up a child is sufficient reason for ending a life, nor do i believe that abortions should be performed on the basis that someone prefers to live a free and easy life.
i have tried to give examples that will not look like i am getting at anyone who has posted on here.. like i said.. this is just my own personal opinion.. and i would not hold someone else’s opinion or acts against them.
I just think that if it is simply a case that a child is an inconvenience then i think that adoption should be the solution.
i TOTALLY understand the hurt that adoption can cause, and how it can never be got over. however.. who can honestly say that people ever get over an abortion either???
i know people will say that adoptions drags out the hurt for the pregnant woman, but i personally would rather live with the hurt of giving up a child to a good home - than ending its life because it did not fit in with my plans.
Very well said well busty babe, though people may not agree with you say, they must agree you put your point of view in a clear concise way.
I must admit one thing and that is that I have a daughter who was adopted, I have not seen her for over 20 years.
I would rather know she has had a chance of life than to know she was never born.
As a father of a child in that situation some of you ladies may feel I dont have the same attachment as a mother an I guess you may be right, but that does not feel like it when I look at her photo when she was a baby.
I still hold the view that it is a womans right to choose, however as wbb says perhaps it is to easy I dont know, it is complicated.
Please dont think this is sad but this is helping me overcome some of the guilt I carry over that child.
I must admit one thing and that is that I have a daughter who was adopted, I have not seen her for over 20 years.
I would rather know she has had a chance of life than to know she was never born.
As a father of a child in that situation some of you ladies may feel I dont have the same attachment as a mother an I guess you may be right, but that does not feel like it when I look at her photo when she was a baby.
I still hold the view that it is a womans right to choose, however as wbb says perhaps it is to easy I dont know, it is complicated.
Please dont think this is sad but this is helping me overcome some of the guilt I carry over that child.
Sex God
Quote by Ice Pie
:giveup: Too many raw nerves in this one I think. Sorry if I've upset anyone, think I'd better butt out now.
It's certainly a complicated issue, and I'm sorry if the way I formulated my opinion made it sound too "blanket" - I would never intentionally upset anybody.
Mike.
This subject for me is a very emotional one. At the age of 15 I became pregnant, and not through lack of contraception, it was a split condom. The lad I was with, I'd been with since I was 13 and I suppose was my first love in the sense of adolescent infatuations. When I found out I was really calm and quite prepared to go through with it, but both sets of parents made the decisions for us. They decided I should go private for the termination as it was quicker. As a young 15 year old I didnt see it my place to argue just accepted the decision that had been made for me. It took place on November 5th, bonfire night, I remember lying on the table and crying, sayng no, no, but all went ahead. I was left with emotional scars for a long time, went into a shell and suffered with depression. Not long after me and the father broke up, through my depression I sub consciously blamed him and was nasty to him. For ages I also blamed my dad and didnt speak to him. I ambled through life, leaving school, working until again at the age of 20 I became pregnant again, ironically through a broken condom.
This time there was no question I had the baby and settled into life as a mum, with no regrets. He is now 8 and a superstar.
I always said after the termination I would never have children, but having my son regardless of the circumstances surrounding his conception, was the key to sealing the hurt caused by the termination. I would never go through it again, but as far as Im concerened it is a womans choice, I still violated that I didnt make the decision and wasnt strong enough to stand up for myself, but its past now and there is nothing I can do about it. November 5th I still think about the baby I never had, but it gets easier every year, but I do light a candle on the day and even though it gets easier, I will never forget.
Ruth
This time there was no question I had the baby and settled into life as a mum, with no regrets. He is now 8 and a superstar.
I always said after the termination I would never have children, but having my son regardless of the circumstances surrounding his conception, was the key to sealing the hurt caused by the termination. I would never go through it again, but as far as Im concerened it is a womans choice, I still violated that I didnt make the decision and wasnt strong enough to stand up for myself, but its past now and there is nothing I can do about it. November 5th I still think about the baby I never had, but it gets easier every year, but I do light a candle on the day and even though it gets easier, I will never forget.
Ruth
Sex God
My biological mother actually had a termination before she gave birth to me. I'm lucky in the fact that I have traced her and we are all now happily in contact etc.. however she did point out to me that the adoption was far harder than the termination (although she regrets both) because there's the 'not knowing'. Unfortunately there are many mothers out there who will NEVER know but thats a completely different debate 
