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please tell us why people time waste
There's plenty of genuine women on here hunni but unfortunately plenty more of the muppets who waste everyone's time. We all have them and they're not going to go away. You just have to chalk it up to experience and move on to the next.
Don't let it put you off though. Stick around here with us, get yourselves known and try to get to a couple of munches or socials. You'll soon see we're as genuine as they come
Don't let it put you off though. Stick around here with us, get yourselves known and try to get to a couple of munches or socials. You'll soon see we're as genuine as they come
Quote by Scandal
sorry but we're at a loss to know why people waste their own time to waste ours. Twice we have had solid offers in a month and guess what?
You'll get used to it if you stick around.
People love the "idea"of meets, to alot of them it's just an idea tho
:? :?Welcome to SH
You've hit the nail on the head, for many people here(men, women and couples) they seem to get their kick and arranging and thinking about the meets with no intention of ever going through with it..it's bloody annoying for the people who genuinely want to play but, after a while, you do get to spot the genuine from the 'dreamers'
Sex God
the reason that people timewaste is.............because they do..........thats it.......nothing special..........nothing exciting........it just happens.
chin up.......get over it........and try again.........
good luck.......xxxxx
chin up.......get over it........and try again.........
good luck.......xxxxx
Quote by mike48
Try giving ppl a second chance
A while back i got let down by a cpl i had got to know quite well from here ..chatroom then msn ..I got let down and a while back done a post on it called ..disappointed ..., well today i met them for coffee (no cakebun lol) so sometimes the excuses are genuine
Always give them a second chance to re-set up the meet... if they don't bother to try an re-organise then unfortunately they're wasting your time. There are loads of people who do meet on the site... it's just having the patience to wait till you find them and not get put off by the idiots
Orgasminator
Nah, all single males are unreliable, talk big and dont turn up ( and most dont wash either).... i never turned up, just to make a point of it.. Those bloody couples and single fems thought they had all the power. Not with me like.. Take that you buggers.
I think that all clever single males should put in there advert, COUPLES DONT REPLY. and watch the daft buggers reply to your adverts in droves.. but dont tell em, it worked for me over the years.
I think that all clever single males should put in there advert, COUPLES DONT REPLY. and watch the daft buggers reply to your adverts in droves.. but dont tell em, it worked for me over the years.
A lot of people like myself really want to be swingers but it's a little scary for newbies as you probably all remember yourselves.
If you're a single girl like myself it's a bit more scary because you have no one you know to hold you hand as you get there.
Half of me wants to meet up with lots of guys. The other half is scared of meeting mr psycho.
If you're a single girl like myself it's a bit more scary because you have no one you know to hold you hand as you get there.
Half of me wants to meet up with lots of guys. The other half is scared of meeting mr psycho.
Sex God
Quote by debsndave
sorry but we're at a loss to know why people waste their own time to waste ours. Twice we have had solid offers in a month and guess what?
cos some people get off on it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
it`s nothing personal!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Orgasminator
Unfortunately whether single male, female or couple this will (& does) happen to us all.
All I can advise is if you are travelling to a meet & you get a no-show have a plan B in that area - cinema, resteraunt etc so you have a backup plan (this will also apply if you need to make any excuses if the meet you find is totally not your type).
The WHOOSH Manâ„¢
All I can advise is if you are travelling to a meet & you get a no-show have a plan B in that area - cinema, resteraunt etc so you have a backup plan (this will also apply if you need to make any excuses if the meet you find is totally not your type).
The WHOOSH Manâ„¢
Sex God
or going by yr ad...........
cos only you ( the m 1/2) might show up cos she`s too scared!!!!!!!!!!!
cos only you ( the m 1/2) might show up cos she`s too scared!!!!!!!!!!!
Quote by mike48
Try giving ppl a second chance
A while back i got let down by a cpl i had got to know quite well from here ..chatroom then msn ..I got let down and a while back done a post on it called ..disappointed ..., well today i met them for coffee (no cakebun lol) so sometimes the excuses are genuine
Agree, we always give people a second chance but never a third, twice with crappy excuses is enough for us
Quote by SlydeWHOOSH
Unfortunately whether single male, female or couple this will (& does) happen to us all.
All I can advise is if you are travelling to a meet & you get a no-show have a plan B in that area - cinema, resteraunt etc so you have a backup plan (this will also apply if you need to make any excuses if the meet you find is totally not your type).
The WHOOSH Manâ„¢
Or do as we do and just say that you'll say 'Hello' when in a club, then if/when they don't turn up (or you find out they are 'not your type, when they do) you still have the club to play/relax in
Sex God
Quote by SlydeWHOOSH
Unfortunately whether single male, female or couple this will (& does) happen to us all.
All I can advise is if you are travelling to a meet & you get a no-show have a plan B in that area - cinema, resteraunt etc so you have a backup plan (this will also apply if you need to make any excuses if the meet you find is totally not your type).
The WHOOSH Manâ„¢
Bluddy hell
Where did you arrive from
:lol: :lol: Not seen you around for ages....................
Quote by debsndave
sorry but we're at a loss to know why people waste their own time to waste ours. Twice we have had solid offers in a month and guess what?
My own personal experience is that I've never been let down, not once. And yes, I have met some lovely lovely men from here. Courteous, polite, clean and extremely sexy! And I've made some wonderful friends too.
Keep plugging away.
Quote by Jags
sorry but we're at a loss to know why people waste their own time to waste ours. Twice we have had solid offers in a month and guess what?
My own personal experience is that I've never been let down, not once. And yes, I have met some lovely lovely men from here. Courteous, polite, clean and extremely sexy! And I've made some wonderful friends too.
Keep plugging away.
In well over (between us) thirty years of swinging experience you must be the only person we've heard of who has 'never' been let down. We'd be amazed to hear the 'secret' of your success?
Quote by flidais-media
sorry but we're at a loss to know why people waste their own time to waste ours. Twice we have had solid offers in a month and guess what?
My own personal experience is that I've never been let down, not once. And yes, I have met some lovely lovely men from here. Courteous, polite, clean and extremely sexy! And I've made some wonderful friends too.
Keep plugging away.
In well over (between us) thirty years of swinging experience you must be the only person we've heard of who has 'never' been let down. We'd be amazed to hear the 'secret' of your success?
I haven't got your years of experience, and no secret. Just good fortune I guess.
Quote by Jags
sorry but we're at a loss to know why people waste their own time to waste ours. Twice we have had solid offers in a month and guess what?
My own personal experience is that I've never been let down, not once. And yes, I have met some lovely lovely men from here. Courteous, polite, clean and extremely sexy! And I've made some wonderful friends too.
Keep plugging away.
In well over (between us) thirty years of swinging experience you must be the only person we've heard of who has 'never' been let down. We'd be amazed to hear the 'secret' of your success?
I haven't got your years of experience, and no secret. Just good fortune I guess.
Oh, go on, you must have some kind of secret...no-one else has 100% success there must be something you do? :wink:
Sexpert
Quote by debsndave
sorry but we're at a loss to know why people waste their own time to waste ours. Twice we have had solid offers in a month and guess what?
Maybe they get off on it,but like in life there are people who like to spoil things for the large with it and you will find there are many non timewasters who frequent this site and I hope you find what you are seeking.
Quote by debsndave
sorry but we're at a loss to know why people waste their own time to waste ours. Twice we have had solid offers in a month and guess what?
Yes....its been said before and no doubt will be said again :!:
Some folk do get a kick out of just talking or thinking about it but you have to put that aside and persevere, takes time but it does happen.
Best of luck in your search for what your after.
Quote by debsndave
sorry but we're at a loss to know why people waste their own time to waste ours. Twice we have had solid offers in a month and guess what?
it happens!
we've been swinging a couple of years now.....and have gone on a few meets and i tell you it can be just as nerve racking now as it was the scarey things go running through your head like 'what if they don't fancy us"....all "what if we don't fancy them"...in fact there could be over a dozen reasons.....sometimes you just scare yourself shitless over the meet that you could just blow it out and too embarassed to let them know.
Quote by Jags
sorry but we're at a loss to know why people waste their own time to waste ours. Twice we have had solid offers in a month and guess what?
My own personal experience is that I've never been let down, not once. And yes, I have met some lovely lovely men from here. Courteous, polite, clean and extremely sexy! And I've made some wonderful friends too.
Keep plugging away.
We cant claim to have a 100% record but we have only been let down once, and that was by a "bi-fem" That was in the early days when we were young and naive
We can spot the genuine ones these days :lol2: Quote by Shireen_Mids
sorry but we're at a loss to know why people waste their own time to waste ours. Twice we have had solid offers in a month and guess what?
My own personal experience is that I've never been let down, not once. And yes, I have met some lovely lovely men from here. Courteous, polite, clean and extremely sexy! And I've made some wonderful friends too.
Keep plugging away.
We cant claim to have a 100% record but we have only been let down once, and that was by a "bi-fem" That was in the early days when we were young and naive
We can spot the genuine ones these days :lol2:You are very right, in time it does become much easier to spot the genuine swingers from the dreamers.
Guess it's also to do with how many people you actually arrange to meet..if you arrange to meet a lot then you will get more 'dreamers' and 'timewasters'...law of averages really, isn't it? :wink:
Quote by H-x
I can claim a fairly appauling 75% no show rate, not sure why.
I do read these threads with interest in case the revelation of where I'm going wrong shows up. I know 'old hats' sometimes complain about such threads as being
'same old, same old', but us newbies do find them useful.
H.x
well its their loss for sure then if they dont show up to meet you..
Quote by H-x
I can claim a fairly appauling 75% no show rate, not sure why.
I do read these threads with interest in case the revelation of where I'm going wrong shows up. I know 'old hats' sometimes complain about such threads as being
'same old, same old', but us newbies do find them useful.
H.x
I'm a bit over cautious about meeting people and giving them my personal details and I was even more so when I was a single fem.
One of the things that helped me was talking to the other single fems on the forum - at one point there was a good group of us.
If I was thinking of meeting someone I only met them if someone I knew already had. I'd always get the guy's/couple's permission to ask about them first, but it did work well.
1 guy laughed and joked about my nervousness and said he'd pm me his "SH C.V.)
I've never had a no show and everyone I met using this method was really really nice
