Shaz don't like the sound if it but I think of all parties involved are ok with it they can be a nice thing.. specially if all working
Can someone truly love more than 1 person? I believe so (although never have) but Shaz don't.
Tony :-D
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Master of Sex
Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
Whats your few's on this?
Shaz don't like the sound of it but I think of all parties involved are ok with it they can be a nice thing.. specially of all working
Can someone truly love more than 1 person? I believe so (although never have) but Shaz don't.
Tony :-D
I would like them to get intouch and tell me how to find just one :dry:
Quote by M1ssVery
I would like them to get intouch and tell me how to find just one :dry:
Well, lots of things you could try,
If you want to know how to find just the one, pop down to Leicester, do the "tipsy" bit with Shaz as she likes a bloody good knees up then I will tell you how to find one
Oh I forgot to ask, what was it you was looking for? :lol:
Master of Sex
Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
I would like them to get intouch and tell me how to find just one :dry:
Well, lots of things you could try,
If you want to know how to find just the one, pop down to Leicester, do the "tipsy" bit with Shaz as she likes a bloody good knees up then I will tell you how to find one
Oh I forgot to ask, what was it you was looking for? :lol:
When shall I come over then and can you accommodate :giggle:
I am looking for a prince who's better hung then the horse he's on and also well-endowed between the ears
Quote by M1ssVery
I would like them to get intouch and tell me how to find just one :dry:
Well, lots of things you could try,
If you want to know how to find just the one, pop down to Leicester, do the "tipsy" bit with Shaz as she likes a bloody good knees up then I will tell you how to find one
Oh I forgot to ask, what was it you was looking for? :lol:
When shall I come over then and can you accommodate :giggle:
I am looking for a prince who's better hung then the horse he's on and also well-endowed between the ears
Oh yes we can accomidate and weekends Shaz always has her bottle of bubbly (she likes to celebrate another week of work out the way) ... well that's her excuse although wearing a bit thin now after using it for so long :lol:
Well Shaz would like to meet someone that is better hung than a horse...
... but a prince that is better hung than a horse and with a brain also! ya having a laugh right? :lol:
in some societies it works as it gives a large extended family unit. However I think it would be very difficult or at least unusual for it to work in a westernised society. and come on Tony....most of the men have enough trouble looking after one wife...without haveing another 3 or 4 in tow !!!
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in some societies it works as it gives a large extended family unit. However I think it would be very difficult or at least unusual for it to work in a westernised society. and come on Tony....most of the men have enough trouble looking after one wife...without haveing another 3 or 4 in tow !!!
Not just 1 guy with 2 or more wifes, what about 1 woman with 2 or more guys?
Warming the Bed
Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
Whats your few's on this?
Views!
I would apply for the position of your official proof-reader, but sometimes words are so off I can't even make enough sense of what you wrote to correct it, heh!...Or did you really want to know abour our fews!
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I would like them to get intouch and tell me how to find just one :dry:
Quote by M1ssVery
I am looking for a prince who's better hung then the horse he's on and also well-endowed between the ears
Granted M1ss, finding a primary is harder than adding new (secondary, tertiary etc) partners to an existing configuration. However - if you are/practise poly there is less pressure to find THE ONE! ie. somebody that crosses everything off your list. You can have a prince, and one that is better hung than a horse, and yet another one that is gifted in the head department... you get the idea. It is one of the tenets of polyamory that a single person probably won't be able and should never be expected to satisfy our every need.
Tony, what is true love?
Quote by mincepie
Whats your few's on this?
Views!
I would apply for the position of your official proof-reader, but sometimes words are so off I can't even make enough sense of what you wrote to correct it, heh!...Or did you really want to know abour our fews!
Yep I spelt views wrong and yep I put "of" instead of "if" but that's what you get when you have spent the last 12 hour straight programming and you are feeling knackered and still have 1000's of lines of code flashing before your eyes.
But,
what I would suggest to you is you go and "proof read" some of your previous post's before you pull me on mine as I think you will find you have your fair share of typo's
Not for our sake mind as we overlook the odd mistake as don't feel the need to try and teach others
Anyway, does it really matter? as long as it's not txt speak and Im contributing to the community ;-)
Quote by mincepie
Tony, what is true love?
The complete opposite to hate :-)
Tony :wink:
Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
Whats your few's on this?
Shaz don't like the sound of it but I think of all parties involved are ok with it they can be a nice thing.. specially of all working
Can someone truly love more than 1 person? I believe so (although never have) but Shaz don't.
Tony :-D
I luvs ya all....wha's up wiv ya
:cheers:
:cool: Master of Sex
Mincepie wrote:
Granted M1ss, finding a primary is harder than adding new (secondary, tertiary etc) partners to an existing configuration. However - if you are/practise poly there is less pressure to find THE ONE! ie. somebody that crosses everything off your list. You can have a prince, and one that is better hung than a horse, and yet another one that is gifted in the head department... you get the idea. It is one of the tenets of polyamory that a single person probably won't be able and should never be expected to satisfy our every need.
Do you need a trilingual good cook?
Granted M1ss, finding a primary is harder than adding new (secondary, tertiary etc) partners to an existing configuration. However - if you are/practise poly there is less pressure to find THE ONE! ie. somebody that crosses everything off your list. You can have a prince, and one that is better hung than a horse, and yet another one that is gifted in the head department... you get the idea. It is one of the tenets of polyamory that a single person probably won't be able and should never be expected to satisfy our every need.
Do you need a trilingual good cook?
Warming the Bed
Quote by M1ssVery
I would like them to get intouch and tell me how to find just one :dry:
Well, lots of things you could try,
If you want to know how to find just the one, pop down to Leicester, do the "tipsy" bit with Shaz as she likes a bloody good knees up then I will tell you how to find one
Oh I forgot to ask, what was it you was looking for? :lol:
When shall I come over then and can you accommodate :giggle:
I am looking for a prince who's better hung then the horse he's on and also well-endowed between the ears
Hey M1ssvery you just described me :twisted:
Master of Sex
Quote by bayboy1664
I would like them to get intouch and tell me how to find just one :dry:
Well, lots of things you could try,
If you want to know how to find just the one, pop down to Leicester, do the "tipsy" bit with Shaz as she likes a bloody good knees up then I will tell you how to find one
Oh I forgot to ask, what was it you was looking for? :lol:
When shall I come over then and can you accommodate :giggle:
I am looking for a prince who's better hung then the horse he's on and also well-endowed between the ears
Hey M1ssvery you just described me :twisted:
I better send the horse back then :lol:
Warming the Bed
Who is trilingual?! 
I didn't mean to pick on your spelling - there's a whole separate thread for that! I was just mildly amused at the mistake because of the dildo/dado rail incident and also because it made an interesting lapsus (our "fews" being our multiple partners).
paddy that's a picture of a threesome! A polyamorous triad would more likely be seen casually lounging and sharing a bit of catnip.
OK regrouping...
For my own self I will have to give an affirmative answer. Anybody that has been in a position where they had to choose between two lovers, had to nip in the bud an enjoyable flirt/getting-to-know-you with someone other than their partner because they feared things would progress, or even been with someone but still had strong, active feelings about a previous relationship is capable of loving more than one. Think of how many many people harbour emotions for previous lovers and relationships - to me that is an indication of polyamorous potential.
I didn't mean to pick on your spelling - there's a whole separate thread for that! I was just mildly amused at the mistake because of the dildo/dado rail incident and also because it made an interesting lapsus (our "fews" being our multiple partners).
paddy that's a picture of a threesome! A polyamorous triad would more likely be seen casually lounging and sharing a bit of catnip.
OK regrouping...
Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
Can someone truly love more than 1 person?
For my own self I will have to give an affirmative answer. Anybody that has been in a position where they had to choose between two lovers, had to nip in the bud an enjoyable flirt/getting-to-know-you with someone other than their partner because they feared things would progress, or even been with someone but still had strong, active feelings about a previous relationship is capable of loving more than one. Think of how many many people harbour emotions for previous lovers and relationships - to me that is an indication of polyamorous potential.
Neither of us really believe that monogamy is natural, so polyamory makes much more sense to us! Whether or not it is actually possible given our social conditioning is another question though. Swinging pushes the boundaries of what we are taught is "right" for relationships, and that's just about sex... throw love into the mix and it could get very messy!!
Although not exactly related, have you read Brave New World? It's sort of pertinent to our thoughts about social conditioning (and is an excellent book!)
:-)
Lilith xx
Although not exactly related, have you read Brave New World? It's sort of pertinent to our thoughts about social conditioning (and is an excellent book!)
:-)
Lilith xx
Master of Sex
Who is trilingual?!
Sexpert
Approx 5% of the creatures on the Earth, mate for life. Bearing in mind that life can be long or short depending on the species and or predators! But that means that 95% of the worlds creatures don't.
Also the way I understand it, manogamous relationships were 1st documented in the Babylonian culture; The Alpha males of that society took several women (generally the best) for their pleasure. Then the Beta males took one each (of the left overs) as their property, in the hope that no-one else would steal her away.
If society tells us the Beta way is the best way then the lesser Beta genes will prevail. If on the other hand we were to adopt the Alpha way, then the genes/human race would get ever stronger (in my opinion)
All this seems to lead to a dichotomy between society and evolution. Also between love and animalistic lust.
It is thought that the ideal length of time that a man would stay with a woman (from a reproduction/human race point of view)is around 3 months. This is so that he know's he has impregnated her. The ideal time for a woman to be with a man is 12-13months. So that she knows the baby is fit and healthy and then she can move on.
Maybe...not sure about the Love thing
I'll take a look at that book, ta. I hear that The Selfish Gene by Richard Dawkins is another good one.
Also the way I understand it, manogamous relationships were 1st documented in the Babylonian culture; The Alpha males of that society took several women (generally the best) for their pleasure. Then the Beta males took one each (of the left overs) as their property, in the hope that no-one else would steal her away.
If society tells us the Beta way is the best way then the lesser Beta genes will prevail. If on the other hand we were to adopt the Alpha way, then the genes/human race would get ever stronger (in my opinion)
All this seems to lead to a dichotomy between society and evolution. Also between love and animalistic lust.
It is thought that the ideal length of time that a man would stay with a woman (from a reproduction/human race point of view)is around 3 months. This is so that he know's he has impregnated her. The ideal time for a woman to be with a man is 12-13months. So that she knows the baby is fit and healthy and then she can move on.
Maybe...not sure about the Love thing
I'll take a look at that book, ta. I hear that The Selfish Gene by Richard Dawkins is another good one.
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Although not exactly related, have you read Brave New World? It's sort of pertinent to our thoughts about social conditioning (and is an excellent book!)
:-)
One of my all time favourites. It's a timeless classic that's just as relevant to today's unknown future as it was when Huxley wrote it. Thanks for reminding me, I'll have to dig it up for a re-read.
Derek, you raise a good few points there.
Human Society has replaced (rejected?) evolution to the extent that survival of the fittest is no longer the norm. We frequently cure previously incurable diseases and extend our breeding period way past it's naturally limited boundaries. Evolution used to be about passing on your genes before something killed you. Now the things that used to kill you in childhood are regularly passed down to our offspring. But I suspect that's a whole new subject.
And let's face it, nowadays it's probably the Internet geeks who get more sex than anyone else. :giggle:
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Although not exactly related, have you read Brave New World? It's sort of pertinent to our thoughts about social conditioning (and is an excellent book!)
:-)
And let's face it, nowadays it's probably the Internet geeks who get more sex than anyone else. :giggle:
Is that envy or smugness, Cubes? ;-)
It's interesting that you say this, given the TED blog I posted in the Cafe yesterday evening (see "The Demise of Guys?")... If you're right Cubes, then it explains the addiction, and depending on your pov about which genes are "strongest" in today's society, it may influence your view on whether the researchers are right to label computer-related arousal addiction as a situation of "demise"...!
Lilith xx
Warming the Bed
Quote by Inanna
Whether or not it is actually possible given our social conditioning is another question though. Swinging pushes the boundaries of what we are taught is "right" for relationships, and that's just about sex... throw love into the mix and it could get very messy!!
Hmm... I am still perplexed as to why people here keep saying straight-up sex is simpler/easier than when emotions come into play. Any sexual OR romantic activity that goes outside of the prescribed "norm" will require enough re-adjusting on a personal level in order to be a positive experience. For me both polyamory and swinging are pushing the same boundaries/preconceptions but from a slightly different angle, and no one is messier than the other. For what it's worth, I find sex-only encounters hard-going and emotional involvement very simple to deal with - but then again I have some 20 years' experience in parellel/multiple relationships and just the one year trialing recreational sex
NSA yes, casual no - that's my motto!
Orgasminator
Hi Guys long time no see 
I think its very possible to have a polyamory relationship but where it differs from swinging which is occasionally have sex with other people. Polyamory is different in that you live in a smaller environment and there for you have to be much more tolerant and thick skinned to be able to cope with extra pressures that puts on a relationship.
Its all well and good in having a set routine/night with separate partners but modern life as it is now makes it harder to keep one relationship going let alone 2/3. How some people keep several life's ie: cheating with several people without slipping up with all the lies you have to tell is beyond me, i have never been able to lie convincingly lol
I think its very possible to have a polyamory relationship but where it differs from swinging which is occasionally have sex with other people. Polyamory is different in that you live in a smaller environment and there for you have to be much more tolerant and thick skinned to be able to cope with extra pressures that puts on a relationship.
Its all well and good in having a set routine/night with separate partners but modern life as it is now makes it harder to keep one relationship going let alone 2/3. How some people keep several life's ie: cheating with several people without slipping up with all the lies you have to tell is beyond me, i have never been able to lie convincingly lol
Polyamory/polyamorous are newish words to my vocabulary, although easily enough understood. I come across, increasingly, a number of people, women mainly, who claim to be totally poly', and I never wish to doubt them. I cannot see why it would be, in any way difficult to love more than one person, the difficulty would really seem to be in the other parties' awareness and acceptance of such.
I wouldn't confuse it in any way with the much more common and predominantly male trait of just loving sex, and thereby enjoying multiple partners equally, be it hetero' or otherwise. I know someone will shout "it's not just the men", but we won't ask for a show of hands.
I wouldn't confuse it in any way with the much more common and predominantly male trait of just loving sex, and thereby enjoying multiple partners equally, be it hetero' or otherwise. I know someone will shout "it's not just the men", but we won't ask for a show of hands.
Sex God
I cant see it working myself as there are going to be times where at least one is going to compromise themselves to the needs of the others and I don't really mean in the same way as in a traditional one to one relationship whereby each can and do accommodate each other.
Polygamists or the more acceptable word of polybloodyamorist are all going to hell you know
Polygamists or the more acceptable word of polybloodyamorist are all going to hell you know
Sex God
I'm sure for least one person it would produce jealousy and insecurity
so its a no form me :dry:
so its a no form me :dry:
Sexpert
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I'm sure for least one person it would produce jealousy and insecurity
so its a no form me :dry:
Everyone gets to choose how to react to jealousy and insecurity...you can use the feelings for good or evil. Why not let it spur you on and get you more fired up? For instance.
Warming the Bed
Andy interesting story, thanks for sharing it.
