Polyamory.

7 Sep 2006

Hello all,
I have been quiet for a little while...so here goes.
Main Entry: polyamory
Part of Speech: noun
Definition: participation in multiple and simultaneous loving or sexual relationships
I re-ignited an old flame and am happily in love.... The person in question and I have a polyamorous relationship.
My partner "T" also has another g/f "R" and b/f "A". we are also all non-monogamous.
My partner lives in New York.. which gives me the freedom and physical space that I need at this point in my life. "R" also has a g/f "D"
We all regularly have sex with others outside of the relationshipâ€¦ (although I aint getting as much as I would like rolleyes

)
I know that swingers can understand the pleasure, and relationship enhancing benefits, of non-monogomy. :thumbup:
How do you view polyamory. ?
I have received mixed reactions from people with regards to the relationship and I am interested in what people here have to say. :notes:
Splendid
X x x x

7 Sep 2006

I say do whatever works for you as long as your are happy and nobody is getting hurt.
I don't know if I could be in such a relationship though, although I've never been in that situation.

7 Sep 2006

The more the merrier I say!!!!
Now, when you coming up to Scotland?! :rascal:
xx

7 Sep 2006

Quote by mazandden
The more the merrier I say!!!!
Now, when you coming up to Scotland?! :rascal:
xx

couple weeks actually Maz... but I will PM you with the details wink

now back on subject smackbottom

7 Sep 2006

Quote by mazandden
The more the merrier I say!!!!
Now, when you coming up to Scotland?! :rascal:
xx

Awwww I thought Maz was talking to me! :cry:
wink

7 Sep 2006

WOOOHOOO! how excited am I now?!
:happy: :thrilled:

7 Sep 2006

In wicca/pagan beliefs they have a fantastic saying ---
"If it harm none - do what you will"
My opinion would always be that..... if everyone in your relationship is happy - then what would be the problem.?.....
The only people I could see disapproving would be the bigots that didn't understand what you have ..... and are usually predjudice to far more than just other peoples lifestyles!
(sidenote --- they usually seem to have miserable lives too!)
I would always disapprove of anything that caused physical or mental pain to anyone who did not want it!
But even then - I may have opinions ----- but was not elected by my peers to judge anyone!
Well that's my tupence worth..... lol
biggrin

7 Sep 2006

Quote by splendid33
My partner "T" also has another g/f "R" and b/f "A". we are also all non-monogamous.
My partner lives in New York.. which gives me the freedom and physical space that I need at this point in my life. "R" also has a g/f "D"
We all regularly have sex with others outside of the relationshipâ€¦ (although I aint getting as much as I would like )
I know that swingers can understand the pleasure, and relationship enhancing benefits, of non-monogomy. :thumbup:
How do you view polyamory. ?

:shock: ...will answering this count towards my MA in swinging?

7 Sep 2006

Good on ya girl!
Could be hell co-ordinating around the old PMT though!

7 Sep 2006

I feel that polyamory if treated as an open and honest form of relationship must be a freeing experience. Understanding that you cannot get all your emotions and desires from one person and being honest enough to articulate this must be a very enlightening thing to do. One problem I can see of course is the legal and social problems â€“ legal in the case of wills, property etc and social in the way people treat the unusual or different (News of the World on its way lol)

Quote by Atlantis
In wicca/pagan beliefs they have a fantastic saying ---
"If it harm none - do what you will"

Couldn't agree more biggrin

7 Sep 2006

Quote by mazandden
The more the merrier I say!!!!
Now, when you coming up to Wales?! :rascal:
xx

I was going to say that :giggle:
Splendid, you're happy, they're all happy, where's the problem? dunno

Good luck to you hunni kiss

7 Sep 2006

Quote by splendid33
How do you view polyamory. ?

Normally in the living room with my youngest. We sing along to the theme tune "What's the story Polyamory" then settle down to see which brightly coloured house is going to be featured in the programme. Am a real fan of Miss Hoolie the teacher. biggrin

7 Sep 2006

Quote by KinkyLickers
I feel that polyamory if treated as an open and honest form of relationship must be a freeing experience. Understanding that you cannot get all your emotions and desires from one person and being honest enough to articulate this must be a very enlightening thing to do. One problem I can see of course is the legal and social problems â€“ legal in the case of wills, property etc and social in the way people treat the unusual or different (News of the World on its way lol)

it is freeing.. I feel much more relaxed within this relationship than I have ever done before in previous monogomous relationship. I have spoken to many other polyamorous people now... and we all can compare to monogomy. The knowledge that I don't have to be anything to "T" other than who I am.... what else is wanted must be, and is, got from "R" or "A" there is no pressure on me.
The financial aspects..... are all resolved through solicitors. I suspect that not many people here have wills. the four of us do. We are also well aware what belongs to who. and there is much more communication than any other relationship I have ever experienced on every level.
I can goto "R" and "A" for help if I am not understanding something that "T" is dealing with.. and get support and guidence.... they can also come to me too... I have known "T" for much longer than they have....
and the more you love, the more love you have also rings true.
so could anyone here see themselves in a relationship like this ??? I am not touting for partners tho' wink

7 Sep 2006

Well good luck to you missus with everything, the most important thing is that what you are doing is making you happy and as long as that is the case then long may it continue :smile2: .
I think polyamory is fascinating, complicated and very liberated. I think I could deal with a relationship like that if the other people in the picture were like those in your case, but it would be the seperation from my partner that would cause me problems (nobody to warm my feet on lol

) Are the others in the US with your partner?? I imagine I would find that quite isolating but like you say, there is all the space that you want/need available to you and that in itself must be a good feeling.

7 Sep 2006

Quote by Burtman

How do you view polyamory. ?

Normally in the living room with my youngest. We sing along to the theme tune "What's the story Polyamory" then settle down to see which brightly coloured house is going to be featured in the programme. Am a real fan of Miss Hoolie the teacher. biggrin

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

7 Sep 2006

Good luck to you and I'm glad you're happy kiss

I never knew anything about Polyamoury until another user raised it a while back. I've put the link as I found it really informative about it all.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/19777.html?highlight=polyamoury
Jas
XXX

7 Sep 2006

Quote by splendid33
so could anyone here see themselves in a relationship like this ??? I am not touting for partners tho'

Personally no Splendid, but then each to their own ;)
Putting it bluntly I, myself, do not find women attractive as long-term partners. I have never tried it because I have never wanted to so I can't see how I would ever be in a position to be in this kind of relationship, although I suppose my b/f could have another g/f and me another b/f ? confused

Hmmm, bit too complicated for me but, whatever butters your muffin hun ;)
Minx x x

7 Sep 2006

As long as everyone is happy and enters into the relationship with as full an understanding as possible of both their own, and everyone elseâ€™s expectations, I donâ€™t see that there should be any more of a problem than any other form of relationship. After all there are plenty of precedents both recent and historical. The only major factor I can foresee is the distance between you all causing a possible rift if the more distant partners begin to feel left out of the relationship.
Could I do it, I honestly donâ€™t know dunno

Could You do itâ€¦I wouldnâ€™t be surprised.. wink

You have my support (for what its worth) as you well know, good luck hun and donâ€™t let the less tolerant get you down. kiss

Stormy

8 Sep 2006

isn't polyamory like being in a relationship but with more than 2 people, ie when your still faithfull to each other? thats what i though it was anyway, in which case its not really like swinging at all is it?

8 Sep 2006

Quote by Kiss
The more the merrier I say!!!!
Now, when you coming up to Scotland?! :rascal:
xx

Awwww I thought Maz was talking to me! :cry:
As I said Kiss, the more the merrier, so when are YOU coming up to scotland?! :rascal:
wink

8 Sep 2006

Quote by naughtynymphos1
isn't polyamory like being in a relationship but with more than 2 people, ie when your still faithfull to each other? thats what i though it was anyway, in which case its not really like swinging at all is it?

I was asking what peoples' opinions of the concept were....It isn't swinging. That is different.
yes polyamory is when you are "faithful" to and in love with more than one person at the same time. My partner and I are also non-monogomous. which is another form of poly relationship.