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Here's a question for you
I'd like to know your thoughts about polyamoury
Can it work???
Or anything else u may have to say about it

Gotta say I'm not sure
Sorry if something similar may have been done/asked before
i never knew what the word meant before i looked at the link
its quiet comman in a lot of cultures in the world many asian cutler beliven in multiple wives. ( but personall i think one would be more than enough.. just think of the nagging factor!).
i think ive got the meaning correct!..
i think due to the jealous factor ( and everyone suffers from it). i think it not ont of those thing that could curvive. but there are probalby a few that breat the rule.
JGL
hiya lil_bunny
yep it came up 3 months or so ago, here , but not too much of a discussion on it. i think there's a couple of people here in that kinda relationship, which seems damn tricky to me, and brings up all kinds of issues. be interested to know how they manage it, purely out of general interest, for future reference, etc.
n x x x ;)
I think the only way it could work would be if the women were Stepford Wives, which would be great from the mans point of view. (Or the womans if they were Stepford Husbands). But with real human beings? Think it would be very difficult!
John
I have been shouted down by my mates on this one before, becuase I honestly believe that it does and can work - as long as those involved are open, honest and are ALL polyamorous. You can't have one person who might have been cajoled into the idea for example (bit like swinging there then). I KNOW that I could fit very easily into a polyamorous situation. Okay - so I have never actually been in that situation - but it is one of those things that I "know" deep down.
I think everyone is gonna have their own opinion and feelings towards this kind of thing (and and are more than entitled to that) - just loke some people berate the kind of folk who enjoy this kind of place.
I could imagine giving it a good go, and it being successful, but what if you grow more attached to a particular person in this "poly" relationship - natural feelings would surely take over? - both for yourself, and everyone else involved. Could see things getting tricky, unintentionally confused :shock: :?
I think it would work very well, actually. I don't think all parties need to be polyamourous either, as long as all are happy with whatever the situation is. Oh and JGL, not everyone suffers from jealousy, in fact I think there may be more non-jealous people on here particularly.
PS, we all know you're rubbish at spelling but some of the mistakes in that post look like you've been too idle to correct them, just made it more difficult to read!
Bev
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I think it would work very well, actually. I don't think all parties need to be polyamourous either, as long as all are happy with whatever the situation is. Oh and JGL, not everyone suffers from jealousy, in fact I think there may be more non-jealous people on here particularly.
PS, we all know you're rubbish at spelling but some of the mistakes in that post look like you've been too idle to correct them, just made it more difficult to read!
Bev

Would the jealousy not be awaked when it comes to emotions, I can understand being able to not be jealous over physical matters but emotionally involved with someone else?
Is that not what a lot of swinging relationships are built on, total love for each other safe in the knowledge that you love each other and feel as secure as you possibly can?
Just a question, personally I'd find it really difficult to share someones emotions.
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Just a question, personally I'd find it really difficult to share someones emotions.

If you have kids - are you able to love them both/all in equal proportions? Or do you have to love one more than the other?.
Sorry - as I said in another thread - not feeling awfully eloquent today. It's my head - I just can't transpose it into eloqent, intelligent, thought provoking prose right now. confused
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Just a question, personally I'd find it really difficult to share someones emotions.

If you have kids - are you able to love them both/all in equal proportions? Or do you have to love one more than the other?.
Sorry - as I said in another thread - not feeling awfully eloquent today. It's my head - I just can't transpose it into eloqent, intelligent, thought provoking prose right now. confused
Very, very good point - never thought of it that way. For some reason, to me there is still a difficulty in me imagining the situation, Going to have to have a think on that...........
I thought that was eloquently put, got your point across.
If those involved are secure and comfortable with the arrangement .... then why not?
Each to their own! Who are we to judge?
Love and Respect
Joe
I do not think I could love more than one person, in the way I love my partner. Scratch that, I know I couldn't.
Of course I have been in love before, and every time is completely different. I do not think I could have emotional equality in such a set up. Maybe, for those that live that way, some days X is the be all and end all, sometimes Y is.
Sex and stuff is different. I have grown to love some of our swinging partners, but I am not in love with them. Same as you might feel for siblings, say. We can have sex with others, purely because of the love and trust we have for eachother. Put someone else in this equation and, for us, it would collapse.
Im sure it does work for many. I fear that it would be the day to day, nitty gritty that could kill it, the who left the top off the toothpaste type thing!! Obviously im making the assumption that everyones living under the same roof here.
I think in the traditional type of relationship where the female is responsible for the house and the kids then it would be a whole lot easier.
Is nt the type of relationship where the man has a bit on the side but tucked quietly away from home polyamourous , or is ther a nother definition for that?
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Would the jealousy not be awaked when it comes to emotions, I can understand being able to not be jealous over physical matters but emotionally involved with someone else?
Is that not what a lot of swinging relationships are built on, total love for each other safe in the knowledge that you love each other and feel as secure as you possibly can?
Just a question, personally I'd find it really difficult to share someones emotions.

I find emotions difficult and know I can be the jealous type when it comes to certain things.
wink
There was a workshop on this very subject at Kinkfest (london ) last weekend............ well attended so I believe.
Kinkfest itself was a lovely fascinating day, all these friendly pervy peeps from all over the uk came out to support! I have heard that it will be repeated in various major cities next year so look out for it....
xanaisx
PS Im sure Blue would have enjoyed the strap on workshop, in fact could have been a facilitator hehe biggrin
I prefer dogs , cant really be doing with any birds as pets .
Polyamoury certainly can work, Charlotte and I have been in this situation with another guy(Steve) for about six months now. As to whether it can work in the long term for us we will just have to wait and see.
A lot of people in Polyamorous relationships don't all live together, Charlotte and I live together and have a son but Steve is Charlotte's Boyfriend - they see each other a couple of times a week and chat on the phone or messenger most days.
As far as the Jealousy goes, I don't think it is unavaoidable - honesty and communication are the keys just as they are in any successful relationship. For us it was a natural progression from swinging, we met up with Steve for a threesome as swingers, got on really well and started meeting regularly then a situation occured where Charlotte could meet him but I couldn't and I was fine with her meeting him alone. Now she usually meets him alone although we still have the occasional threesome. As time has progressed it has moved away from a purely physical thing into a situation where she is in love with both of us.
As it happens Charlotte will be going with him to the Essex Munch, Valentines Munch and Medieval Banquet next year and I will be going as a kind of free agent. This does not mean Charlotte and I love each other any less, simply that he meets different needs for her than I do.
Roger the Dragon. cool