Can't answer that one.
But I've always believed you can either love someone, or be loved by someone, but you can never have the two at the same time.
Now days I choose not to love. If I find I'm getting attached I end things.
Hence my nick.....Libra-Love=Jen
youve got to have loved,too really know what you lost.
and to not to have loved,well i think thats quite sad :cry:
Honestly I do not know. This is something I've given a lot of thought in recent months.
I guess when you've recently lost love, most people go through the "I wish I'd never met him/her" phase. You go through so much pain at that time that you can only think that if you'd never met the person in the first place then none of this would be happening.
Then, maybe things start to get a bit better - you start to heal - and remember the good times without the awful heart-dropping twist in your stomach and the urge to sob uncontrollably - and yes, it is better to have loved and lost. You have all these wonderful memories that bring a small smile (or wide grin, if you're that lucky) to your face instead of a tear to your eye and not forgetting the lessons learned with every failed relationship, there's always something positive to take with you every bad experience.
there's different forms of love though, think that's why the question came in my head
for instance there's
puppy love
the love u have for family (siblings, children etc)
love for pets (don't even think naughty thoughts I'm being serious here)
Some people love inanimate objects like fast cars, big houses etc
Others love themsleves
And others too
How do u distinguish each type of love ?
hmm think I'll sleep on this question and see what the day brings - Night all xxx :sleeping:
I'd say it's better to have loved and lost. I say that as someone who has never really been in love and I'm pretty sure no one has ever been in love with me.
Yes I think it is better to have loved and lost.
It broke my heart, when I broke up with my girlfriend/partner.
It is an expirence I would not like to go through again.
Although......
If one finds someone, who can tell how the relationship might turn out.
Well - I don't think I've ever really been in love.
Of course I love lots of things. My family, my dog, my godchildren and some of my best friends. Everday I say - oh I love this song, I love champagne, I really really really love my new silver chirstmas shoes.
But romantic love - I have no experience. I don't think I have ever said "I love you". I often look at other peoples relationships and wonder how they profess to be truely madly deeply in love with someone and then suddenly truely madly deeply in love with someone else. How does that work?
I suspect it is better to risk the loss in order to experience love but I really couldn't say.
It is better to have loved and lost.
Not sure how you distinguish the difference between all the types of loving.
I know that i was in love with my husband for many years. I still love him now but i am not in love with him any more. Probably doesn't make sense to you lot but that is how i feel.
For me, being in love is when all you think about is that other person. Aching deep inside when we are apart, if only for a short time. Butterflies in my stomach when i hear his key turn in the door. Hearing his voice on the other end of the phone and feeling all warm and tingly all over. Trusting that person with your life 100%. I feel all of this and so much more when i am in love. Also knowing that the other person feels exactly the same way about me.
G x :inlove:
Ask yourself, in the deepest part of your mind. The part we very rairly allow ourselves to visit - Would you kill, or die for the love you feel. If you can ask and answer that question, of yourself; you may be lucky enough to find the bigger answer.
I would have been eternally greatful to have never loved a couple of times in my life, sitting alone crying gets you some funny looks on the bus :cry:
Definitely. Love is everything. To never have experienced being truly in love is like never tasting ice cream, or seeing the sea, or walking in snow.
Not that those who have not loved are excluded - but in reference to the question, yes, it is better to have loved.
You cant have the good without the bad. And if I died not experiencing extreme love and extreme pain then the tapestry of my life would be a lot flatter, and my writing would not have been so sellable. All artists must love, and lose - it brings out the creativity more than any evening class or degree course.
Despite all that I am the ultimate romantic as well so would always vote for love. :inlove:
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:love: Love only gives to those who give to Love :love:
Fred (aka medic1)
