PoshnBecks

17 Apr 2006

Quote by Dawn_Mids
OK but you're not leaving me with the damp patch :giggle:

Nah, well go to the GFZ for a pint when we've finnished, let this lot keep the damp patch :twisted:

17 Apr 2006

Quote by freckledbird

That said, lets hope it doesnt set a precedent to others who dont quite 'get' the 'dont kiss and tell cos we dont keep score charts here' thing?

Agreed, how are people supposed to know?
It's a bit like verifying that someone's genuine isn't it?
Personally we don't give a monkeys whether people think we're genuine or not - the ones who matter, already know or will know.
As far as I'm aware, (with no offence intended) Posh& Becks are one of the only couples who intentionally either ask, or 'ok' their playing partners to brag about their activities on the forum. Does that make them genuine? only in the fact that by plastering details on the forum do people know that they do actually 'do' meets.
It'd probably be a whole different story if someone came on and posted that he/she/they were crap or something similar, wouldnt it lol

Each to their own of course, I just find it surprising that 99% of the time we slate this kind of indiscretion, but in Posh&Becks case they're ok with it, so 'we' are too :shock: Isnt that a bit double standards?

17 Apr 2006

Quote by Pete_sw
OK but you're not leaving me with the damp patch :giggle:

Nah, well go to the GFZ for a pint when we've finnished, let this lot keep the damp patch :twisted:
Well I would but I don't drink pints, not of beer anyway :lol2:

17 Apr 2006

Quote by Darkfire

That said, lets hope it doesnt set a precedent to others who dont quite 'get' the 'dont kiss and tell cos we dont keep score charts here' thing?

Agreed, how are people supposed to know?
It's a bit like verifying that someone's genuine isn't it?
Personally we don't give a monkeys whether people think we're genuine or not - the ones who matter, already know or will know.
As far as I'm aware, (with no offence intended) Posh& Becks are one of the only couples who intentionally either ask, or 'ok' their playing partners to brag about their activities on the forum. Does that make them genuine? only in the fact that by plastering details on the forum do people know that they do actually 'do' meets.
It'd probably be a whole different story if someone came on and posted that he/she/they were crap or something similar, wouldnt it lol

Each to their own of course, I just find it surprising that 99% of the time we slate this kind of indiscretion, but in Posh&Becks case they're ok with it, so 'we' are too :shock: Isnt that a bit double standards?
no. precisely for the bit in bold? discretion is about protecting the people we swing with, but poshnbecks have always ((( AFAIK? ))) been happy with this kind of thread, and actively encourage it, so discretion doesn't apply?
i'm not really bothered what their motives are, so long as all parties are ok with it? i accept it might seem a mixed message though?
neil x x x ;)

17 Apr 2006

Quote by neilinleeds

Each to their own of course, I just find it surprising that 99% of the time we slate this kind of indiscretion, but in Posh&Becks case they're ok with it, so 'we' are too :shock: Isnt that a bit double standards?

no. precisely for the bit in bold? discretion is about protecting the people we swing with, but poshnbecks have always ((( AFAIK? ))) been happy with this kind of thread, and actively encourage it, so discretion doesn't apply?
i'm not really bothered what their motives are, so long as all parties are ok with it?i accept it might seem a mixed message though?
neil x x x ;)
I dunno Neil, as far as I'm aware/ concerned, discretion is one of this community's biggest 'unwritten rules'. Discretion is about protecting those we swing with, hence usually this would be jumped on in seconds. This is the first time I've seen blatant 'ok'd' indiscretion being used as verification though, and that applies to both Posh&Becks and Doug, by their own admission.
Evidently there are accepted exceptions to every rule, double standards or not.

17 Apr 2006

I do agree with Darkfire on this one. Although good luck with your doings poshnbecks do you and others really need to advertise the fact that you are good. We are all in all different ways but we don't need to advertise the fact.

17 Apr 2006

ok . . . i completely take your point darkfire. discretion is paramount . .
but . . .
we can usually tell from some threads who is flirting with who at least, if not who is actually swinging with who?
and yes, we all know this kind of thread would usually get jumped on. indeed, there's questions on this very thread?
but . . .
doug52 is ok with it? poshnbecks are ok with it? any question of discretion is being raised by others that aren't party to that event? i.e. others are imposing their values re: discretion on a meet / event / thread where discretion is not an issue?
it is NOT our place to question others choices? we all make choices for ourselves, and hang the hangman! ;)
neil x x x ;)
p.s. it's not a verification issue IMO, cos if it was, i'd probably get into bother . . . again . . . ;)

17 Apr 2006

Quote by neilinleeds
ok . . . i completely take your point darkfire. discretion is paramount . .
evidently not, no
we can usually tell from some threads who is flirting with who at least, if not who is actually swinging with who?
yes of course, but its usually dropped subtly into a banter type post and not announced to all and saundry 'intentionally' (and i use that word lightly)
and yes, we all know this kind of thread would usually get jumped on. indeed, there's questions on this very thread?
but . . .
doug52 is ok with it? poshnbecks are ok with it? any question of discretion is being raised by others that aren't party to that event? i.e. others are imposing their values re: discretion on a meet / event / thread where discretion is not an issue?
Not party to the actual event - but once it goes up in the Cafe everyone who reads it is party to it. Discretion may not be an issue for Posh&Becks, but it is for the vast majority of others under normal circumstances, and more importantly, should be to those who have perhaps just joined us here.
it is NOT our place to question others choices? we all make choices for ourselves, and hang the hangman! ;)
Point taken. However, this is a forum where people are free to post their views and opinions, isnt it?
neil x x x ;)
p.s. it's not a verification issue IMO, cos if it was, i'd probably get into bother . . . again . . . ;)

Hmmmmm.... confused

Quote by doug52
â€¦ so guys if you get the chance to meet them Im sure you`ll have a great time....oh and they are a genuine couple...

Quote by PoshnBecks
â€¦ we did ask Doug (really nice guy) to confirm that he did meet us and we had a great time, we have (again) had a few guys comment that they do not believe that we are genuine â€¦
â€¦We are indeed very very genuine.

I'm sorry if my comments offend - but that looks totally like verification to me dunno

17 Apr 2006

I agree with things you have said so far Darkfire, however I also think it's the choice of the individual member as to what they post and why they do it.
Neil I disgree with the whole issue of knowing who is swinging with whom just by reading the threads. Certain people do have banter with one another and do flirt or bounce of each other, however this does not mean they are by right of posting flirtily; an automatic bedfellow. i know this isn't probably what you meant, but it is food for thought though. Just because people flirt with one another its not the right for the general rumour mill to spark conversation of..... oooo, you'll never guess whos shagging blah..... kinda shite.
kiss

Gem. x

17 Apr 2006

Quote by neilinleeds
we can usually tell from some threads who is flirting with who at least, if not who is actually swinging with who?

From someone that flirts a lot with many people, I am almost offended at that Neil confused

Quote by little gem
Neil I disgree with the whole issue of knowing who is swinging with whom just by reading the threads. Certain people do have banter with one another and do flirt or bounce of each other, however this does not mean they are by right of posting flirtily; an automatic bedfellow.

Gem

19 Apr 2006

Quote by Dawn_Mids

we can usually tell from some threads who is flirting with who at least, if not who is actually swinging with who?

From someone that flirts a lot with many people, I am almost offended at that Neil confused

Quote by little gem
Neil I disgree with the whole issue of knowing who is swinging with whom just by reading the threads. Certain people do have banter with one another and do flirt or bounce of each other, however this does not mean they are by right of posting flirtily; an automatic bedfellow.

Gem

dawn, i feel a need at this point to chuck me spade away, and stop digging! redface

i wasn't suggesting for one minute that all flirty posts should mean we infer there's more going on than a simple flirty post? i was suggesting that their are often fairly strong hints, along the lines of a "I survived Room XXX" type post for example, where clearly we're MEANT to infer that certain people were at least at the same party? we don't question that do we, but if we were adhering to some strict idea of discretion, and demanding that others do the same, we should? confused

in this case, discretion only applies to the parties involved, and it's completely their choice whether it's an issue for them or not, so i was questioning why some people felt this was an issue for them personally? and highlighting it with examples where that same strict definition of discretion might have gone unquestioned?
if i caused offence, you know that wasn't my intention, and i apologise profusely for it! redface

neil x x x ;)