I know there are many posts on this subject, but I just want to bounce a few of my own thoughts around in here if thats ok?
We`d like to post an AD, primarily to let people know a little more about us and our preferences. More of a `meeting people for friendship and perhaps later a shag` ad. We had great fun at the munch, but were not eager to jump into the deep end immediately, although we did meet one or two people we`d like to get to know better :twisted:
I was thinking of posting the same ad in Couples meeting Couples, and Couples meeting Women and Couples meeting men as those are the catagories which interest us, but I`m not sure if thats acceptable (serial ads and so forth). We`d also like to try to avoid attracting people who expect a full on shag first meet, and am thinking very carefully about the wording on the more superficial aspects we prefer (although I think I`m ok on that)
Any thoughts?
VenusnMarsxxx
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unsure about your wishes and likes but maybe if you read a good selection, and base your wording around those that would have tempted you to respond to them? I think you will always get some assholes, but then that is how it is? Maybe if you can find the odd old hand in the area you seek, maybe it would be better, but then I think part of your question asks that?
I am sure you will find the way, and talking is best first as you well know. Feeling comfortable means a better time...
GOOD LUCK
I am sure you will find the way, and talking is best first as you well know. Feeling comfortable means a better time...
GOOD LUCK
Hi VenusnMars 
What we try and do because we are like you and don't play or vary rearly play on first date is have a social meeting with the couple or whoever first. We try and do this at our or their home and find the home is the best place for several reasons. There is no ear wagging you can all be open and honest about your needs,wants and dislikes etc and we find people are more open in their own enviroment with no pressure of who you think could be listening in on your conversation. After that initial meet you will, and so will they then discuss if anything is then going to happen and how you both feel about whoever it is you met and take it from there. I hope this helps but I'm sure that once you get into all this you will like all of us find your own way of doing things.
What we try and do because we are like you and don't play or vary rearly play on first date is have a social meeting with the couple or whoever first. We try and do this at our or their home and find the home is the best place for several reasons. There is no ear wagging you can all be open and honest about your needs,wants and dislikes etc and we find people are more open in their own enviroment with no pressure of who you think could be listening in on your conversation. After that initial meet you will, and so will they then discuss if anything is then going to happen and how you both feel about whoever it is you met and take it from there. I hope this helps but I'm sure that once you get into all this you will like all of us find your own way of doing things. 
Mod
Hi Venus
Just some general tips about your ad. You obviously want to cover all your bases by posting in all sections, but be aware that you will get an awful lot of replies from this, an awful lot. Mostly, I'm afraid to say from single guys and most of them will not be the sort of responses you are looking for. Perhaps in these early stages limit your ad to say, just Couples seeking Couples. See what sort and how many responses you get. If you have absolutely loads and loads, take your ad off for a while until you have had time to sort through your replies and see which ones match what you are looking for. if you don't have any that you want to take further, put your ad back again.
Once you feel comfortable with the idea of meeting couples, then expand to adverts for single guys and girls. That way you are not being pulled in all directions at once. You have plenty of time and you may even find the sort of people you really want to meet on the forums or in chat and have no need for the ads at all!
You will, without doubt, get some shitty replies and some abusive ones too. If you don't like the reply, delete and move on without a second thought. If they can't be bothered replying properly, don't you bother worrying about it. If they are abusive, just pm any of the mods with the details of the email and their email address (most important) and we will deal with them. Don't get drawn into email tennis, abusing each other, you have better things to do in your life, even if they haven't.
And if all else fails, get your arse to a Munch and grab someone there!!
Hope that helps, but any other queries, just get back on here and we will help you out.
Mal
Just some general tips about your ad. You obviously want to cover all your bases by posting in all sections, but be aware that you will get an awful lot of replies from this, an awful lot. Mostly, I'm afraid to say from single guys and most of them will not be the sort of responses you are looking for. Perhaps in these early stages limit your ad to say, just Couples seeking Couples. See what sort and how many responses you get. If you have absolutely loads and loads, take your ad off for a while until you have had time to sort through your replies and see which ones match what you are looking for. if you don't have any that you want to take further, put your ad back again.
Once you feel comfortable with the idea of meeting couples, then expand to adverts for single guys and girls. That way you are not being pulled in all directions at once. You have plenty of time and you may even find the sort of people you really want to meet on the forums or in chat and have no need for the ads at all!
You will, without doubt, get some shitty replies and some abusive ones too. If you don't like the reply, delete and move on without a second thought. If they can't be bothered replying properly, don't you bother worrying about it. If they are abusive, just pm any of the mods with the details of the email and their email address (most important) and we will deal with them. Don't get drawn into email tennis, abusing each other, you have better things to do in your life, even if they haven't.
And if all else fails, get your arse to a Munch and grab someone there!!
Hope that helps, but any other queries, just get back on here and we will help you out.
Mal
Thanks Mal, we went to our first Munch on Saturday, which is why we feel comfortable enough to post an ad
I haven`t had my e-mail yet, so whilst we are waiting I thought I could bounce the ad off off you guys first. Mars hasn`t read it yet, so it may well change.
I haven`t had my e-mail yet, so whilst we are waiting I thought I could bounce the ad off off you guys first. Mars hasn`t read it yet, so it may well change.
Hi, we thought we should tell people a little more about ourselves, this is our first Ad, and we have never properly swung before. We are both looking to meet up with other couples for friendship and possibly some sexy fun. Venus is 32, 5ft 2, brunette, size 10, and talks too much. Mars is 38, 5ft 9, brunette (what there is of it!), and has this really sexy cheekbone thing going on ;). He is clean shaven, and we are both fairly slim (him more than her, but then she dropped the kids!). He talks too little, so between the two of us we have a nice balance. We are both bi-curious, Venus has had some experiance, but too long ago to count. We are very open-minded, but are not too `specialised` personally. Anal would be good if she could, but she can`t.........sorry, but we are betting he can........slut!
We enjoy clubbing, pubs, good conversation, and eating out. We are both smokers.
Now for the superficial stuff!
We would prefer to play with adults between the ages of 20-40 who are not too much on the large side, but personality will go a long way. :)
We chose to play safe, including oral, which will mean condoms (we`d get flavoured!). We cannot accomodate due to the kids, and discretion is of utmost importance, you can expect discretion to work both ways.
Thankyou for taking the time to read our Ad, we hope to hear from you soon.
VenusnMarsxxx
Sex God
That look good to me 
8-) 8-)
I'm not sure why you haven't has your verification email yet. accounts aren't banned or anything like that..................errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr..............
Blue shuffles off feeling unprofessional
8-) 8-) I'm not sure why you haven't has your verification email yet. accounts aren't banned or anything like that..................errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr..............
Blue shuffles off feeling unprofessional
Mod
Looks ok to me, just a couple of teeny weeny problems
1. You're too far away :cry:
2. I'm too old! :cry: :cry:
3. You're looking for couples! :cry: :cry: :cry:
Other than that - spot on!! you should be fine with that, but you might want to highlight couples only, unless you want a million singleys chasing you!!
Mal
1. You're too far away :cry:
2. I'm too old! :cry: :cry:
3. You're looking for couples! :cry: :cry: :cry:
Other than that - spot on!! you should be fine with that, but you might want to highlight couples only, unless you want a million singleys chasing you!!
Mal
it'll be interesting to see hat if anything changes when 'Mars' has edited it
ho, ho
The Kent Host
(Terry)
P>S> Oh yes, best to post in couples for couples, but having seen Venus holding court at the bar last saturday surrounded by five guys with a look of hope in their eyes, maybe it should be in the 'for groups' areas ?
TKH
ho, ho
The Kent Host
(Terry)
P>S> Oh yes, best to post in couples for couples, but having seen Venus holding court at the bar last saturday surrounded by five guys with a look of hope in their eyes, maybe it should be in the 'for groups' areas ?
TKH
Mod
Quote by VenusnMars
Mal, I kinda figured if I posted in the appropriate section we`d be ok, but I guess I should know better!!
Venusxxx
I'm affraid the lesser spotted singly will answer anything with a pulse and ignore everything on the ad you have asked for, no matter where you post!! I know, I keep deleting the buggers!!!
Mal
Sex God
Just one tiny point in your excellent ad, Venus: the word "brunette" only refers to women. You'll have to refer to Mars as "dark-haired".
Mike.
Mike.
Quote by Benz2502
has this really sexy cheekbone thing going on ;)
Which cheek and which bone?????? :moon:
Ad looks fine to me and poor ole Mars!!! Blokes can't help fighting back the onslaught of the receding hairline!!! Venus you are cruel!!!
Good luck on your search!!!
I can confirm he has very sexy cheekbones - I only got to see the ones on his face though, so I'm assuming it's those.
Jas
XXX
Outdoorfun, Mars is fine with it as it is.....but I suspect its because he can`t be arsed to change it! Thankyou for flattering me by assuring me I had 5 guys surrounding me, but I suspect it was only one or two!!
Mars had a giggle reading this thread and is glad Jaz like his cheekbones! (He does have a nice arse too :P )
Anyway, thanks for the feedback, and if/when I get a confirmation mail (It said to allow 24 hours) I shall put it up.
Venusxxx
Mars had a giggle reading this thread and is glad Jaz like his cheekbones! (He does have a nice arse too :P )
Anyway, thanks for the feedback, and if/when I get a confirmation mail (It said to allow 24 hours) I shall put it up.
Venusxxx
Blinding ad, Venus.... be prepared to be swomped! :twisted: If you need any Moddy type help, gizz shout...
And it was lovely meeting you both, too... sorry if I was a little quiet. I'm just a shy little wall flower.
Well, that and the fact Hosty makes it hard to get a word in edgeways!
Heatherxxx (of the Heather and Terry variety.)
And it was lovely meeting you both, too... sorry if I was a little quiet. I'm just a shy little wall flower.
Well, that and the fact Hosty makes it hard to get a word in edgeways! Heatherxxx (of the Heather and Terry variety.)
