This may be a little heavy for a Friday night.
Despite my best efforts, I've just gone through a pregnancy scare. I'm on the pill, and use condoms every time, but was a week late.
Many of the women here will be able to empathise(sp) with me, one day late - panic, 3 days - oh shit, 7 days - :censored: :censored: sort of panic.
But it got me thinking. If I had been, it would have been as a result of a swinging encounter. Although not althogether different from a 1 night stand, there is a little more between me and the men I have met through swinging.
Would I have told the person involved? For medical reasons, it is unlikely I would have been able to have the baby. Would it have been worth the inevitable arguments and accusations?
So my question to you all, men, women, couples? How would you feel to find yourself unexpectedly pregnant? The men, would you like to be told? The couples, if you got pregnant unexpectedly, how would you feel? Would a part of you consider an abortion if you couldnt be 100% sure of the babies father?
I am aware this is a highly emotive subject, and I have no wish to start any argument. Please free to ignore if its too much for a weekend of getting pissed!!!!
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OOOh ere missus. I expect there will be some comments with regard to safe sex etc.
If you wanted the child and wished to have the natural father take on his responsibilities, then I suppose dna testing would have to follow. Then the formalities, legalities of proceeding with this arrangement. I suppose a dna match could be done prior to the legal periods for abortions, if you then decided on that.
I think most guys would probably disown the situation. I would be surprised if a woman wished to proceed to give birth under these circumstances. Would she go after the real father or leave it open to whoever offerred.
But its not unique. Many women and men have become successful partners and parents under very similar conditions. Most usually under conventional relationships where multiple partnering has occurred, for whatever reasons.
Its hard to say. Swingers are mostly a decent lot and there's just as much chance, that the father would offer his role, as in the conventional world.
If you wanted the child and wished to have the natural father take on his responsibilities, then I suppose dna testing would have to follow. Then the formalities, legalities of proceeding with this arrangement. I suppose a dna match could be done prior to the legal periods for abortions, if you then decided on that.
I think most guys would probably disown the situation. I would be surprised if a woman wished to proceed to give birth under these circumstances. Would she go after the real father or leave it open to whoever offerred.
But its not unique. Many women and men have become successful partners and parents under very similar conditions. Most usually under conventional relationships where multiple partnering has occurred, for whatever reasons.
Its hard to say. Swingers are mostly a decent lot and there's just as much chance, that the father would offer his role, as in the conventional world.
I found myself unexpectedly pregnant 15 years ago... I now have a beautiful daughter who is my world. It happens, I was in a monogamous relationship at that time, we split, I later remarried. I was stupid, I got caught but I paid the consequences and it was worth paying for 
Now of course, my hubby is.. well let's say, 'unequipped' in the baby making department so I have no more worries, and we practice safe swinging so anything else wouldn't come into it.
However, I wouldn't know how I would be if a condom split, I guess that's a worry of swinging isn't it?
Now of course, my hubby is.. well let's say, 'unequipped' in the baby making department so I have no more worries, and we practice safe swinging so anything else wouldn't come into it.
However, I wouldn't know how I would be if a condom split, I guess that's a worry of swinging isn't it?
Sex God
I've had a pregnancy scare before, i did a test, it was negative. Lucky for me reall, id be a bad mother :P
I really think its one of those situations i would have to be in befor i could really say how i'd feel, i think if you got preganat while on the pill and using condoms you'd have be really unlucky but i guess these things happen, i am quite anti abortion those i do understand that sometimes there are medical reasons for doing this but i think using abortions as a form of birth control so end the life of a healthy child is wrong and there are other roads you can go down if you really dont want the child for yourself, so i really dont think that would be a option for me if anything like this did happen, as for telling the father......if it was someone i met in a club etc i dont think i'd bother, if it was a guy i met on a more personal level and considered a friend then i would yes.
I only practise safer sex but omg that would be a nightmare. I cringe just thinking about it. I think that it would be a very hard situation to handle emotionally for both me and Joe, probably more so for Joe. I personally dont agree with abortions except in cases of etc so no i wouldnt abort a baby from someone else. I dont think that id tell the father if he was just a one nighter, and if Joe was ok would rather pass the baby off as his. Some of you may not agree with this and I would proably act different if it actually happened but these are just my thoughts for now.
Louise xx
Louise xx
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I only practise safer sex but omg that would be a nightmare. I cringe just thinking about it. I think that it would be a very hard situation to handle emotionally for both me and Joe, probably more so for Joe. I personally dont agree with abortions except in cases of etc so no i wouldnt abort a baby from someone else. I dont think that id tell the father if he was just a one nighter, and if Joe was ok would rather pass the baby off as his. Some of you may not agree with this and I would proably act different if it actually happened but these are just my thoughts for now.
Louise xx
and hope like mad that the baby resembles you. It would be an awful situation to be in though
Sex God
personally for me I've been sterilised so I'm safe
However His could get some-one pregnant:shock:
If this did happen we would stand by the lady in whatever descision she decides to make. We have a duty like any other father to help & support this lady & baby.
Emotionially, who knows how we are going to feel
However His could get some-one pregnant:shock:
If this did happen we would stand by the lady in whatever descision she decides to make. We have a duty like any other father to help & support this lady & baby.
Emotionially, who knows how we are going to feel
