Lately I have been really down about my job for a number of reasons and today things took a turn for the worse. (wont go into detail as far too boring).
I then went in to see one of my work colleagues ready to just give up and throw in the towel. The only thing that has stopped me saying bog off is the mortgage and kids which really stops most people I suppose walking out. Now this is my problem and its up to me to find another job so this is not me moaning about poor Corrie etc.
The conversation turned to the fact that one of our work colleagues has only 6 months to live.
This news turned me cold - this is someone who has worked so hard for the last 18 years at this place, found true love last year and was so happy. This is also the second woman I have worked with at this place who is going to die. The other wonderful lady died last year. (. Oh and both same age as me)
It also made me realise that what was I complaining about???? It stopped me in my tracks and made me feel quite ashamed of myself for taking work too seriously.
I hope that I will learn from this episode and get off my fat backside and change jobs because I have no idea what is in my future in terms of years ahead with good health. What I do know is that I am learning slowly that work is really not the b and end all of life and if I really do end up working for far less - what the hell????????
So maybe I should set up the SH retirement complex for the over 60's sooner than I thought lol.
So to all of you who have , made that giant leap of faith and changed jobs to save your sanity and improve the quality of your life - advice would be welcome!!!!!!!!!!!!
Love Corrie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Hi
Sorry to here about your colleague and it's obviously shocked you but chin up and best foot forward
I have to say "go for it" find something that you are happy doing, the emotional benefit to yourself and your kids will out weigh any short term financial loss.
Who knows the fact you would be happier in your work actually might take you further in finacial return.
You are succesful in a job that isn't satisfying you, just think how great you'd be when you were enjoying it.
Jas
XXX
Sorry to here about your colleague and it's obviously shocked you but chin up and best foot forward
I have to say "go for it" find something that you are happy doing, the emotional benefit to yourself and your kids will out weigh any short term financial loss.
Who knows the fact you would be happier in your work actually might take you further in finacial return.
You are succesful in a job that isn't satisfying you, just think how great you'd be when you were enjoying it.
Jas
XXX
I know where you're coming from there Corrie. Last month I was sent reeling, similar reasons.
Still reeling from it all now, struggling to comprehend things. My whole perspective on things are pretty distorted right now.
Certainly makes you take stock of the people you have around you, the important people. Trouble is, right now I'm so fucking terrified that something else will happen, that I'm struggling to put things into perspective.
Sorry
not much help am I 
In fact, quite the opposite, probably just made things a whole lot worse for you now :lol: :uhoh:
But don't worry Corrie, we'll get there
And get yer dream job which doesn't swallow up our Corrie :kiss:
Still reeling from it all now, struggling to comprehend things. My whole perspective on things are pretty distorted right now.
Certainly makes you take stock of the people you have around you, the important people. Trouble is, right now I'm so fucking terrified that something else will happen, that I'm struggling to put things into perspective.
Sorry
not much help am I In fact, quite the opposite, probably just made things a whole lot worse for you now :lol: :uhoh:But don't worry Corrie, we'll get there
And get yer dream job which doesn't swallow up our Corrie :kiss:
I'm not going to go into details but my life changed completely 3 years ago, after a lot of soul searching I decided to go back to college, I realise that's not an option for everyone, but it's something I've not regreted and it's changed me for the better. At some point you have to realise that life is for living, find something fulfilling to do that will be positive for you and go for it.
I wish you luck.
H.x
I wish you luck.
H.x
Sex God
Corrie
Hugs................
You have number if you want to ring, please do so
xx
Hugs................
You have number if you want to ring, please do so
xx
Quote by Missy
I know where you're coming from there Corrie. Last month I was sent reeling, similar reasons.
Still reeling from it all now, struggling to comprehend things. My whole perspective on things are pretty distorted right now.
Certainly makes you take stock of the people you have around you, the important people. Trouble is, right now I'm so fucking terrified that something else will happen, that I'm struggling to put things into perspective.
Sorry
But don't worry Corrie, we'll get there
And get yer dream job which doesn't swallow up our Corrie :kiss:
You are right Missy we will get there and I am sorry that you have been through something similiar
and you could never make things worse for me !!!!!I have spent last couple of hours sending off my CV but nothing really has struck me as the 'dream' job. That will take time but seriously looking at contract work - think being your own boss has many attractions and I really need to look at that seriously.
Thanks Jas, Sarah, Shireen, Mike and others on your thoughts. I really am going to concentrate on making this happen and not give up this time.
Funny how when I want to get something off my chest I always come here ...............
Sex God
Oh corriefem just seen your thread & makes me want to delete my moaning thread. Take care hun
just seen your thread & makes me want to delete my moaning thread. Take care hun 
Sex God
Quote by Sarah
Corrie
Hugs................
You have number if you want to ring, please do so
xx
*easy goes off to find Sarahs number to give her pervy phonecalls*
AH! :doh: you meant for Corrie to ggive you a call didn't you. :doh:
Corrie PM on it's way hun.
Corrie,
Long time no see
I'm sorry you are feeling so low, but I am assured by those who know that you and I are in company with the bigger part of the world's population. As you know, I've had a few knocks and used to think I'd learned how to cope, well, I now know I haven't. All I've really learned how to do is to fool myself and lurch from one crutch to another; I still have the mortgage, irritating people all around me, a whole life of unfulfilled potential to look back on, all those novels I never finished (or indeed started) and a mirror which has this big baldy bloke with more saggy bits every day. But every day brings an opportunity to dance to a tune of my liking and a close scrape with that big fellah with the scythe has altered the way I look at things.
So, I've stopped fooling myself, indeed, I've pretty much stopped thinking beyond what is happening now; the only thing to regret in life is regret. I've also shot the 'what if' fairy: I suddenly realised that everything I'd ever worried about wasn't worth it and, in fact, most of it had never happened anyway.
I haven't completely cracked it,yet, but I have learned that Mr Micawber was right: 'something always turns up'.You and I have somewhat similar jobs: for thirty years I've been 'the best', 'the leader', 'the first in/last to leave', 'the dependable one; now I wish I'd just been ...'myself'. So whatever you decide to do, make sure it is what that little voice deep inside you, that still, small, voice of calm, suggests is right for you.
The rest will take care of itself...
Artixx
Long time no see
I'm sorry you are feeling so low, but I am assured by those who know that you and I are in company with the bigger part of the world's population. As you know, I've had a few knocks and used to think I'd learned how to cope, well, I now know I haven't. All I've really learned how to do is to fool myself and lurch from one crutch to another; I still have the mortgage, irritating people all around me, a whole life of unfulfilled potential to look back on, all those novels I never finished (or indeed started) and a mirror which has this big baldy bloke with more saggy bits every day. But every day brings an opportunity to dance to a tune of my liking and a close scrape with that big fellah with the scythe has altered the way I look at things.
So, I've stopped fooling myself, indeed, I've pretty much stopped thinking beyond what is happening now; the only thing to regret in life is regret. I've also shot the 'what if' fairy: I suddenly realised that everything I'd ever worried about wasn't worth it and, in fact, most of it had never happened anyway.
I haven't completely cracked it,yet, but I have learned that Mr Micawber was right: 'something always turns up'.You and I have somewhat similar jobs: for thirty years I've been 'the best', 'the leader', 'the first in/last to leave', 'the dependable one; now I wish I'd just been ...'myself'. So whatever you decide to do, make sure it is what that little voice deep inside you, that still, small, voice of calm, suggests is right for you.
The rest will take care of itself...
Artixx
Sex God
Corrie
I live by the Day as you know
Take each day as it comes and make the best of it
When you go to bed take a special thought from the day, even if its just a view or something that made you laugh. or even a childs smile
That little inner voice will tell you when the next job is the right one go with it
Wish you all the best of luck in your search
Be Happy hunni xxxxxxxxxxxx
I live by the Day as you know
Take each day as it comes and make the best of it
When you go to bed take a special thought from the day, even if its just a view or something that made you laugh. or even a childs smile
That little inner voice will tell you when the next job is the right one go with it
Wish you all the best of luck in your search
Be Happy hunni xxxxxxxxxxxx
For those of you who haven't ever had the pleasure of meeting Articifer, let me tell you you have missed a most wonderful experience of someone who inspires you through every word he says.
Artificer
The sadness I felt the other night has now passed and reading what you said below and the comments of others on here, in life and by pm I am lifted up into that world of knowing I am the only one who can changed things and I will. To know me is to know that I am a very positive person who re engages and doesn't live in the world of blame and negativaty because the only person it destroys is yourself and theres enough people out there who want to do that so no point in self destructing.
Arti you have to be the most articulate and talented person I have ever met. Your time on here over the years has inspired many others and I always wish you would come back on a regular basis!!!!!!
I have 3 tasks to do over the next few days:
1 make sure I make time for the lady who is need of some tlc in coming to terms with what the future holds for her
2 make sure that I put relationships and family first not work ( I am lucky that I am really happy in both)
3 make a list of all the things I am going to do for me to turn a negative into a positive in the next few months
You have no idea how much letting off steam here has helped me over the last couple of days. Isn't it funny how that works???
So thank you everyone.
Artificer
The sadness I felt the other night has now passed and reading what you said below and the comments of others on here, in life and by pm I am lifted up into that world of knowing I am the only one who can changed things and I will. To know me is to know that I am a very positive person who re engages and doesn't live in the world of blame and negativaty because the only person it destroys is yourself and theres enough people out there who want to do that so no point in self destructing.
Arti you have to be the most articulate and talented person I have ever met. Your time on here over the years has inspired many others and I always wish you would come back on a regular basis!!!!!!
I have 3 tasks to do over the next few days:
1 make sure I make time for the lady who is need of some tlc in coming to terms with what the future holds for her
2 make sure that I put relationships and family first not work ( I am lucky that I am really happy in both)
3 make a list of all the things I am going to do for me to turn a negative into a positive in the next few months
You have no idea how much letting off steam here has helped me over the last couple of days. Isn't it funny how that works???
So thank you everyone.
Quote by artificer
Corrie,
Long time no see
I'm sorry you are feeling so low, but I am assured by those who know that you and I are in company with the bigger part of the world's population. As you know, I've had a few knocks and used to think I'd learned how to cope, well, I now know I haven't. All I've really learned how to do is to fool myself and lurch from one crutch to another; I still have the mortgage, irritating people all around me, a whole life of unfulfilled potential to look back on, all those novels I never finished (or indeed started) and a mirror which has this big baldy bloke with more saggy bits every day. But every day brings an opportunity to dance to a tune of my liking and a close scrape with that big fellah with the scythe has altered the way I look at things.
So, I've stopped fooling myself, indeed, I've pretty much stopped thinking beyond what is happening now; the only thing to regret in life is regret. I've also shot the 'what if' fairy: I suddenly realised that everything I'd ever worried about wasn't worth it and, in fact, most of it had never happened anyway.
I haven't completely cracked it,yet, but I have learned that Mr Micawber was right: 'something always turns up'.You and I have somewhat similar jobs: for thirty years I've been 'the best', 'the leader', 'the first in/last to leave', 'the dependable one; now I wish I'd just been ...'myself'. So whatever you decide to do, make sure it is what that little voice deep inside you, that still, small, voice of calm, suggests is right for you.
The rest will take care of itself...
Artixx
Quote by Vicky_uk
Corrie
I live by the Day as you know
Take each day as it comes and make the best of it
When you go to bed take a special thought from the day, even if its just a view or something that made you laugh. or even a childs smile
Vicki
You are so right. Very wise words
Love Corrie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by corriefem
For those of you who haven't ever had the pleasure of meeting Articifer, let me tell you you have missed a most wonderful experience of someone who inspires you through every word he says.
I'm glad you're feeling happier in yourself Corrie, I had to second the above.
Arti we miss you and your words
Glad to see you are still about though 
Jas
XXX
Quote by Jas-Tim
For those of you who haven't ever had the pleasure of meeting Articifer, let me tell you you have missed a most wonderful experience of someone who inspires you through every word he says.
I'm glad you're feeling happier in yourself Corrie, I had to second the above.
Arti we miss you and your words
Glad to see you are still about though Jas
XXX
I need to third things. After the rotten rotten rotten rotten week I've just had I have to say that my new motto is 'life for the day' - as for Arti... well... I met this man recently and it was one of my more joyous experiences. Seeing the look on his face when I introduced myself was worth a lot.
He is more than welcome on here and I'm thrilled to have met him! Found the long beard and straggly hair a bit difficult to manage though!!
:lol: 
Quote by Jas-Tim
Found the long beard and straggly hair a bit difficult to manage though!!
Well you've always managed with Timmys :twisted: :twisted:
Ya hussy
Jas
XXX
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: where on Arti's body does he have straggly hair and a beard as its not on his head hahahahahahahahahahahaha sorry Arti for lowering the tone here but not sure if you have had a hair transplant from one of your local sheep :shock: :shock: :shock: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Quote by Jas-Tim
Found the long beard and straggly hair a bit difficult to manage though!!
Well you've always managed with Timmys :twisted: :twisted:
Ya hussy
Jas
XXX
Ah..
ops: true!!! But then Timmy is SUCH a fantastic snogger and I mostly have my eyes closed when my mouth is fastened to his that I can't see or care!! Mmmmmmmm soft lips are fab.:inlove: :inlove:
Am owed lots of snogs I remember.
:wink: :wink:
Quote by corriefem
Found the long beard and straggly hair a bit difficult to manage though!!
Well you've always managed with Timmys :twisted: :twisted:
Ya hussy
Jas
XXX
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: where on Arti's body does he have straggly hair and a beard as its not on his head hahahahahahahahahahahaha sorry Arti for lowering the tone here but not sure if you have had a hair transplant from one of your local sheep :shock: :shock: :shock: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
DAMNIT - I must have been talking to his dog!!! The reflection from his bald head has blinded me to the reality of life or it could have been the glasses of wine pressed into my hand by Will and Sappho which confused me???
:wink: :wink:
Quote by Jags
Found the long beard and straggly hair a bit difficult to manage though!!
Well you've always managed with Timmys :twisted: :twisted:
Ya hussy
Jas
XXX
Ah..
ops: true!!! But then Timmy is SUCH a fantastic snogger and I mostly have my eyes closed when my mouth is fastened to his that I can't see or care!! Mmmmmmmm soft lips are fab.:inlove: :inlove:
Am owed lots of snogs I remember.
:wink: :wink:
You are indeed :wink: you just need to find a spare slot in your schedule and get down here for a visit. :thumbup:
Jas
XXX
Quote by Jas-Tim
You are indeed
Jas
XXX
Soon, I promise!! Today was Harrogate, next week is Manchester, Harrogate again and then a little time in Dundee... but save them for me???
:inlove: :kiss: :kiss: :kiss:
Sexlightened
Four years ago my job started to affect my heath and I always said that I would give up if it got that bad and I did just that - took my ball home saying I am not playing.
For now its probably best to know what you have to find financially to keep things going and settle for that whilst you perhaps find what is going to be best. It suits me to be self employed on less money and have more time for me and kids whilst they are growing up but you have to find what suits you and be happy with that.
As far as finding a job a friend of mine once sent out 50 e-mails to friends asking them if they or friends of theirs had some kind of job and what he was really interested in - kind of pyramid job application and it worked a treat.
Best wishes for your searches - remember there are lots of people who have done this before and keep chatting to friends to keep you on the straight and narrow.
Shay
For now its probably best to know what you have to find financially to keep things going and settle for that whilst you perhaps find what is going to be best. It suits me to be self employed on less money and have more time for me and kids whilst they are growing up but you have to find what suits you and be happy with that.
As far as finding a job a friend of mine once sent out 50 e-mails to friends asking them if they or friends of theirs had some kind of job and what he was really interested in - kind of pyramid job application and it worked a treat.
Best wishes for your searches - remember there are lots of people who have done this before and keep chatting to friends to keep you on the straight and narrow.
Shay
