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Sex God
Quote by Jetranger
I see some people get very insensed about others whispering to them in the chatrooms. My question is what is so bad about it, I am a newbie here so please excuse my ignorance
in a lot of chatrooms across the internet it is considered to be rude to whisper without asking first... which is why they normally say ask before you do it...
plus to be honest.. why do you need to whisper in the first place if you have never spoken to the person before???????
Sex God
I presume you're talking about whispering to people you don't know too well or at all - and would it be mainly women you're talking about as well?
Well I ain't a chatroom expert by any means but imagine you're a girl in a pub talking to a bunch of mates and this stranger comes over to you and says 'Hey, come over here into this corner and have a quiet word with me.' What do you think her reaction would be?
Then imagine that you are the 15th bloke that to have come over and said that to her tonight. What do you think the response would be then?
Well I ain't a chatroom expert by any means but imagine you're a girl in a pub talking to a bunch of mates and this stranger comes over to you and says 'Hey, come over here into this corner and have a quiet word with me.' What do you think her reaction would be?
Then imagine that you are the 15th bloke that to have come over and said that to her tonight. What do you think the response would be then?
No whispers is also a rule in some of the rooms - so if you're in one of those and you/ someone whispers, then the recipient usually copies and pastes it into the room - and the whisperer usually gets kicked.
It is considered rude - but also its 'inconvenient' - some people like to chat openly in the room and being pulled off to one side for a private chat makes the room difficult to follow
its another one of those things that form the etiquette around here - particularly in chat, you'll pick it up pretty quick! :thumbup:
It is considered rude - but also its 'inconvenient' - some people like to chat openly in the room and being pulled off to one side for a private chat makes the room difficult to follow
its another one of those things that form the etiquette around here - particularly in chat, you'll pick it up pretty quick! :thumbup:
Sex God
Quote by markz
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thats the most useful thing you've ever posted
Sex God
Quote by fabio grooverider
plus to be honest.. why do you need to whisper in the first place if you have never spoken to the person before???????
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also just to add a thought.........have a think about the single women in the chat rooms and how many whispers they get........then u might realise why people dont like them.......
OK OK wow did that rustle up a hornets nest. No seriously thanks for your response, all who contributed, and I very much appreciate the female side, thank you especially westerross (where the hell did you get that name from) I think your analogy made a lot of sense. The rest I think was a little "in house" and when straight over my head. Disclaimer: I would like to make it clear to all concerned that I have never and will never whisper without prior acknowledgement or consent. Or something like that. PS We need more people from the south of England on this site, Whisper or perhaps they don’t do it there. I would now insert a smiley, but I don't know how to.
Warming the Bed
wots wrong with asking peeps in the chat room 1st if u can whisper them.
Sex God
Quote by gillandcarl
wots wrong with asking peeps in the chat room 1st if u can whisper them.
In theory nothing as long as the room is not a 'No Whispering' room.
But in practice you might want to consider....
I presume you're talking about whispering to people you don't know too well or at all - and would it be mainly women you're talking about as well?
Well I ain't a chatroom expert by any means but imagine you're a girl in a pub talking to a bunch of mates and this stranger comes over to you and says 'Hey, come over here into this corner and have a quiet word with me.' What do you think her reaction would be?
Then imagine that you are the 15th bloke that to have come over and said that to her tonight. What do you think the response would be then?
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Quote by gillandcarl
wots wrong with asking peeps in the chat room 1st if u can whisper them.
I don't mind people asking first because then I can say "No" publicly in the room then everyone else knows not to bother asking!
As others have mentioned, speaking from a female perspective as soon as you enter a chat room you usually you get a lot of guys whispering you at the same time and usually they haven't even read your profile, they are simply spamming you.
Ever tried having a conversation in a chatroom whilst every other sentence is a whisper from somebody else?
Quote by naughtynymphos1
i think many people go over the top about whispers, personally i can't see the harm after all you wouldn't go upto someone in the street and ask permission to say hi first would you?
Good point but by the same token you wouldn't walk up to someone and whisper to them if they were in a middle of a conversation with another person.
If people just want to say hi to you then why would they need to whisper?
Orgasminator
The guys that whisper in chat do not usually ask permission to talk to you privately first. They just go ahead and say things like 'wow, great pic!' followed by 'you make me horny... I can be over in half an hour, I only live 5 miles away from you' as if that makes it alright. Most of the times they just copy/paste the same lines to all females in chat. This has been seen many times when I cut/paste their rude whisper in public and another girl or two happen to be doing the same at the same time! You never see a man disappear more quickly when he is found out! LOL
I consider virtual chat same as being in a public place with lots of people. You wouldn't accept someone coming to your side and whispering in your ear, would you? So why accept it in chat? Do I stop being a person with feelings and become an object of lust and a hitting target just because I am in chat? I am sorry, good manners should prevail at every situation, at all times.
Most of the times they just copy/paste the same lines to all females in chat. This has been seen many times when I cut/paste their rude whisper in public and another girl or two happen to be doing the same at the same time! You never see a man disappear more quickly when he is found out! LOLI consider virtual chat same as being in a public place with lots of people. You wouldn't accept someone coming to your side and whispering in your ear, would you? So why accept it in chat? Do I stop being a person with feelings and become an object of lust and a hitting target just because I am in chat? I am sorry, good manners should prevail at every situation, at all times.
Quote by Kiss_Me
i think many people go over the top about whispers, personally i can't see the harm after all you wouldn't go upto someone in the street and ask permission to say hi first would you?
Good point but by the same token you wouldn't walk up to someone and whisper to them if they were in a middle of a conversation with another person.
also a good point lol
i think it depends on what bothers u, personally if someone whispers me and i don't want to chat i just ignor it they soon gte bored and go away lol
Quote by naughtynymphos1
i think many people go over the top about whispers, personally i can't see the harm after all you wouldn't go upto someone in the street and ask permission to say hi first would you?
Good point but by the same token you wouldn't walk up to someone and whisper to them if they were in a middle of a conversation with another person.
also a good point lol
i think it depends on what bothers u, personally if someone whispers me and i don't want to chat i just ignor it they soon gte bored and go away lol
Exactly each to their own and all that. I tend to ignore whispers but sometimes people just catch me on a bad day! :twisted:
Sex God
Quote by gillandcarl
wots wrong with asking peeps in the chat room 1st if u can whisper them.
i havn't seen anything in this thread saying that it wasn't.....like people have said it is common decency to ask in public 1st before whispering...
It is the people who don't ask 1st and just do it that get on people's nerves and Tune's analogy is a very good one....
me personally.. i ask people not to do it first nicely and chat in public.. if after that they don't listen then i get a teeny weeny bit mad....
after all if they can't respect your wishes in regards to a simple "whisper" what else are they not going to respect????sean xxxxxxxxxxx
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Sex God
I think it's more a problem for the women than for the guys ... can you imagine how irritating and chaotic it must be to be getting all these 'whispers' coming in from single blokes hoping to strike lucky if they can get a 1-to-1 conversation going?
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Chat Etiquette:
No capitals are to be used as this is regarded as shouting and rude
No abuse or bullying is allowed towards members, ops or admin
No form of harassment is to take place
Do not use their real life name when posting, keep to usernames
No trolling: this means the posting of the same message over and over again
No talk of munch or dogging locations
No posting of other sites, email addresses or phone numbers
Please do NOT whisper without asking first and getting a yeah
Remember “NO†from a member means “NOâ€
That is why
Do you know what I think PL?
I think your atavar is scrumptious!
hwoar: I generally only go in two rooms, the forum chat room and s wales room, I've tried a few others but it's just so annoying not to be able to join in the conversation because you're dealing with numpties the whole time. You can tell when the pubs have closed, they come in, don't say a word to the room and start wispering to every woman in there. My policy, paste the wisper in the room, ask the room in general not to wisper, if they do it twice they get kicked. I have had several occassions where they've got quite abusive because I've pasted the wisper in the room but it does make me wonder if that approach ever works and if not - why do they keep doing it?
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