Question ?- Why on the members Homepage do we have a section that says 'members who may interest you'? This section which I believe is an 'extras' benefit??? for example - How are a couple in Aberdeen going to be of any practical interest to us?
Though they maybe the loveliest people in the country, with a profile ticking all our boxes we live in Gloucestershire just a a couple of minutes down the road (not) for cying out loud!
This section is to be honest 'crap' - At one time you had an option of setting the profile parameters for'those who might interest you' this was a good idea, but not anymore. Why not?
I feel a little crap whinging about this sort of stuff but hey! We payed for extras and what do we get? A silly little tag for the chatroom, a lounge as popular as death row (though have chatted to a few really decent people in it on 2 occasions- since March!!!!) Is it thirty winks (oh! what a joy they are!) a day we all need a thousand winks a year don't we. A little extra time on the video thing too -god i try to contain myself-oh and of course a choice of how many colours for our profile to make it stand ou!!!t(only to those who choose to look) i feel like i have been truly selected as 'extra special'. An honour I guess??
Sorry about this ranting i must be hormonal!
Nope Jags. I was being very careful, I thought, not to be seen to be having a moan. I thought my earlier remarks on this thread showed that.
All I was doing was asking why I should feel like this. Maybe being jumped on for asking the question goes some way to reinforcing my unease.
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ES.....
the grass isn't always greener elsewhere... for example i could have typed the same thing about where you reside mostly now... i don't particually feel comfortable there.. and i feel happier here than "there"
but i thought that we had gotten past all this now..so why drag it all up again, the places are different and people will make the best of the situation however they see fit.....
I think it was a fair comment.... we have met couples (yes more than one) who are scared stiff to post anything in here for the fear of being made to look or feel stupid. They have wanted to join in and ask questions of what seems to be experienced swingers but just find some a little too abrasive with there sarcastic comments.
Not all find it so easy to take on the chin and find me one person who reads every single past post before asking a question.... I have often wondered why some find it so easy to try and put others down. No ones perfect are they.
Will it ever change.... No way. It takes time to realise not everything is done to put people down, not all newbies have the patients or stomach to hang around after being slagged off so quick.. Some may be really nice some may be as suggested just taking the pis* but unless all are given a chance who knows? If they then leave the site as a result we all lose…
Just my humble opinion......
Mike
And just to show what I mean here is a pm recieved by someone not posting for the very same reason...
Not saying any names but please read....
Mike - totally agree with your post.
Certain moderators treat posters - NEW posters, usually, with such disrespect, attacking their opinion, attacking even their right to have an opinion (if, for example, they have recently come back from another site) that I feel totally unable to express any opinion which goes against the popular view.
Genuine pm from someone who does not post....
Mike xx
I'm sure its not you.... They would have felt able to say surely.
I was right then....... :P
Lost, good to see you in here, apreciate what you're saying, but am not going to comment at this time because in the last few days there has been (in my opinion) quite a bit of 'Agent Provocateur' stuff goind on and i'm not getting drawn in again.
maybe some not so good.
as it is not my intention to be in this instance....
