I hate dishonesty, and would be devastated if my hubby played without my knowledge or consent. He is allowed to play without me, so long as I know about it. I dislike the idea that men swing without their wife's knowledge, but I don't condemn them particularly. No one outside of their marriage truly knows their reasons for doing so. I prefer them to be honest about the fact that they are married/attached, than pretend to be single, but if I fancy them, and trust them, I don't refuse to play with them. I am fairly sure they will be discrete, and won't want more than I'm prepared to give, whereas you sometimes really don't know what you might be getting into with genuinely single guys. I know that in life there are no guarantees, but it works in my head, and I don't have that many meets anyway.
you sure he doesn't work shifts? i used to work to and i used to get up about 10am.
if you called me before i woke up i'd be Mr Grumpy all day. :taz:
My partner and I like 3somes (mmf's) but i also meet up with other couples without my partner, she knows about it and is happy to chat on the phone if that needs to be verified. Speaking as a couple I don't think we would be happy with someone who would not be able to do at least what we do.
dishonesty is a fairly unattractive quality.
Its in somebodys sig here: "Oh what a tangled web we weave"
If the truth turns me off more than the lie, I would still rather know.
Between 9 and 4, could it be that he is a single parent? Ifso then he should say, but perhaps he is embarrassed to admit it.
I ask this because I'm a single parent and between 9 and 4 would suit me best for phone-calls too, not that I would insist upon that as you know! ;)
Well said bear, a concept I may build into my own philosophy.
Although honesty is a big thing for me and that includes being honest with life partners. That said I don't expect a signed certificate of consent from single attached peoples life partners.
at least if the person, male or female, is honest on their profile of their relationship status and the lack of knowledge of their partner, the other party considering whether to play or not can make an informed decision based on their own personal preferences.
those who arent honest take that informed decision away.
I dont play with married men/women who's partner doesnt know, thats my choice, and at least a profile stating they are one or the other, lets me make my choice.
Its not only 'singles' that are dishonest with their partners, i know of a few couples where one half has asked for meets without the others knowledge.
hiya
to be truefull i dont mind meeting married or single men
but must admit the married guys dont pester you like the single 1's do
but its you who decide's who you play with married or single
good luck
jo x
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