Hi, for the past 2 years my partner has had a problem with intercourse/foreplay when she gets excited and starts to enjoy what we are doing, she gets very bad pains all around her vagina not just inside but i cant make any contact to her area without her being in pain. She says its like razor blades and stabbing all around her Vagina and inside. Ive asked her about has she contacted a GP or sexual advise person but she doesn't want to talk to anyone about the problem. It's taken 2 years for her to tell me as i knew there was a problem but not this bad, as because she gets pain we only have intercourse once a month and that doesn't last long as she gets pain and has to stop, so we end up not getting intimate at all. it's got so bad that i asked her about what her thoughts are on me getting a sexual toy for me to relive myself as she thinks its disgusting pleasuring me orally or by hand, so i have to relieve myself. She doesn't like the idea of me using a sexual toy, and that's when i found out about her pains shes getting. I asked her to see a GP etc.. but she not o as doesn't want to talk to someone about her problem. I'm now in a really bad place as i have no idea on what to do now. Does anyone know of anything about her pains as these pains only arrive when shes getting excited even if im only giving her oral and not actually penetrating her she gets these pains and then that's it we have to stop. Any advise would be much appreciated...
Without a closer examination I couldn't possibly comment with any authority! ;) Obviously you can't force her to see someone if she doesn't want to, so just settle for being understanding and offering reassurance when it's needed. She needs to realise that it's probably not something serious and take herself to the GP. It could be something as simple as a case of thrush which can cause the skin to split slightly when stretched, resulting in a bad stinging sensation when in contact with moisture, but easily rectified quickly with the right medication. Hope it gets sorted soon.
tell your partner to get to a doctors immediately intercourse shouldnt cause pain something is wrong and she needs to be examined by someone qualified the internet is not the place to be researching this
There are anonymous STI clinics at most hospitals, who will keep your identity totally secret, even your doctor is not informed of your visit, usually run by specialist nurses. Failing that there is always Canistan cream for "thrush" available at any chemist without prescription.
As others have commented - get to a doctors as soon as you can. Although this is more than likely nothing more than a bad case of thrush it could be something more serious. Putting it off any longer will mean continuing pain and making it more difficult to treat. Your GP will have seen stuff like this on countless occasions and far worse - the only thing he/she may be judgemental about is not going there earlier. It makes healing more difficult and will have had an adverse affect upon your life, things a doctor is all about. If you really can't bear seeing the GP then the STI clinic is just as good. I have been to the STI clinic on several occasions, after each time I split up with a long term partner with whom I had unprotected sex - to protect myself and any future partners. The staff are VERY discreet, friendly, helpful and non-judgemental (although the reason for my attending was not believed at first, apparently sensible males are not all that common). There are some very good, very discreet ways of telling you your results and nothing will go any further except if there is a real threat to public health (and in your case this is not so). DO NOT GO TO ACCIDENT AND EMERGENCY. Unless it is something that is directly threatening your life in the immediate future the best route is always your GP, or in this case the STI clinic. Finally, please go as soon as you can - never suffer like this when the cure is so easy to come by.
Hi, It could be Vaginismus, either Primary or Secondary. Which can cause extreme pain and discomfort. Really the only course to follow is a trip to either your GP, Sexual Health Clinic or Well Woman Clinic. Hope you get some help x P.S. Im a nurse and this a very common problem. Try not to worry, but do speak to someone.
Men have sexual problems too. I told my doctor I was getting erectile disfunction. I wasn't required to demonstrate lol He referred me to the local hospital who prescribed Cialis. Result: erections when I want them and no erections when I don't want. The effect of one pill lasts for several days. Plenty of fun too. You're wife shouldn't feel coy about a condition which can be easily treated. I wonder if she has had a puritanical upbringing.
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