Reading the signs

5 Sep 2006

Quote by westerross
There's different types o' people who like to do things the way that suits them - I thought we'd already established that (or was that another thread FFS?).
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Yep we did Tune but as with debate it keeps going. Also the rest of what you said is good to me.
This is just the first time iv'e been interested in this kind of thread and wanted to post in as answers bring more questions and it has interested me.
But alas bed calls and i'll catch up tommorrow just as it gets moving too rolleyes

5 Sep 2006

Quote by westerross
So Choon, fancy a shag? :twisted:

That's an example of 'quick'!!

:rotflmao:

redface

sorreeeeee :twisted:

5 Sep 2006

Quote by Freckledbird
So Choon, fancy a shag? :twisted:

That's an example of 'quick'!!

:rotflmao:

redface

sorreeeeee :twisted:
Apology not necessary - I do quick as well (hoping some will notice.... innocent

)
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5 Sep 2006

I cant do signs either, primarily because usually if I think someone's interested, from flirty posts, pm's etc or their approach in person being all attentive and 'into me' , I'll think 'nice one, wonder where this will lead....' then 5 minutes later they're doing the same thing or behaving in the same way toward others, or, it swings the other way and you dont hear from them for weeks... and that makes me think 'ohhhhhh i misread that one then bolt

' and another one bites the dust rolleyes

6 Sep 2006

Quote by Darkfire
I cant do signs either, primarily because usually if I think someone's interested, from flirty posts, pm's etc or their approach in person being all attentive and 'into me' , I'll think 'nice one, wonder where this will lead....' then 5 minutes later they're doing the same thing or behaving in the same way toward others, or, it swings the other way and you dont hear from them for weeks... and that makes me think 'ohhhhhh i misread that one then ' and another one bites the dust

Can relate to that one!!
Think Im too thick to know if anyone is interested in me! Im too much of a flirt really so I expect someone to flirt back if they chose to..... and I dont see anything in it! Probably isnt hehe Yet if someones upfront with it I get confused as I was only flirting to begin with lol Anyone with me so far??? The I get all shy and think I gave the wrong impression......
oh well...win some ya lose some!
xanaisx>>>time for bed said sleephead!!

6 Sep 2006

Quote by Darkfire
I cant do signs either, primarily because usually if I think someone's interested, from flirty posts, pm's etc or their approach in person being all attentive and 'into me' , I'll think 'nice one, wonder where this will lead....' then 5 minutes later they're doing the same thing or behaving in the same way toward others, or, it swings the other way and you dont hear from them for weeks... and that makes me think 'ohhhhhh i misread that one then ' and another one bites the dust

Ain't that to be expected on here though - for two reasons. Firstly - the nature of the site and the people who populate it - it's having fun and making contact at the same time. Secondly, because, if there is no obvious reaction to the 'approach' from you, then the other person will fear becoming a pest if they persist. Takes two to tango. (Shit that was TTTT - sorry Jags).
It's true, I think, though that there are tarts about (Choon quickly checks recent behaviour confused

:undecided: ). People who will run around titillating lots of other people with no intention of engaging with all of them. That can be a bit reckless with other people's feelings - if you want to talk serious better to limit it to a very small number that you want to get :twisted: with.
By titllating I mean appearing to talk serious about meeting up for sex. I hasten to add that, as a dodgy single bloke, I have never been mucked about by a titllator! sad

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6 Sep 2006

Quote by westerross
then 5 minutes later they're doing the same thing or behaving in the same way toward others,

Ain't that to be expected on here though - for two reasons. Firstly - the nature of the site and the people who populate it - it's having fun and making contact at the same time. Secondly, because, if there is no obvious reaction to the 'approach' from you, then the other person will fear becoming a pest if they persist. .
Of course Tune, but this is where I cant read the signs...perhaps because it is 'expected behaviour' - is this person's flirty behaviour simply having fun and making contact flirty forum banter that sometimes extends into pm on a matey/ bantery basis ...... or are they interested? dunno

To me, there's a difference, but unless someone just comes out with it straight, no flirty bullshit, I dont really know which is which redface

12 Sep 2006

Well i been thinking about this and i can see signs
but only the negative ones or i turn them in to negative just by reading differently or inccorectly or even correctly for that matter.
That not just for sexy signs but in general.
I've dug this out as i've been doing it more than usuall lately sad

and have been a bit short in my replys.

12 Sep 2006

i dont have a lack of confidence , i just dont have any

12 Sep 2006

What signs?
dunno

H.x

12 Sep 2006

with all due respect H you have trouble reading road signs ffs :giggle:

12 Sep 2006

Quote by H-x
What signs?

H.x

That's odd, I was just thinking you've been very quiet lately........... :shock:

12 Sep 2006

Sass, Oh to be able to deny it :doh:
Stormie, my phone line's been down for a week.
H.x

12 Sep 2006

Quote by goose35
Well i been thinking about this and i can see signs
but only the negative ones or i turn them in to negative just by reading differently or inccorectly or even correctly for that matter.
That not just for sexy signs but in general.
I've dug this out as i've been doing it more than usuall lately and have been a bit short in my replys.

Bugger now i just actually read somit positive unless i got it wrong. This is rare
Now what confused

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Nowt it's probably wrong
Jees this is hard lol

12 Sep 2006

Quote by H-x
Sass, Oh to be able to deny it :doh:
H.x

but it's one of your delicious quirks hunni passionkiss

though may be an idea to set off for pete'sTHIS weekend :giggle:

25 Sep 2006

Quote by H-x
What signs?

H.x

Believe it or not this was a serious question. What would people consider to be a sign that someone is interested in them? As some people may gather from previous posts my confidence is negligable and not being able to see signs kind of compounds this - you don't see the signs you think no-one is interested.
So maybe, if I may, I could change the slant of the thread a little to what signs to people use to show that they are interested.
H.x

25 Sep 2006

Quote by H-x
What signs?

H.x

What signs?
See my previous post or look further down the page! biggrin

25 Sep 2006

Quote by Kiss
What signs?

H.x

What signs?
See my previous post or look further down the page! biggrin

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Awww hun you are soooo funny and I love you for it :inlove:

25 Sep 2006

Quote by H-x
What signs?

H.x

Believe it or not this was a serious question. What would people consider to be a sign that someone is interested in them? As some people may gather from previous posts my confidence is negligable and not being able to see signs kind of compounds this - you don't see the signs you think no-one is interested.
So maybe, if I may, I could change the slant of the thread a little to what signs to people use to show that they are interested.
H.x
Well it would probably take someone to sit on my lap and stick their tongue down my throat before I would get the hint.
But Iâ€™m surprised you lack confidence, you have always come across as having plenty to me. Iâ€™ve seen you handle the QS brigade in the chatroom and read your posts; you certainly donâ€™t display a lack of confidence on the surface. I guess that just shows how hard it can be to see beyond the veneer.

25 Sep 2006

Quote by H-x
What signs?

H.x

Believe it or not this was a serious question. What would people consider to be a sign that someone is interested in them? As some people may gather from previous posts my confidence is negligable and not being able to see signs kind of compounds this - you don't see the signs you think no-one is interested.
So maybe, if I may, I could change the slant of the thread a little to what signs to people use to show that they are interested.
H.x
Usually everything I say to you redface

I find it's the unconscious body language that gives it away, things you're not aware you're doing but gives out signals if the other person knows what to look for. eg, sitting a little closer than you normally would, eye contact, sitting with you knees facing the other person, open body position, playing with your hair or clothing, a light touch on their arm. These things you may do but not realise it.

25 Sep 2006

Quote by Stormwalker
Well it would probably take someone to sit on my lap and stick their tongue down my throat before I would get the hint.
But Iâ€™m surprised you lack confidence, you have always come across as having plenty to me. Iâ€™ve seen you handle the QS brigade in the chatroom and read your posts; you certainly donâ€™t display a lack of confidence on the surface. I guess that just shows how hard it can be to see beyond the veneer.

It doesn't take much to quell the chatroom numpties really, it's hard for them to think with their brain going up and down in their hand so fast.
H.x

25 Sep 2006

Quote by H-x

Well it would probably take someone to sit on my lap and stick their tongue down my throat before I would get the hint.
But Iâ€™m surprised you lack confidence, you have always come across as having plenty to me. Iâ€™ve seen you handle the QS brigade in the chatroom and read your posts; you certainly donâ€™t display a lack of confidence on the surface. I guess that just shows how hard it can be to see beyond the veneer.

It doesn't take much to quell the chatroom numpties really, it's hard for them to think with their brain going up and down in their hand so fast.
H.x
:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

25 Sep 2006

Quote by H-x
What signs?

H.x

Believe it or not this was a serious question. What would people consider to be a sign that someone is interested in them? As some people may gather from previous posts my confidence is negligable and not being able to see signs kind of compounds this - you don't see the signs you think no-one is interested.
So maybe, if I may, I could change the slant of the thread a little to what signs to people use to show that they are interested.
H.x
wonderful idea H-x
am sitting up straight, note book and pen to hand and hoping I am really going to learn something here.

Quote by Sassy-Seren
Usually everything I say to you
I find it's the unconscious body language that gives it away, things you're not aware you're doing but gives out signals if the other person knows what to look for. eg, sitting a little closer than you normally would, eye contact, sitting with you knees facing the other person, open body position, playing with your hair or clothing, a light touch on their arm. These things you may do but not realise it.

Nah, far ytoo sublte for me Sassy, Ijust don.t pick that sort of thing up at all, probably because I'm never expecting it to happen :dunno:
if someone walked over and grabbed me by the vitals I'd probably get the hint, or a straight forward, "look do you want a shag or not ffs?" would probably do tyhe trick, apart from that I am totally blind to body language rolleyes

25 Sep 2006

I'm never backward in coming forwards (verbally) and like it when people feel they can be the same with me, but I do appreciate that everyone's different.
My ex-boyfriend (that I'm often rambling on about) and I got together simply because I just like to ask. We were leaving the studio one evening and I just looked at him and said "Do you fancy going to a hotel one evening?". Admittedly he did look a little startled, but if I'd left it to him we would have never got it together.
Anyway to cut a long story short, he was giving me a lift home but I was staying with my parents, so inviting him in was out of the question. After a few heated goodbye kisses we just decided to drive to the woods down the road. What a night that was. :crazy:

25 Sep 2006

I think *signs* must be a difficult arena from all angles.
certainly for me anyway.
Confidence has been mantioned several times, something I lack dreadfully, so would most probably be reserved, for fear of rejection most probably, and humiliation, also for fear of offending whomever I may be interested in.
there may well be a follow on from this aspect as well, mails may have been exchanged, a meet could possably also have taken place, and all may seem well..
but what happens then?...
again another confidence issue (speaking personally).. how much contact to attempt to maintain, in the light of wishing a *friendly* approach... a balance thing I know, but my scales must be way out!
>>meeting people and becoming freindly is something I have sought from the outset, just for he record<<
even wriring this, I *fear* (goodness.. coming across a multi-phobic bag o'nerves!) coming across as one of the *preditory males* mentioned in other threads... certainly not my intention, nor my practice.
practice??..ha!
I know people have mentioned being more *upfront* though this for me is a very dificult thing to be, but then, maybe its selfish of me to want others to be just that???
Am I lazy?
Confused?
what?...............
certainly confused!
>appologies in advance for poor writing here... I wonder if any of makes sense?<
LP

25 Sep 2006

I met a farmers daughter last summer. She said 'you wanna see my crop circles?'
I thought that's a devlishly cunning way to suggest a bit of hanky panky. me all of a tremble thinking, 'do I go for the brown or the pink?' wink

So we climbed the hill and looked out over several acres of barley, convincingly flattened into what looked like 'crop circles'.
Blast I thought, she really meant that. So we ate our sandwiches and held hands as the sun went down. :cry:

25 Sep 2006

Quote by H-x
So maybe, if I may, I could change the slant of the thread a little to what signs to people use to show that they are interested.
H.x

Im not sure i've actually given any signs in the forum as i usually try and answer the thread unless im in mid hijack when i've had a bit of banter with someone though i wouldnt say that was a sign. Which has made me wonder are there actually any signs in the forum if others do the same confused

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As for signs in real situations i'm not that confident in myself at getting close enough to do any of the chatting stuff so usually end up in a corner or somewhere far away stealing glances across the room and if i get any kind of reaction i might go over but not often do i do it. If i do go over it's usually under the spell of a few drinks and then im a different person any way.