I know this may well get ignored or booted to the bottom of the list but having chatted to a few fellow 'responders' in the chat rooms, I just have to write something here.
I am a single bloke and have been on this site for a while now, with a reasonable level of 'success' when it comes to meets. I've met a few nice couples and a few decent fems, all with which i think we'd agree, have had a fair bit of fun.
The singel male, by numbers alone, has a bit of a bad reputation in 'this' world and in many cases quite rightly so, however, i'd like to try to redress the balance a wee bit and bring up my and many others big gripe.
Why are there so many 'couples' (if thats what they really are) that are happy to advertise on the site, looking for either guys, couples or groups, 'desperate' to talk to genuine people to arrange chats or meets who then never even bother having the decncy to say no thanks when you do write back with the non-wink, original reply that they ask for???? Most of us would just like to know that they've read it or dont like what they see etc but absolutely nothing.
In the past 3-4 months , I could easily name 10 of these so called cpls/swingers who regularly advertise (some daily) and yet never bother to reply to anything one sends out.
I'd be interested to read the thoughts of our more genuine membersbut please, next time the single guy comes into the frame for a slagging off, please remember that we are not all the same....
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Sex God
Well I can't speak about replying to males as such as we ar'nt advertising for them, but if we receive a PM from a single lady which is what we are advertising for, we ALWAYS reply. It's rude not to if someone has made an effort. However if we receive a PM from a single man when we have made it clear that they are not we are looking for we will NOT reply.
Good luck in your search.
Fire x
Good luck in your search.
Fire x
I am all too aware of the flusterations you feel over this matter kiteboy but as you know we can't "easily name" anybody in public on the forum can we?But I understand how you feel, I go through it myself.
However they could have all kinds of genuine reasons why they don't reply and there's no law to say they have to however nicely you or I word things.
I too try to write articulate, honest messages to couples that I feel that things are possible with, people within a reasonable age range to mine and where I hopefully can meet their desired type of they are say two 28 year olds in a couple asking for slim guys between 25-40 then clearly there is no point in my answering their profile.
Us single guys do have to try so hard to impress with so much competition but its best to keep on going and keep your hopes up, it can happen as kiteboy and I can both attest to!
However they could have all kinds of genuine reasons why they don't reply and there's no law to say they have to however nicely you or I word things.
I too try to write articulate, honest messages to couples that I feel that things are possible with, people within a reasonable age range to mine and where I hopefully can meet their desired type of they are say two 28 year olds in a couple asking for slim guys between 25-40 then clearly there is no point in my answering their profile.
Us single guys do have to try so hard to impress with so much competition but its best to keep on going and keep your hopes up, it can happen as kiteboy and I can both attest to!
it depends on the message that is received. If it ignores the criteria stated in my ad/profile then i ignore it. If people can't be bothered to read properly then neither can I.
If it is a proper message - well though out and the writer is within my preferences, then I will reply if only to say thanks but no thanks or that I need more time and will get back to them soon.
Sorry - am not a couple but I think it applies to most people.
If it is a proper message - well though out and the writer is within my preferences, then I will reply if only to say thanks but no thanks or that I need more time and will get back to them soon.
Sorry - am not a couple but I think it applies to most people.
Sex God
I do feel for the single bloke. I am fortunate that as the male half of a couple i get a lot of attention afforded me because of my fairer sexed other half. We dont respond to winks its a preference we state it in our profile and thats fine. We also state that we prefer to approach single males as otherwise the mail can get (still does occasionally) a little tumultuos. Still though if some bloke has taken time to articulate personally a few original lines to us then an answer would always be forth coming. Though in saying that some of the winks are becoming very sophisticated. Sounding as though they are written on an individual basis when in fact they are not 
mind you once you start getting successful meets the ball starts rolling so to speak. Goodluck guys
mind you once you start getting successful meets the ball starts rolling so to speak. Goodluck guys 