Does anyone have the courtesy to send a simple 'no thanks' in reply to my answer to their advert ?
All my replies are relevant to their advert, polite and informative. I have no beef that they consider me not their choice...I do get very annoyed that they don't have the decency to reply - however briefly.
I'm not basing this complaint on a single instance...in about 5 years or more I have never had a 'no thanks ' reply . I seriously think whether this site is for me...whether the adverts are genuine and whether the site owners care...which is why I have never paid to upgrade my membership.
any thoughts folks?
As this is not a subject for discussion in the Suggestions forum I'll move to the right place.
However, it's one that comes up time and time again, so you may not get the answer you're looking for.
NB: you have a full premium account anyway, so would have no need to upgrade.
I seldom respond to ads these days, and I rarely get a reply if I do, but I don't expect one either. There have been a few polite responses over the years, but I generally accept that people won't reply unless they are interested in meeting me (it happens occasionally).
It's a common question you pose, but equally common is that of women asking if they ought to reply with a no thanks, or to just ignore. My advice to them on that point, based upon feedback, would be to ignore. The reason for this is that so many guys just can't accept a polite "no thanks", and initiate repeated messages to the lady in question, often becoming abusive.
Don't take it personally. There are genuine advertisers on the site. If you really wish to meet then the chatroom is probably a better option. Show your face on cam, be visible, and chat away. Go to socials and become known as a genuine member and improve your status within the community.
Can only speak personally, but we ALWAYS reply to mails that warrant them but we never reply to junk mail, ie if someone has read our ad and falls within the category of what we are seeking in that add then we reply with an affirmative response or a "thanks but no thanks".
On the other hand if they are just chancers or disrespectful ie not bothered to read the add or our profile then we consider it junk mail just like that which we get in our letterbox and do not reply.
If we send a mail and get no reply then we take that as our reply ie they are not interested in us, not everyone gets the time to reply to all their mails and we respect that, some people have just become, bored to death with all the people that mail them when they are clearly outside the meeting criteria they have stipulated and some people don't reply because others get abusive or argumentative when you say "thanks but no thanks".
I'm told that the way to meet people is through the chatrooms. At least some of the people online here are real. I've had some interactions with people (but no meetings) and its only been nine or ten days since I started seriously posting. I guess the adverts are over-subscribed and you get a lot of messages? Some of the profiles record tens of thousands of visitors. Even if only a few percent post a message to your ad its still a lot of people.
It can require a great deal of patience meeting swingers online.
We for example are available 7 days a week, we have no kids and overnight guest rooms, we have our own dungeon, 2 playrooms with beds, a massage room and a "cupids couch" room, we work from home so are there most of the time.
We are mostly an FFM trio with bifem 21, bifem 31 and str8 male 58, most days we have a third female with us who is bi and 30.
On average we are lucky if we get one meet a year off internet sites.
We do get a lot of people saying they want to meet but that is as far as it gets they rarely go as far as arranging to come see us.
Perhaps we ourselves are picky, well we know we are, we meet people we find sexually attractive, we dont just play for the sake of it.
We go on cam quite often in the chatrooms and are well documented as being genuine.
So I say again, patience is the watchword.
(we do go to clubs all the time so we do have a lot of fun and still enjoy the sites)
My experience is that some do reply with a no thanks, it's pretty rare but not as rare as someone replying "Yep, get round here now!" :-)
When I reply to an ad I do usually end with something like "I look forward to your reply, even if it's 'thanks, but no thanks'" but that doesn't seem to have any effect.
I simply assume that folks are inundated with replies and simply don't have the time to reply to those that don't interest them. I can only imagine what that must be like!
I think that maybe a number.. well most... if not all guys think that a woman will happily have sex with random strangers - it just does not work like that. In about 7 or 8 years, we have met just two guys off this site. In our case, Mrs Hot has to be in the mood to look, will look first at the picture, then read the response and then read the profile. At any stage she may choose to delete a message and move on to the next - for any reason, or for no reason at all - maybe just a feeling...
I would also say to the OP that if you react this way to rejection you may likely be giving off the wrong vibes in the messages that you send.
Whilst our opinion is very personal to us, we think that there are just so many single guys on this and other sites that unless you really stand out in some way - you probably have got more chance of pulling down your local pub than on this or any other similar site. Mrs Hot says that if she is going to play these games - why would she do it with just anyone when there are so many to choose from. She wants a guy to be attractive, hot, funny and to have a big cock and does not see the need to compromise. If the guy does not advertise those qualities in his replies and on his profile then it gets passed over. I suspect that she is not the only woman who does this.
I think if I were a single guy I would take my chances in a Club rather than spend hours of my life sending out responses on a website.
And as a consequence of contributing to this thread we get messages from complete numpties. To the last one... Take a look at what? Your tiny cock? And what does mmmmmm, nice mmmmmmm mean?
There are other aspects to this discussion though.
Not aimed at the OP of this thread, some people get upset when they get no replies but to be quite honest, they don't deserve one.
We get lots of friends invites, at least 2 a day, we ignore them, our profile says quite clearly that we only add people to our friends list after we have met them in person, so these people have already had their reply.
We also get winks, if we like what we see and read we will wink back, but if the person sending the wink has no pictures or useless pictures (close up bum, boobs, pussy, cock) no text information about themselves or what they are looking for we believe it would be wrong for us to wink them back, a wink means "We are interested in you" how can we say that if we do not know what the people look like or anything else about them, it would be misleading and possibly timewasting.
Then there are the "hi there" messages, the "how are you", the "how are you finding the site" messages, we ignore them, getting the information we need out of people who send such messages is, in our experience harder than pulling a wisdom tooth with plastic spoon.
The sad thing is though, that had the sender of a wink or a friend invite took a few moments to read our profile, send a quick message with pictures or had pictures on their profiles we may well have responded, we know we probably miss out on some great people but are not prepared to waste peoples time responding to everyone when we don't know which of them we would be interested in and to know that pictures and text at least give us some idea.
