reply back to adds

28 Oct 2010

hi plz could someone tell me why when there is a new post on lets meet up or club meets or dogging, on most of them it says we will reply back to all messages, but they never do, why is that????????
it don't cost anything to just send a message back saying thank you for your message or yer your the one we are looking for.
to me they should be named and shamed.
they should have a place on here sw where we can name and shame the time wasters.

28 Oct 2010

Quote by Jackoloves69
hi plz could someone tell me why when there is a new post on lets meet up or club meets or dogging, on most of them it says we will reply back to all messages, but they never do, why is that????????
it don't cost anything to just send a message back saying thank you for your message or yer your the one we are looking for.
to me they should be named and shamed.
they should have a place on here sw where we can name and shame the time wasters.

Ah, but what is your definition of a timewaster?
Someone who places an ad but doesn't answer? Someone who answers, says they're interested but doesn't commit to a time or date......someone who commits to a time and date and then cancels, someone who commits to a time and date, doesn't cancel and doesn't reply to any subsequent messages?
Honey, everyones definition of a timewaster is different. I'd be mightily pissed off if we were labelled as timewasters when we'd placed and ad, and not replied to anyone who didn't fit the criteria. Maybe you reply and they think you're not for them. It's easier to not reply than it is to say thanks but no thanks and get the "why, what's wrong with me" email.
Shit happens honey. There are more timewasters than genuine swingers on any site you go on. You just have to sift.
Hope you find what you're looking for.
*Her*

28 Oct 2010

I'm afraid that's life as a single guy on here. Don't take it personally cos you just wouldn't believe the no of mails the ladies and couples get. If they responded to them all they'd never get to play.

28 Oct 2010

I got called a time waster yesterday from a 23 year old cause I replied to his one liner with a polite "no thanks" due to him not bothering to read my profile, being outwith my age preferences and outwith my area. I'm the time waster though!!
You can't win. lol

1 Nov 2010

Everyone seemed to miss the main point which is why do people say they will reply to everyone and then do not. My answer probably so they get more responses from members who think they will get a reply and will do anything to get a mail. Devious and not very nice but forget it and move on a bit wiser.

1 Nov 2010

Quote by tweeky
Everyone seemed to miss the main point which is why do people say they will reply to everyone and then do not. My answer probably so they get more responses from members who think they will get a reply and will do anything to get a mail. Devious and not very nice but forget it and move on a bit wiser.

I'd disagree. I think most people put that, fully intending to reply to everyone. Not realising 90% of responses will be from people who clearly haven't read what's being asked for, or if they have read it, just ignored it and replied anyway hoping for a response. Or as we call it in the recruitment industry, throw enough shit, and eventually some will stick!
We've hung our swinging boots up now, mainly (although not exclusively because of) because of timewasters and people not reading ad's or preferences (and that goes for this and several other sites we're on) Swinging is just not what it used to be and sadly, we feel missed the boat.
*Her*

1 Nov 2010

Quote by couplefunuk
Everyone seemed to miss the main point which is why do people say they will reply to everyone and then do not. My answer probably so they get more responses from members who think they will get a reply and will do anything to get a mail. Devious and not very nice but forget it and move on a bit wiser.

I'd disagree. I think most people put that, fully intending to reply to everyone. Not realising 90% of responses will be from people who clearly haven't read what's being asked for, or if they have read it, just ignored it and replied anyway hoping for a response. Or as we call it in the recruitment industry, throw enough shit, and eventually some will stick!
We've hung our swinging boots up now, mainly (although not exclusively because of) because of timewasters and people not reading ad's or preferences (and that goes for this and several other sites we're on) Swinging is just not what it used to be and sadly, we feel missed the boat.
*Her*
Well I would guess then we are getting nit picky about wording. I was reading it exactly as the op put it with the ads saying "will reply to everyone" Everyone is everyone in my book. We once had an ad that said will reply to everyone that meets the criteria in our profile. Like you have said we didn't have to reply to many mails as most had not read it or were outside the age range or just sent a mail anyway acknowledging that they were outside the criteria but felt like a shot still :-?
We put extras on about two months ago mainly just for the interest as we have never used it. If you read our profile it may actually surprise you to know that its an incredibly small % of members that go through our profile that would actually meet what we have on it. No surprise then that we dont get that much mail sad

I have to say I dont think swinging has changed that much. My main reason for saying that is the Munchs. Take a look around and there are some different faces along with the familiar ones but they are all looking for the same things people were looking for five years ago. I dont see a great deal of difference in the people other than I dont know some of them as well. You will of course get more time wasters especially on this site. That is I think because this site has been taken over and marketed more by the new owners. So I believe you still have the same core base of genuine members but floating in a slightly bigger soup of time wasters lol

If that makes sense :-?

2 Nov 2010

Time wasting is subjective.
If we post an advert, wanting to meet couples with bi ladies for soft swinging fun (yes we are one of those annoying bunch who don't go the whole hog). We also stress on the ad and our profile that we are not interested in meeting single guys (mainly because the female just ain't into swinging with guys). Then when single guys do respond we tend not to reply back to them as we made it pretty clear already from the add that it was a none starter.
We also occasionally get responses from couples, whose profile says that soft swinging is shall we say of no interest to them, yet they reply to an ad that is for only soft swinging. We will respond but mainly just to say thanks but they must have mis-read what we want.
On one occasion after such an ad, we had an invite by a guy to arrange a male only gangbang for my wife, with me just watching. This could not be any further off our radar for preferances.
I think sometimes people just try their arm thinking that if only they meet us they will soon change their minds. Whilst confidence in ones ability to convert sexual preferances should not be rudly replied to, we do not feel obliged to respond to all of these, especially if they are 1 liners. If people make alot of effort, we will usually give a polite, please read the ad again.