Hi all !
I've had a few replys to my ad, and one of them, I'm not sure if its genuine. I'm not going to state the details on here in case the person is genuine. The strange thing about the reply is that it seems completely non personal, like a standard message or bot written.
Basically, it doesn't include my name, anything referring to my photos or what I wrote. I've no intention of replying if its fake, but if its a genuine person, then I feel bad not at least giving them a yes or no.
Anyone able to give me any advice !
Thanks !
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Sex God
it is possibly a cut and paste type reply that person has to all the ads they reply to, and then they don't bother to answer your ad as such.
Suggest sending them an email / whatever and ask them for more information and see what happens
Suggest sending them an email / whatever and ask them for more information and see what happens
Personally, if it's a cut and paste generic type message I wouldnt bother replying, genuine or not - a simple Thanks but No Thanks.
I'm kinda of the opinion that if a person replying to my ad isnt select enough to need to write me an individual and personalised message, then I'm really not gonna be interested anyway!
Even if the person replying uses a standard pre-written message, it really doesnt take much effort to edit a few lines and make it personal to me.....thought and effort is the key.
(and no I know I dont have an ad on here but I do elsewhere, and the one I had on here lasted 3 days before I gave up and removed it purely due to these cut-and-paste-really-cant-be-bothered messages!)
but hey, that's just me
I'm kinda of the opinion that if a person replying to my ad isnt select enough to need to write me an individual and personalised message, then I'm really not gonna be interested anyway!
Even if the person replying uses a standard pre-written message, it really doesnt take much effort to edit a few lines and make it personal to me.....thought and effort is the key.(and no I know I dont have an ad on here but I do elsewhere, and the one I had on here lasted 3 days before I gave up and removed it purely due to these cut-and-paste-really-cant-be-bothered messages!)
but hey, that's just me
Sex God
Quote by takingitslow
I'll do that. Although to be honest, I'm expecting an email with a list of charges to come back !
If that is the case you need to report it to the Mods who will deal with it in a suitable manner :twisted: :shock:
Sexpert
hiya Slow,
I posted a similar thread last week (one of the less technically challenged migth find it and post it for you??!!?!?)
I had a similar experience with a one liner reply and a phone number which felt strange. I created a post, and on the advice received, I sent a reply inviting them to talk to me on MSN, or drop me an email.
The reponse to this? It simply came back as "got pic" not even a question mark, so I couldn't be sure if it was a question or a statement!
My own feeling is that if it's not worth the effort of a half decent response, it's not worth following up on - especially as I went to loads of trouble with my email, and included a pic in the original!
Then again, I am fussy....just ask Darkfire!
I'm sure the others'll give you some sound advice, but hope this helps an ickle bit?
I posted a similar thread last week (one of the less technically challenged migth find it and post it for you??!!?!?)
I had a similar experience with a one liner reply and a phone number which felt strange. I created a post, and on the advice received, I sent a reply inviting them to talk to me on MSN, or drop me an email.
The reponse to this? It simply came back as "got pic" not even a question mark, so I couldn't be sure if it was a question or a statement!
My own feeling is that if it's not worth the effort of a half decent response, it's not worth following up on - especially as I went to loads of trouble with my email, and included a pic in the original!
Then again, I am fussy....just ask Darkfire!
I'm sure the others'll give you some sound advice, but hope this helps an ickle bit?
Sex God
I would not be too hasty to judge them. Some people are perfectly genuine but lack the basic skills to express themselves properly in writing, and might therefore come across in their reply as ...well, not very articulate. Ultimately it's up to your own intuition whether you take it further of course, but this is just something to be aware of.
Good luck,
Mike.
Good luck,
Mike.
Quote by JudyTV
(and no I know I dont have an ad on here but I do elsewhere, and the one I had on here lasted 3 days before I gave up and removed it purely due to these cut-and-paste-really-cant-be-bothered messages!)
but hey, that's just me
I would have thought it needed a great deal more than 3 days to establish a true result. Surely they were not all cut and paste replies were they? The photo ad system works well if used with patience and given enough time. 3 days ????? ... hardly a long term situation for true assessment. If you had said 3 months then you may have cause to knock a system that is successful for many hundreds of people and has been so for a lot longer than 3 days. It must work generally or people wouldn't use it and thousands do, me included and I have done so for over a year and a half and not just 3 days. If it didn't work then I would not still be using it. Yes, I do get cut and paste replies, but they are by no means the majority. I have met some nice people from the ads, some perhaps not so nice but that applies to life in general too.
Any system is open to abuse and will never be perfect. This one is as good as most. We just have to make it for for us and to a extent us for it. Knocking it after 3 days is in my opinion not allowing it to work at all really.
Just like real life we get out what we put in..........time, patience and a bit of long term effort helps in most situations.
Judy
Blimey Judy, steady on luv :scared:
As my original post states, I do have a photo-ad elsewhere (and have done for almost a year). Generic replies are common on whatever site people use and to be honest I dont have the time or the patience to run different ads and subsequently answer them, from every site I might use. That's all.
'Knocking the photo-ad system of this site' was certainly not the context of my post - what I'm knocking is generic cut and paste messages where people do not put in the effort to stand out from the crowd and thus ensure themselves an equally interesting and informative reply, and possible chat/meet/friendship. Like I said - that's just me , and its one of those things that I personally find really quite annoying.
As a single bi fem I get a considerable number of replies from other single bi fems, couples and of course single males - I cant possibly reply to every single one, requesting more info because they didnt give it in their initial message and give everyone the benefit of the doubt. I am aware that many are responding to the 'Single Bi-Fem' status rather than to 'me', which is somewhat disappointing. :cry:
I removed my ads after 3 days (plural because I'm looking for different things from different 'categories' and that's the system you have here) because right now I wouldnt be doing any justice to those few and far between but genuine replies by being pissed off at having to delete 10 bog-standard ones just to get to them!
By not having an ad here I'm obviously missing out on meeting some really good people. And those who may be interested in me and what I'm looking for have no way of finding out without PM'ing me to ask. But after 3 days I realised that works much better for me right now, and thus it was never meant to be a long-term assessment of the photo-ad system in general - here or elsewhere.
Warming the Bed
we had a simular thing yesterday, ill pm it to you, to see how simular it is
Sex God
Quote by takingitslow
The strange thing about the reply is that it seems completely non personal, like a standard message or bot written.
On lots of website registrations, including this one if I remember correctly, you have to type a word given to you at random to prove you are not a bot.
I do something similar with my email: If I'm asking people to send me attachments, I ask them to put a specific word in the subject header so I know it really is from them.
You could do the same sort of thing with your ad: Just put a line at the end of your ad saying something like "If you write to me, please include the word "(insert unlikely word here)".
Any emails you receive that don't include that word can be safely dismissed as either a bot, a C&P, or someone who hasn't bothered to read your ad properly.
HTH
Ice
