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dek has 3 children to his x wife all over 18 now never had a problem with them sometimes have had probs with my son though (who had his mummy pretty much to himself until dek came along and was angry at dek for nicking his mummy he was 3) tis swings and roundabouts though
My step dad took 3 of us on when i was 7 i was the only one of the kids that "accepted" him my brother and sister still cause problems for him after more than 16 years to the extent of refusing to include thier baby our half brother in a family portrait because he wasnt true blood so to speak which i found totally outragous :shock:
My step dad took 3 of us on when i was 7 i was the only one of the kids that "accepted" him my brother and sister still cause problems for him after more than 16 years to the extent of refusing to include thier baby our half brother in a family portrait because he wasnt true blood so to speak which i found totally outragous :shock:
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dek has 3 children to his x wife all over 18 now never had a problem with them sometimes have had probs with my son though (who had his mummy pretty much to himself until dek came along and was angry at dek for nicking his mummy he was 3) tis swings and roundabouts though
My step dad took 3 of us on when i was 7 i was the only one of the kids that "accepted" him my brother and sister still cause problems for him after more than 16 years to the extent of refusing to include thier baby our half brother in a family portrait because he wasnt true blood so to speak which i found totally outragous :shock:
Im totally speechless at that comment.
I have a stepdad who has been in my life since i was about 6 and I have always got on fine with him. We have never lived together tho and im not sure if that makes a difference. He has always treated my sister and I as one of his own. His children on the other hand were very unaccepting of my mum wich I used to get very upset about as I couldn`t understand why they didn`t like her, they thought my mum had split their parents up which wasn`t the case, as they have gotten older and now understand "grown up relationships" they all get along great with my mum.
My dad is also in another relationship and has been for 18 years with a lady who has got 5 children, I always hated the fact that my dad spent time with her and her children when I felt he should have been spending time with my sister and I. I get on ok with her but not as well as I do my stepdad, even at 25 I feel like she stole my dad from us
. I think the difference is that we lived with our dad. 
Sex God
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Thanks for these lovely replies - very helpful.
Plim
Er, why are they helpful?
Orgasminator
my parents got divorced when i was 14 i finally met my dads gf when i was 18 to be told they were marrying. At the time i was angry my dad broke all contact but that was more to do with him than anything else.
When he finally made contact again 3 yrs ago she would not and will not have anything ro do with me or my brother, even though my dad has spent more time with her children than his own.
When he finally made contact again 3 yrs ago she would not and will not have anything ro do with me or my brother, even though my dad has spent more time with her children than his own.
Sex God
Quote by Plimboy
Thanks for these lovely replies - very helpful.
Plim
Er, why are they helpful?
To compare to my own experiences
Plim
Maybe you would share yours then, as others have shared theirs. Usually when someone starts a thread asking for opinions/experiences, they give their own first, to start the ball rolling.
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Thanks for these lovely replies - very helpful.
Plim
Er, why are they helpful?
To compare to my own experiences
Plim
Maybe you would share yours then, as others have shared theirs. Usually when someone starts a thread asking for opinions/experiences, they give their own first, to start the ball rolling.
Yes, fair point Freckledbird about the "rolling the ball". On this occassion I didn't want to speak out as being fairly new I wasn't sure what the reaction would have been to the angle that I wished to come from:-
My own experience stems from childhood, exact details of which I couldn't go on record with, except to say that I was very young and circa 1950 there was a very different attitude towards family problems in these circumstances and children had almost no rights at all. The memories are with me every day and practical problems were still coming to the fore as recently as 10 years ago!
Thank you all again for you contributions.
Plim
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dek has 3 children to his x wife all over 18 now never had a problem with them sometimes have had probs with my son though (who had his mummy pretty much to himself until dek came along and was angry at dek for nicking his mummy he was 3) tis swings and roundabouts though
My step dad took 3 of us on when i was 7 i was the only one of the kids that "accepted" him my brother and sister still cause problems for him after more than 16 years to the extent of refusing to include thier baby our half brother in a family portrait because he wasnt true blood so to speak which i found totally outragous :shock:
Im totally speechless at that comment.
I have a stepdad who has been in my life since i was about 6 and I have always got on fine with him. We have never lived together tho and im not sure if that makes a difference. He has always treated my sister and I as one of his own. His children on the other hand were very unaccepting of my mum wich I used to get very upset about as I couldn`t understand why they didn`t like her, they thought my mum had split their parents up which wasn`t the case, as they have gotten older and now understand "grown up relationships" they all get along great with my mum.
My dad is also in another relationship and has been for 18 years with a lady who has got 5 children, I always hated the fact that my dad spent time with her and her children when I felt he should have been spending time with my sister and I. I get on ok with her but not as well as I do my stepdad, even at 25 I feel like she stole my dad from us
. I think the difference is that we lived with our dad.yup i agree i am disgusted to so much so that it has now become a rift between me and my brother
imo as far as im concerned my step dad has been there for me through thick and thin and was around at all the important bits in all the meanings of the word dad to me he is itwe have fallen out many times but he is still my dad regardless of any biological relation
when my son was born he was over the moon that i wanted my son to call him granda for him it showed true togetherness and a little thanks for all the years he had been there he also knows that if i ever marry he will be the one walking me down the aisle
My sons real grandfather sent birthday cards etc in the early years of sons life signed granda - how can he be a real granda to someone he has never even seen or spoke to :doh: i asked him if he wanted to send cards please put his real name as my son called my step dad granda and i didnt want confusion brought into equation so the cards stopped am i bothered about a mans feeling that i have spoke to maybe 5 times in more than 15 years am i hell :thumbup:
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dek has 3 children to his x wife all over 18 now never had a problem with them sometimes have had probs with my son though (who had his mummy pretty much to himself until dek came along and was angry at dek for nicking his mummy he was 3) tis swings and roundabouts though
My step dad took 3 of us on when i was 7 i was the only one of the kids that "accepted" him my brother and sister still cause problems for him after more than 16 years to the extent of refusing to include thier baby our half brother in a family portrait because he wasnt true blood so to speak which i found totally outragous :shock:
The "true blood" situation caused a problem with my Ex's late mother as one of her other grandchildren wasn't actually HER grandchild.
I don't think there is a single answer to this scenario, but in that case it was the attitude of her daughter-in-law concerned in trying to "force" the situation onto the M-in-Law (and treating her almost as a child herself) and trying to behave as if the problem didn't exist. I felt that was unreasonable, there would have been less of a problem if the "error" had been admitted - there just has to be an element of give and take in each individual circumstances.
Plim
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dek has 3 children to his x wife all over 18 now never had a problem with them sometimes have had probs with my son though (who had his mummy pretty much to himself until dek came along and was angry at dek for nicking his mummy he was 3) tis swings and roundabouts though
My step dad took 3 of us on when i was 7 i was the only one of the kids that "accepted" him my brother and sister still cause problems for him after more than 16 years to the extent of refusing to include thier baby our half brother in a family portrait because he wasnt true blood so to speak which i found totally outragous :shock:
The "true blood" situation caused a problem with my Ex's late mother as one of her other grandchildren wasn't actually HER grandchild.
I don't think there is a single answer to this scenario, but in that case it was the attitude of her daughter-in-law concerned in trying to "force" the situation onto the M-in-Law (and treating her almost as a child herself) and trying to behave as if the problem didn't exist. I felt that was unreasonable, there would have been less of a problem if the "error" had been admitted - there just has to be an element of give and take in each individual circumstances.
Plim
agreed the is no single asnwer personally i couldnt treat 1 kid any different from another regardless of parentage people do it though and proberly always will my step dads parents never treat us any different from her "true grandkids" there are times they will have wanted to but twas not politically correct
