Secrecy and Swinging Online

21 Oct 2006

Well here the tale begins.....
We have recently had correspondence from "somebody" on our msn who claims to "know who we are and what we get up to" and the like rolleyes

!!
Anyway after a process of elimination we have reason to believe it is probably either a past or present SH user as nobody else has a clue what a dirty and depraved pair of sluts we are lol

We realise our username is slightly obvious in its origin (wouldn't take an FBI code breaker to work out our names wink

) but this has realy freaked my lady out (her name wont be included, bet ul never guess :lol: ) and has got us wondering how easy it must be to find out information about people?
Not sure if they have just added 2 and 2 together about our location and username and age on our profile or wether its just some knob head thinking its a real laugh :shock:
Has anyone else had similar problems and is it possible to change our username mods?
As ever help, or your comments would be great so at least we know we share the boat instead of bein lonely sailors!!
Poss ibly is someone we have been contacted by on SH who seemed ok and had a chat to online during our dogging searches whos id etc we have long since deleted

21 Oct 2006

People who do things like this really make me sick. mad

I imagine that somebody who is playing these types of games will thrive on your worry and upset. I have been where you are and I know how unpleasant it is.
I will ad some thoughtful advice but want to relax a little first, so I don't go off the deep end. lol

21 Oct 2006

If it's someone from SH then they're not likely to blab to the whole world or they'd have to explain how come THEY are members too so I wouldn't worry too much about it. If it's someone you deleted a while back then it sounds like sour grapes.
I'd ignore them hun, they may just be guessing and to be honest, unless they personally know your family, close friends, workmates or neighbours who's going to give a fuck what you get up to anyway?
:thumbup:

21 Oct 2006

Best just not to let it worry you....this sort of thing has come up on here before....he/she more than likely has absolutely nothing on you....but is just trying to put the frighteners on you....

21 Oct 2006

Not a nice experience to have to go through, really thinking of you both, and I have just sent you a pm, which I hope will be of some help wink

21 Oct 2006

hey u 2 just ignore them ,we have had that ,who gives a fook ,if some one saying that tell the m they are weird and very sad trying to scare some one

21 Oct 2006

We had the lovely experience of having a link to one of my Dogging posts posted on a vanilla site we use. Unfortunately, ANYONE can read the Forums, you don't have to be a member to do so, so of course there is always the potential for discovery if, as you say, your user name isn't that hard to figure out.
We were actually 'discovered' because someone on the vanilla site googled our names just out of curiosity to see what google would come up with.
It really freaked me out at the time, as you can imagine, and I did look at changing my user-name, but wasn't prepared to have to pay to do so, to be honest. It wasn't like I wanted a new account, just a change of name to an existing account.
We finally confronted the person starting the trouble on the vanilla site, and found out that in fact a lot of our friends on there had known about it for quite a while, and it wasn't an issue. They understood that we kept our private life off the vanilla site and out of conversations and meetings and have respected our privacy.

21 Oct 2006

Thanks for the info and advice guys, we were just reading and saying "i know we dont actually swing that regularly but isnt it nice that there are some great people on here who always have a good bit of advice and take the time to help you out"!! Its why we use the site so regularly and keep posting!
Cheers guys and thanks very much NWC, your the cats cahooners!! wink