Serious moment here, how many will read this i wonder ?

2 Apr 2007

Hi folks, Bob here, if you have got this far please read it all smile

Well the forums get used for all sorts of stuff, things that are serious, lighthearted, humourous or downright hilliarous, (thanks Mike your comments always make me laugh), often things get us wound up, inspired or even outraged and we get to question whats right or wrong, we all have and are entitled to our own views and opinions and its great to spark each off. You all have your own seperate things that get you going and make you question who you are and whats important and thats brill.
BUT..........how often do we get to consider our own mortallity, there thats a biggie isnt it and now you wonder where is this leading ???
Later on today ive got a hospital appointment and i am bricking it, ive had the dreaded middle aged guy problem, prostate playing up. Today i have to go for 12 needle biopsys out of my prostate cos they are checking me out for prostate cancer. There thats it, its out in the open and i have the wobbles big style as i type this.
Guys if you are having problems peeing, dont mess about go and see your doc. Those that know me well, know i live my life positively and off i go today with the same attitude, but i still feel like crap.
Hope to catch you all soon,
Bob xxxxxx

2 Apr 2007

Its the same with any abnormal lumps as well :thumbup:

2 Apr 2007

I don't question my own mortality as I'm a great believer in what will be will be. One thing is for sure, we will all go at some point... that's my feelings anyway.
However, I've never been seriously ill so maybe my views would change if ever I was, but in the meantime... Bob.. I hope all goes ok for you :therethere:

2 Apr 2007

Quote by jaymar
Bob.. I hope all goes ok for you

Damn I forgot to say that redface

All the best to ya Bob..

2 Apr 2007

good post! and yes any-sort of medical scare really makes us al qhention our own mortality (and those around us). I was the same when our son was born at 26 weeks (should have been 40) - those were some terrifying times and we very nearly lost him!
On another note my mother is a radiology nurse and prostate biopsys are part of her remit (all with the radiologist in controll lol), theyre not as bad as they sound, pm me if you need anymore info - and big (((hugs))) fingers crossed its just a scare!
sal xx

2 Apr 2007

Hi, its always good advice to get things checked out straight away if you think somethings wrong. My best wishes go to you and I hope everything will be ok for you.
As for questioning mortality, I am doing this at the moment. I potentially have a neurological problem and am waiting for an MRI scan at the moment.
The thing is, the potential problem that I may have, may have been undetected for some time because for one I didnt get it checked out straight away and for two when I first did, I didnt go back for the results. Saying to myself, if theres anything bad they will let me know, which they didnt :shock: hence the reason im now going for more tests. So now at the moment, im wondering, am i going to die, have i done enough with my life, what will happen to my family, how will they cope? im probably over reacting but have so much to lose sad

Im sorry if im babbling on but in conclusion, what im trying to say is. Always get checked out if you notice something different about your body and always go back for your results.
Louise xx

2 Apr 2007

Good luck today Bob, I hope all turns out well.
Me? I regularly meditate on death, it's really not as bad as it sounds. In Buddhism the view is illness/death will be less traumatic if you accept that one day it will happen and are prepared.

2 Apr 2007

Good luck to you Bob.
Remember, even if it is a bad result- it doesn't mean that it's a death sentence. There are a few of us here who are proof that Cancer is beatable.
However, I certainly saw my problems as a kick up the ass & am now much more likely grasp opportunities that come my way.
kiss

2 Apr 2007

Quote by winchwench
Good luck to you Bob.
Remember, even if it is a bad result- it doesn't mean that it's a death sentence. There are a few of us here who are proof that Cancer is beatable.

I agree, my mother has had cancer 3 times and has come through so much.

2 Apr 2007

Try to relax as it will be an easier experience if you can do that. I know you're probably saying back .. you must be kidding.
The staff in the hospital will be great. Just let them know you are nervous and they will understand and help.
Not surprising you are anxious but it has a huge success rate as a very treatable illness.
Best of luck Bob we will all be thinking of you.
DD

2 Apr 2007

Cancer at 21 years old, made me face some hard facts.
At the time, it was terrifying and i was positive that i would be that unlucky one and would die !!!
Plenty of scares between and was also told that it would be a miracle if i ever had kids - I'm now 35 and have 3 kids biggrin

In some strange way, i do believe that it made me a better person, i am more open, loving, forgiving and appreciative of what others think as normal - my life and everyone elses is a blessing to me (now, dont get the wrong idea - i am a bytch!! lol

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My heart really goes out to you and your family - i think the biggest strain is the tests and the waiting - the mind just runs riot. In the meantime, you just have to try and keep busy and push it out of your mind until the facts are known, (easier said than done, i know) but if you can do it for just 30% of the time, its somethingthing hun.
I will say a prayer for you (maybe you dont believe in that, but tough :lol: ) We wish you well and strength and send you love wink

In edit: I believe a lot will read but not answer, in my opinion, its because it's scarey and they don't know what to say, don't take that as them ignoring you. :wink:

2 Apr 2007

Bob, you've made me feel incredibly stupid after reading that. There's me wittering on about a freaking dentist appointment and I'm forgetting about people like yourself who have much bigger worries.
I nurse cancer patients on a daily basis and although we all have phobias/things that give us the eebie jeebies, I feel very humbled knowing you're going through this.
Fingers crossed for you Bob and I hope the news is good :therethere:

2 Apr 2007

hope it go well for you xxx

2 Apr 2007

Hi folks,
Had my biopsy done and it wasnt too bad apart from having my bladder pressured from the inside lol.
Firstly thank you for your kind words and thoughts and secondly it doesnt matter that more people will read than reply, my reason for this post was to raise awareness to a problem that most guys ignore.
I am aware of the power of positive thinking and do know that thoughts and prayers work when you make yourself open to them.
Just have to wait for the results now, have fun, take care, Bob xxxxxxxxx

2 Apr 2007

Quote by Sassy-Seren
Bob, you've made me feel incredibly stupid after reading that. There's me wittering on about a freaking dentist appointment and I'm forgetting about people like yourself who have much bigger worries.
I nurse cancer patients on a daily basis and although we all have phobias/things that give us the eebie jeebies, I feel very humbled knowing you're going through this.
Fingers crossed for you Bob and I hope the news is good :therethere:

Oi !! Nobodys problems or worries are stupid. If they are important to you then they are just that ... important.
Bob, my thoughts are with you. Fingers and toes crossed. (not my legs though)