Hi All
been back and for to your great site for a while now and would like a little advice from your combined wealth of experience,
I am happily married to a very sensual lady who has multiple sclerosis and fybriomyalgia which means that basically she suffers with major limb and joint pain now to the extent where i can no longer actually touch her without extreme pain for her, and it leaves her feeling that she is not a wife to me, however we have plodded on and my love for my wife is such that ifwe could never have a physical relationship again I will still be there for her, i frequently buy toys for her as self pleasure does not carry the burden of pressure from the weight of another person and I am keen that she continues to feel like a woman, for her part she encourages me to seek out some of my fantasies via sites like yours, (which I have placed ads which to be frank were half hearted and basically crap as anything I wish for I havepreviously got from my wife or if it involved others she was there along side me), my question is are there any others out there with similiar dilemas and what methods have you used for to achieve pleasure together??? if there are any fellow suffereres out there are there any tips or things you have found that made sex pleasurable again please would you share them because if there is anything I can do to make my wife feel feminine and sexy again I will at any cost, we have tried many positions all of which I know cause severe pain to her and I frequently purchase sexy gifts underwear etc just to make her feel like a real woman. thanks for reading and all sugestions will be welcomed.
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sex and disablement
Oooh, *rubs hands with glee* you so will wish you never asked!!
I have MS.
I have serious muscular pain and mobility problems.
One of the best things about good sex is the endorphines. Even though my brain is packed with empty space (lesions) these days, bizarrely the endorphines still get through!
Get her smoking* some good weed and that will relax the muscles and slow the spasms. Unfortunately, the smoke tends to dehydrate one, so you may need lube. Durex "play" is good, cheap and available in supermarkets.
I'll PM you my URL, too, as I can't put it here, on the forum.
*I know we're not to discuss drugs, but this is medicinal and very relavent to sex.
I have MS.
I have serious muscular pain and mobility problems.
One of the best things about good sex is the endorphines. Even though my brain is packed with empty space (lesions) these days, bizarrely the endorphines still get through!
Get her smoking* some good weed and that will relax the muscles and slow the spasms. Unfortunately, the smoke tends to dehydrate one, so you may need lube. Durex "play" is good, cheap and available in supermarkets.
I'll PM you my URL, too, as I can't put it here, on the forum.
*I know we're not to discuss drugs, but this is medicinal and very relavent to sex.
Warming the Bed
Quote by hamish
we have tried swings and various garden activitie but the lack of strength in her arms can make this sometimes more dangerous than pleasurable
have you tried a sex swing? we'v only looked at them,and i'm sure other people will correct me if i'm wrong,but they appear to support most of the body.
hope it all works out for you both.
Orgasminator
We don't have quite the same issues that you are experiencing, but Mrs. DP does have a movement disorder that's set off by touch and posture, amongst other things. She shakes quite violently, which is very unpleasant for her and sometimes quite dangerous for me (I've been head butted a few times).
We tried a set of Loving Angles as a way to avoid putting unneccessary strain on Mrs. DP. The theory looked pretty sound, and there were certainly plenty of possible arangements to try, but they were a bit small and not firm enough to cope with <strike>the combined weight of both of us</strike> my lardy arse.
The only other advice I could give is to experiment and find ways to pleasure each other that work given the constraints you're working under. Talk to each other, take things gently, and just enjoy each other.
We tried a set of Loving Angles as a way to avoid putting unneccessary strain on Mrs. DP. The theory looked pretty sound, and there were certainly plenty of possible arangements to try, but they were a bit small and not firm enough to cope with <strike>the combined weight of both of us</strike> my lardy arse.
The only other advice I could give is to experiment and find ways to pleasure each other that work given the constraints you're working under. Talk to each other, take things gently, and just enjoy each other.
Sex God
Hi Hamish,
Lovely post, and yes Vix has a lot of knowledge and experience with this, so worth listening to what she says.
H has had MS for 16 years, and at times sex can be difficult (read painful). We have found that by adapting certain positions that allow her to be fully supported and without me having to bear down on her then things are ok. It doesn't happen all the time cos at other times she shows amazing agility
M
Lovely post, and yes Vix has a lot of knowledge and experience with this, so worth listening to what she says.
H has had MS for 16 years, and at times sex can be difficult (read painful). We have found that by adapting certain positions that allow her to be fully supported and without me having to bear down on her then things are ok. It doesn't happen all the time cos at other times she shows amazing agility
M
This really isn't as flippant as it may sound, but plan a night in advance, and make sure she is well rested prior to it, it makes a huge difference.
A hot bath, painkillers and lots of pillows. We recently discovered bolster pillows can be really useful supports
(they were someone else's)
Take it very slowly and let her set the pace - she might surprise herself and you :twisted:
Good luck with it and feel free to pm.
Jas
XXX
A hot bath, painkillers and lots of pillows. We recently discovered bolster pillows can be really useful supports
(they were someone else's)Take it very slowly and let her set the pace - she might surprise herself and you :twisted:
Good luck with it and feel free to pm.
Jas
XXX
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