Sex for the sake of it?

9 Feb 2009

If your fortunate enough to have a regular partner, do you find that on some occasions when you don't feel like a session, you do anyway just because your happy to please your partner. If you know they're hot to trot and up for a session do you put out? I don't mean feeling it as a duty thing here, that'd be wrong, though I can see a place for that too. What I mean is the fact that its just a case of they are hot and you are not and your happy to just please them for that reason.
I know at times we both do this. I'm just wondering if others do. Being nosy like y'know.

9 Feb 2009

Nope... if I'm not in the mood I wouldn't have sex just to please someone else, nor would I expect someone to do that with me.
It's a fairly pointless exercise. I'd rather have a wank than have someone fuck me just for the sake of it. :mrgreen:

9 Feb 2009

Ditto

9 Feb 2009

i have to admit i have put out when not really in the mood but not to please my hubby just purely because i know that i might not b particularly in that type of mood at that particular moment in time but within seconds of foreplay i will b well and truelly in the mood and very pleased that i didn't turn down the advances he made wink

9 Feb 2009

I agree with Bouncy... I know that if I'm not particularly in the mood, a couple of well-placed kisses and strokes will put me there.

9 Feb 2009

Hands up

we used to do that, it was more me really. I used to have this 'thing' where if we hadn't made love at least twice in a week there was something wrong. rolleyes

so yes, sometimes we were knackered not in the mood and I would push for it.
Now, we're back to doing it when we're really wanting to and in my opinion that's so much more worth waiting for even if some weeks it is just the once! wink

9 Feb 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
Nope... if I'm not in the mood I wouldn't have sex just to please someone else, nor would I expect someone to do that with me.

It's a fairly pointless exercise. I'd rather have a wank than have someone fuck me just for the sake of it. :mrgreen:

Thats not what i'm getting at to be honest DG. For just the "sake" of it I would be in agreement with you, whats the point. More being the case that its a nice thing to do for your parner. Something you can give to them without compromising yourself in any bad way just the fact that you love them anmd can give them some pleasure whilst taking pleasure yourself in knowing that. Whats so wrong with that? I'm not meaning anything purely perfunctory.

9 Feb 2009

But how often do you want sex and its wham bam thank you ma'am? its normally stroke kiss, fondle, lick and finally fuck and all that build up would make the other person ready for sex. I know we have gone to bed and not been in a sexy mood and then for either myself or atre to start to kiss etc soon brings on the desire smile

9 Feb 2009

Quote by Lost
Nope... if I'm not in the mood I wouldn't have sex just to please someone else, nor would I expect someone to do that with me.

It's a fairly pointless exercise. I'd rather have a wank than have someone fuck me just for the sake of it. :mrgreen:

Thats not what i'm getting at to be honest DG. For just the "sake" of it I would be in agreement with you, whats the point. More being the case that its a nice thing to do for your parner. Something you can give to them without compromising yourself in any bad way just the fact that you love them anmd can give them some pleasure whilst taking pleasure yourself in knowing that. Whats so wrong with that? I'm not meaning anything purely perfunctory.
Erm... that's what your title says... "sex for the sake of it" so that's what I responded to! lol

I didn't say there was anything wrong with it Lost, many people will have different opinions on it, I just said that for me it's a fairly pointless exercise.
It's perhaps a little different for me because I'm single. I live alone but when I have been in a relationship, I've never felt the need to have sex with my partner when I'm not in the mood just to please them. Mainly because it's rare that I wouldn't be up for sex in the first place but there are so many nice things I could do for a partner that shagging him just cause he's in the mood when I'm not wouldn't be one of them. It's almost like a pity shag or doing them a favour, or having sex just for an easy life... none of which are really a big turn on for me.
If I had a partner then I'd hope they'd know the right buttons to push to get me in the mood so there was no question of me fucking them just because they wanted to and vice versa!! wink

9 Feb 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
Erm... that's what your title says... "sex for the sake of it" so that's what I responded to!

Errrmmmm :doh: Lost ya big freakin doughnut - Sorry DG my most profound apologies redface

Lost walks off mumblimg to himself Stupididiotofamanfornotspottingrheobviousmistakeandmakingacompletefoolofhimselfinthetheprocess rolleyes

9 Feb 2009

Quote by Lost

Erm... that's what your title says... "sex for the sake of it" so that's what I responded to!

Errrmmmm :doh: Lost ya big freakin doughnut - Sorry DG my most profound apologies redface

Lost walks off mumblimg to himself Stupididiotofamanfornotspottingrheobviousmistakeandmakingacompletefoolofhimselfinthetheprocess rolleyes

:therethere:

9 Feb 2009

Foreplay is all, I just go with the flow and never pretend to be more up for it than I actually am.

10 Feb 2009

Quote by jaymar
Hands up we used to do that, it was more me really. I used to have this 'thing' where if we hadn't made love at least twice in a day there was something wrong. so yes, sometimes we were knackered not in the mood and I would push for it.
Now, we're back to doing it when we're really wanting to and in my opinion that's so much more worth waiting for even if some weeks it is just the once!

What is wrong?
we are in the wrong place
wrong mood
can not keep our eyes open
desperate to get to the train.
Life just gets in the way of fun, but fun is worth waiting for!

10 Feb 2009

...with the right person.