Should I Fulfil My Fantasy?

29 Dec 2010

As you can see from my profile I describe myself as bi-curious. I have been married and have two children, but ever since I was a teenager I have had gay fantasies and enjoy watching gay porn. I have never had sex with another man but my fantasy is to fulfil that desire. I have contacted someone on this site and we have agreed to meet. However, whenever I have jerked off to this fantasy, I get a feeling of guilt/reluctance afterwards, wondering whether this is a good thing. Should I go ahead with the meet or just keep it as a fantasy?

29 Dec 2010

go for it!

29 Dec 2010

Quote by ukdave1962
As you can see from my profile I describe myself as bi-curious. I have been married and have two children, but ever since I was a teenager I have had gay fantasies and enjoy watching gay porn. I have never had sex with another man but my fantasy is to fulfil that desire. I have contacted someone on this site and we have agreed to meet. However, whenever I have jerked off to this fantasy, I get a feeling of guilt/reluctance afterwards, wondering whether this is a good thing. Should I go ahead with the meet or just keep it as a fantasy?

It's not just a fantasy now though is it, if you've arranged a meet? Make up your mind and at least let the other person know what you're doing. confused

29 Dec 2010

Quote by herge
go for it!

Hmmmmmm. Wouldn't care to expand further on that particular piece of advice, would you? confused

Dave, leaving aside the bigger question as to whether fantasies in general should be left as fantasies for the minute, I'd say if you have doubts that are preying on your mind then something is trying to tell you that a meet with a random stranger, or this particular meet with this particular random stranger is perhaps not necessarily the best way to go as far as exploring these curious tendencies of yours goes. ;)
In my experience going with the first opportunity that presents itself away from the prying eyes of friends and acquaintances is not always a good idea. Going with opportunities that more naturally present themselves over time where just going with the flow allows those tendencies to be explored in a safe environment with noone batting an eyelid whichever way they go is probably the way forward. Why put yourself, and your meet partner under pressure to explore something if you're not all that sure how you'll both feel about it afterwards? :?
N x x x ;)

30 Dec 2010

Quote by neilinleeds
go for it!

Hmmmmmm. Wouldn't care to expand further on that particular piece of advice, would you? confused

Dave, leaving aside the bigger question as to whether fantasies in general should be left as fantasies for the minute, I'd say if you have doubts that are preying on your mind then something is trying to tell you that a meet with a random stranger, or this particular meet with this particular random stranger is perhaps not necessarily the best way to go as far as exploring these curious tendencies of yours goes. ;)
In my experience going with the first opportunity that presents itself away from the prying eyes of friends and acquaintances is not always a good idea. Going with opportunities that more naturally present themselves over time where just going with the flow allows those tendencies to be explored in a safe environment with noone batting an eyelid whichever way they go is probably the way forward. Why put yourself, and your meet partner under pressure to explore something if you're not all that sure how you'll both feel about it afterwards? :?
N x x x ;)
Thank you for you reply - I had always assumed that people on this site would automatically respond with the "go for it" that another poster gave.
The position is complicated further by the fact that the person I have agrred to meet is not a "random stranger". OK, we have never met face-to-face but we have seen each other on webcam and have watched each other jerk off. Secondly, being in my late forties, being a bit of a chubby and having led an entirely straight life thus far, I am convinced that there weill not be any "opportunities that more naturally present themselves over time". This site is, I think, my nest bet for meeting people.

30 Dec 2010

Does it matter to you to a lesser or greater degree who you maybe want to try living out your fantasy with? One answer could be to visit a club on a bi might to be in the company of others having same sex sex and watch what goes on and see how you feel about things. At least this way you might get the opportunity arise and take advantage of it or if you feel your not quite up to it then at least your finding out and not putting others out of their way in arranging 1 to 1's.

30 Dec 2010

Quote by ukdave1962
As you can see from my profile I describe myself as bi-curious. I have been married and have two children, but ever since I was a teenager I have had gay fantasies and enjoy watching gay porn. I have never had sex with another man but my fantasy is to fulfil that desire. I have contacted someone on this site and we have agreed to meet. However, whenever I have jerked off to this fantasy, I get a feeling of guilt/reluctance afterwards, wondering whether this is a good thing. Should I go ahead with the meet or just keep it as a fantasy?

I feel that at the end of the day it is some thing only you can dis-side, I say proceed with caution, meet several times before you make your final decision.
The wife and I are here because of a fantasy, for us the reality was even better that the fantasy, but that is not always the case
Good luck wink