For the record I am Boofys wife. We have been married for over sixteen years, and yes we have done some swinging, and had a good time, but now comes a big problem, which I would like some advice on.
Due to my hubbies health problems, he cant rise to the occasion any more, and he has told me to basicaly carry on without him. I am only 45 ish so I am not ready to become a Nun yet, I still have feelings and urges, but should I stop haveing sex because hubbie cant any more, or should I continue to play alone, and make myself feel very guilty because I am having nooky and he isnt!
Has any other ladies had this problem, and how have they delt with it, any advice would be appreciated.
Mrs Boofy
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if he said its ok hun i cant see a problem ( if you want to that is) 
Would he be happy to watch or would rather not know?
I'm just thinking that may be a way for him to have some (albeit limited) particiapation, you will feel better having him there and if either of you are unhappy about the situation, you can speak up before it's too late.
Just a thought. I may come up with another one next week.
I'm just thinking that may be a way for him to have some (albeit limited) particiapation, you will feel better having him there and if either of you are unhappy about the situation, you can speak up before it's too late.
Just a thought. I may come up with another one next week.
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or should I continue to play alone, and make myself feel very guilty because I am having nooky and he isnt!
I'm not quite a lady, but if that ^ ^ ^ is to be true, then I'd say not.
As you've been married for 16 years (??) I would guess that you know each other pretty well.
If you can both truly agree/accept, then - why not :thumbup:
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Would he be happy to watch or would rather not know?
I'm just thinking that may be a way for him to have some (albeit limited) particiapation, you will feel better having him there and if either of you are unhappy about the situation, you can speak up before it's too late.
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I was going to say that :thumbup:
You are in the enviable position of having your hubby's permission and the fact that you're considering his feelings ( as well as your own ) shows how much you must love him. You need to talk about this before doing anything but whatever you decide to do, good luck
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For the record I am Boofys wife. We have been married for over sixteen years, and yes we have done some swinging, and had a good time, but now comes a big problem, which I would like some advice on.
Due to my hubbies health problems, he cant rise to the occasion any more, and he has told me to basicaly carry on without him. I am only 45 ish so I am not ready to become a Nun yet, I still have feelings and urges, but should I stop haveing sex because hubbie cant any more, or should I continue to play alone, and make myself feel very guilty because I am having nooky and he isnt!
Has any other ladies had this problem, and how have they delt with it, any advice would be appreciated.
Mrs Boofy
your profile says your 53....it might be a good idea to update that!
It's not very often a women gets hubby's permission, and I'm sorry for you that this has happened to your hubby. It hasn't happened to me but god willing it never will. I really don't know how I'd be in your position boofy hun.
Your feelings of guilt are natural I am sure, but even ifyour hub has given you his permission he may just be doing it for your sake. You need to seriously talk this one through a bit more I think as you are feeling guilty already without doing anything yet. Maybe he could come with you just to make you feel he is still part and join in as a oral participant maybe? I'm sure you could all still enjoy yourselves without the penetration part.
It's difficult I really don't know you or your hubby so feel I can't comment any more but I'm sure you'll get gr8 advice here
Your feelings of guilt are natural I am sure, but even ifyour hub has given you his permission he may just be doing it for your sake. You need to seriously talk this one through a bit more I think as you are feeling guilty already without doing anything yet. Maybe he could come with you just to make you feel he is still part and join in as a oral participant maybe? I'm sure you could all still enjoy yourselves without the penetration part.
It's difficult I really don't know you or your hubby so feel I can't comment any more but I'm sure you'll get gr8 advice here
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For the record I am Boofys wife. We have been married for over sixteen years, and yes we have done some swinging, and had a good time, but now comes a big problem, which I would like some advice on.
Due to my hubbies health problems, he cant rise to the occasion any more, and he has told me to basicaly carry on without him. I am only 45 ish so I am not ready to become a Nun yet, I still have feelings and urges, but should I stop haveing sex because hubbie cant any more, or should I continue to play alone, and make myself feel very guilty because I am having nooky and he isnt!
Has any other ladies had this problem, and how have they delt with it, any advice would be appreciated.
Mrs Boofy
If it makes you feel guilty ............... then isnt that your answer?
Its a difficult question ...............
Is Hubby saying its OK, coz he feels bad?
I think you need a long, honest and very open conversation with your Hubby.
Surely he can dream up others ways to make you happy :rascal:
Good luck
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Just a short note to say thanks for all the advice, and to the single guys who have contacted me to offer their services!!!!!
The general consensus of opinion, posted on here and privatly, is to talk! let hubbie know whats going on, at all times and do nothing behind his back.
Thanks again to all who offered advice.
Mrs Boofy
The general consensus of opinion, posted on here and privatly, is to talk! let hubbie know whats going on, at all times and do nothing behind his back.
Thanks again to all who offered advice.
Mrs Boofy
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