Should The Guy Pay?

4 Dec 2004

: To pay or not to pay :?:
I think old school goes along with the gentleman paying for ladies. New school thinks it wins brownie points. But all in all who invites who out? Mostly the guy invites so is he expected to cover the expense? If he pays does that sugest he's somehow soliciting favours? If the girl pays half, does this mean she's cancelling out his horny moves?
After all that, I don't know. I always offer to pay, maybe it's a power and influence thing :twisted:

4 Dec 2004

Foxy, you're confusing making an effort with material goods and services. I've never had a "hair do" in my life, I've never waxed my legs, and I buy cut price undies. So what? I've met shit loads of blokes in all sorts of situations, and to be honest I don't think they even notice that I've spent zero dollars on my appearance. Maybe they do, but hey ho, I ain't listening lol

:lol: :lol: . There's more to swinging than how much money you've spent getting ready! Maybe that's important to make you feel good, but many others (male and female) don't need to do that before a meet.
You're also confusing the issue. As WBB said, if you want to spend that kind of money before a meet that is up to you. The fact remains that if you want to decide who pays for the cost of a room how much you've spent beforehand is irrelevant.
I'm finding it hard to grasp how many guys on this board think that they have to pay for rooms, but hey ho.... whatever makes you happy........... I still say the cark park is the best option, but that's just me :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Cut price, cheap and nasty, that's me..... but ho hum......... ain't it fun, fun, fun :twisted: :twisted:

4 Dec 2004

I suppoose some may think cheap and trashy is fun , U dont, dont do it dont want to. U want a man who isnt worried about spending knows which knife and fork to use, wouldnt touch a woman in cheap undies and basically can give me a bit of quality om all things - btw this isnt always to do with material waealth, just appreciation. Lets face it if you want a qucik screw of trash you ight as well just pop put to the local pub (with the beergut brigade), and not waste the hotel fee anyway.
Not my scene im glad to say and not what swinging is about to me.

4 Dec 2004

Fair enough foxy but don't judge others choices just cos yu wouldn't take them for yourself.

4 Dec 2004

Definately 50/50 for first meet. Have no problem with forking out if other person is brassic that week and vice-versa - if you are going to be good swinging pals then it evens itself out anyway imho!
Cathy x

4 Dec 2004

Quote by foxylady 123
I suppoose some may think cheap and trashy is fun , U dont, dont do it dont want to. U want a man who isnt worried about spending knows which knife and fork to use, wouldnt touch a woman in cheap undies and basically can give me a bit of quality om all things - btw this isnt always to do with material waealth, just appreciation. Lets face it if you want a qucik screw of trash you ight as well just pop put to the local pub (with the beergut brigade), and not waste the hotel fee anyway.
Not my scene im glad to say and not what swinging is about to me.

Do you know what, you can get quality undies for 99p on Wigan market. And what do knives and forks have to do with having a good fuck? Maybe there are things I shouldn't ask! :shock:

4 Dec 2004

Its all a question of not being beholding to anyone. You pay your way - everyones equal. Nothing to do with being a gentleman or chivalry, just good common sense.
Iâ€™m talking about initial meets or early stages â€“ friendships and relationships are different because trust has been developed

4 Dec 2004

Quote by foxylady 123
I suppoose some may think cheap and trashy is fun , U dont, dont do it dont want to. U want a man who isnt worried about spending knows which knife and fork to use, wouldnt touch a woman in cheap undies and basically can give me a bit of quality om all things - btw this isnt always to do with material waealth, just appreciation. Lets face it if you want a qucik screw of trash you ight as well just pop put to the local pub (with the beergut brigade), and not waste the hotel fee anyway.
Not my scene im glad to say and not what swinging is about to me.

Foxy, you say you don't like cheap and trashy, therefore spend a fair amount of money before a meet - as you stated, a lot more money than a man spends.
So are you saying you're not fussy on how well turned out a guy is? You are happy to meet a guy who buys his undies off the market, doesn't get his hair done, chucks on any old outfit that comes to hand??
If I was sooooo particular on how I prepared myself for a meet, what I bought especially for it etc .... I would be expecting the very same thing.
So therefore, expenses before the meet are roughly equal, give or take a tenner.
Hygeine and pride in apperance is important, but that's important on both sides - how much money you choose to spend on this is up to you, nothing to do with the meet, and certainly not classed as 'expenses'. Hygeine and pride in appearance are important to me regardless of a meet, every single day! I don't do it 'especially'.

4 Dec 2004

Quote by bluexxx
I suppoose some may think cheap and trashy is fun , U dont, dont do it dont want to. U want a man who isnt worried about spending knows which knife and fork to use, wouldnt touch a woman in cheap undies and basically can give me a bit of quality om all things - btw this isnt always to do with material waealth, just appreciation. Lets face it if you want a qucik screw of trash you ight as well just pop put to the local pub (with the beergut brigade), and not waste the hotel fee anyway.
Not my scene im glad to say and not what swinging is about to me.

Do you know what, you can get quality undies for 99p on Wigan market. And what do knives and forks have to do with having a good fuck? Maybe there are things I shouldn't ask! :shock:
i think foxy meant standards and a persons appearance such as clothes hair ect rather than wearing a load of old tacky shite that dont cost alot , nice clothes looking good ect gives you a boost of self confidence no mateer who you are

4 Dec 2004

Quote by guy4fun
i think foxy meant standards and a persons appearance such as clothes hair ect rather than wearing a load of old tacky shite that dont cost alot , nice clothes looking good ect gives you a boost of self confidence no mateer who you are

Which then brings the expenses to about equal ....... so therefore not worth mentioning in the first place

4 Dec 2004

Quote by guy4fun
I suppoose some may think cheap and trashy is fun , U dont, dont do it dont want to. U want a man who isnt worried about spending knows which knife and fork to use, wouldnt touch a woman in cheap undies and basically can give me a bit of quality om all things - btw this isnt always to do with material waealth, just appreciation. Lets face it if you want a qucik screw of trash you ight as well just pop put to the local pub (with the beergut brigade), and not waste the hotel fee anyway.
Not my scene im glad to say and not what swinging is about to me.

Do you know what, you can get quality undies for 99p on Wigan market. And what do knives and forks have to do with having a good fuck? Maybe there are things I shouldn't ask! :shock:
i think foxy meant standards and a persons appearance such as clothes hair ect rather than wearing a load of old tacky shite that dont cost alot , nice clothes looking good ect gives you a boost of self confidence no mateer who you are
I honestly can't see how the cost of underwear would have any bearing on my self confidence.
Confidence comes from within - not from knowing you spent Â£x on a basque instead of getting it from the market.
I buy what I find attractive and this doesn't mean going for expensive designer labels everytime.
But then again, I'm not after being romanced, wined and dined before I will have sex with someone. If I like them and we get on, woopee!
Never yet had anyone say "I see you're wearing expensive underwear. May I fuck you please" rolleyes

Nor have they refused because I'm wearing the latest item from Peacocks either :twisted:
Tracy-Jayne

4 Dec 2004

What is peacocks? like the sound of the end bit!!

4 Dec 2004

Quote by foxylady 123
What is peacocks? like the sound of the end bit!!

It's a trashy chain store selling cheap underwear rolleyes

T-J

4 Dec 2004

Quote by RedHot
But then again, I'm not after being romanced, wined and dined before I will have sex with someone. If I like them and we get on, woopee!
Never yet had anyone say "I see you're wearing expensive underwear. May I fuck you please"
Nor have they refused because I'm wearing the latest item from Peacocks either :twisted:
Tracy-Jayne

Me neither, in fact a black silky nightie I bought recently cost me Â£3 in Asda and was just as slinky as anything you could buy in Agent Provocateur.

4 Dec 2004

Well said Tracey_Jayne! cool

Some consumer TV programme or other showed that the public can't reliably tell between expensive "designer" garments and those that are "cheap and trashy" once the labels are taken off. Therefore, it is clear that the designer label and the price tag are irrelevant to everyone who doesn't believe in them. To be totally honest if I felt I needed a label to give me confidence in sexual situations I would not be swinging in the first place confused

:? :?

4 Dec 2004

Quote by bluexxx
May I fuck you please?

Jon said yes you can. He's ready and waiting . . . :twisted:
T-J

4 Dec 2004

Its got n0othing to do with labels, its the feel and the cut. guess you wouldnt know if youve never tried!!

4 Dec 2004

Quote by foxylady 123
Its got n0othing to do with labels, its the feel and the cut. guess you wouldnt know if youve never tried!!

I didn't say I've never bought any labels. Just that they don't make me feel any different than cheaper stuff rolleyes

Feeling sexy is not about having the latest label in my knickers :doh:
Tracy-Jayne

4 Dec 2004

Surely it should depend on the reason that you need a hotel ... if he is married and doing the dirty then it might be a good gesture for him to pay if he can't take you home ... and the opposite if it is vice versa ... but there should never be any obligation on either side, especially if one of you is a bit skint.
If I ask someone out to dinner then as I made the invite then I offer to pay ... if its a mutually arranged thing then I don't think it's bad for either party to contribute as much as they feel they can/want to.

4 Dec 2004

Quote by RedHot
Its got n0othing to do with labels, its the feel and the cut. guess you wouldnt know if youve never tried!!

I didn't say I've never bought any labels. Just that they don't make me feel any different than cheaper stuff rolleyes

Feeling sexy is not about having the latest label in my knickers :doh:
Tracy-Jayne
I never mentioned buying them they always feel so much better when someone else has bought them

4 Dec 2004

Quote by foxylady 123
I never mentioned buying them they always feel so much better when someone else has bought them

Ewwwwww noway!!!!! I don't like to feel bought whatsoever confused

4 Dec 2004

:doh: So that's what I've been doing wrong. Getting my gear from the charity shops (don't know if they're designer the labels are cut off - does designer make you itch like this) and shagging round back of asda's where we can at least root around the dumpsters for something to scoff after.
If I'd know this wasn't the way to do it we wouldn't have had the drunken rant earlier this week...tutt...tutt rolleyes

4 Dec 2004

Quote by foxylady 123
Its got n0othing to do with labels, its the feel and the cut. guess you wouldnt know if youve never tried!!

I didn't say I've never bought any labels. Just that they don't make me feel any different than cheaper stuff rolleyes

Feeling sexy is not about having the latest label in my knickers :doh:
Tracy-Jayne
I never mentioned buying them they always feel so much better when someone else has bought them
Well since I wouldn't let "someone else" buy me dinner, hire a room or pay for my underwear just for a quick shag, I wouldn't know dunno

T-J

4 Dec 2004

Quote by foxylady 123
Its got n0othing to do with labels, its the feel and the cut. guess you wouldnt know if youve never tried!!

I didn't say I've never bought any labels. Just that they don't make me feel any different than cheaper stuff rolleyes

Feeling sexy is not about having the latest label in my knickers :doh:
Tracy-Jayne
I never mentioned buying them they always feel so much better when someone else has bought them
So not only do you want the guy to pay for the hotel room, but you want him to buy you sexy undies as well? :shock: I have a feeling you may just be trying to stir up responses here :roll:
IMHO if 2 people are meeting up to play, then 2 people should be paying towards the cost of the hotel room. Simple as.

4 Dec 2004

I'm sorry, but this is starting to sound like a *how much an hour* thing going on here. That aint swinging. I could be wrong....

4 Dec 2004

So not only do you want the guy to pay for the hotel room, but you want him to buy you sexy undies as well? icon_ I have a feeling you may just be trying to stir up responses here icon_
What me!!!??????

4 Dec 2004

Quote by Libra-Love
:doh: So that's what I've been doing wrong. Getting my gear from the charity shops (don't know if they're designer the labels are cut off - does designer make you itch like this) and shagging round back of asda's where we can at least root around the dumpsters for something to scoff after.
If I'd know this wasn't the way to do it we wouldn't have had the drunken rant earlier this week...tutt...tutt

You do that too? :shock: And there was me thinking it was only us that did it that way :grin:
T-J

4 Dec 2004

I thought we all did rolleyes

4 Dec 2004

Quote by Libra-Love
I thought we all did

Sorry luv you got it wrong! Only those without pricey knickers do it that way. Apparently all the others get posh dinner and clean linen rotflmao

:mrgreen:
T-J

4 Dec 2004

The way I look at it, go for cheap knickers, then if they get nicked or lost or torn off it doesn't matter lol!